The Lesbian Polyamory Reader: Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Casual Sex

by Munson; Marcia

• ISBN13: 9781560231202
• ISBN10: 1560231203
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Nonspecific Binding
• Copyright: 1999-03-22
• Publisher: Routledge

Summary

In reading The Lesbian Polyamory Reader: Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Casual Sex, you'll quickly discover that the steps toward love and happiness are as easy as 1, 2, 3, and maybe even 4 or 5. And you'll find that if your own lesbian relationship lies outside the "traditional monogamous couple" model, you're definitely not alone. You'll explore many multifaceted and multifarious love relationships, each one applicable to your own liking, if you so choose. You'll find successful models of relationship styles--regardless of your own orientation--from cover to cover, and you'll discover the pleasing polyphony in the many, many female voices of authorities on love and love relationships. Whereas other similar studies project the limited view of one or two authors, The Lesbian Polyamory Reader calls upon a broad scope of writers, professional women and academics alike. You'll see that outside the gay rights movement that currently pushes for a traditional, monogamous marriage model of gay couplehood, there lies pleasing multiplicity in the arms and hearts of lesbians worldwide. Specifically, this collection offers: "first person" articles--stories that describe a variety of lesbian experiences relating to multiple lovers in the 1970s, '80s, and '90s "how-to" articles--descriptions of the various polyamorous relationship configurations, including ways of dealing with jealousy "theoretical" pieces--the history of multiple relationships, the social implications of practicing a love style other than monogamous coupling, and safer sex considerations Much, much more than a book on personal satisfaction, The Lesbian Polyamory Reader also focuses on the social implications of this love phenomenon, bringing it into a more inclusive circle of discussion for lesbians, educators, and students of sociology and sexology. You'll find satisfaction in seeing the love so many lesbian women have achieved by not mimicking the "marriage model" of living.

Table of Contents

Foreword: Rhomboid Pegs for Oblong Hearts	p. xv
Introduction: The Lesbian Polyamory Reader: Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Casual Sex	p. 1
Choosing Alternatives
The Polyamory Quilt: Life's Lessons	p. 11
If This Is Tuesday, It Must Be Dee ... Confessions of a Closet Polyamorist	p. 23
Lesbians as Luvbeins	p. 35
Patriarchal Monogamy	p. 39
Turning Down the Jezebel Decibels	p. 47
Poly Wants a Lover	p. 63
Friends and Lovers
Poly-Friendships	p. 71
Seven Poems for Three	p. 85
Addressee Unknown	p. 97
Bad Friend Book	p. 105
The Spontaneous Imaginative Life	p. 111
Living the Dream
Matriarchal Village	p. 125
A Boomer's View of Non-Monogamy	p. 135
Impossible Body	p. 143
Paradigms of Polyamory	p. 151
If Love Is So Wonderful, What's So Scary About More?	p. 157
A Long Journey Towards Polyamorous Bliss	p. 165
So Many Women, So Little Time
Kitaka's Experiment; or, Why I Started the Ecstasy Lounge	p. 179
("Denny's Tune") I'm Not Monogamous Anymore, But ...	p. 185
Dinah, Sam, Beth, and Jolyn Say	p. 189
Gays to Marry? Let's Not!	p. 197
Canary in the Coal Mine	p. 205
Safer Sex and the Polyamorous Lesbian	p. 209
Models of Open Relationships	p. 217
The Flexible House: A Fairy Tale	p. 227
Index	p. 235
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