Light Her Fire How to Ignite Passion, Joy, and Excitement in the Women You Love

by KREIDMAN, ELLEN

• ISBN13: 9780440212492
• ISBN10: 0440212499
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 1992-01-04
• Publisher: Dell

Summary

Whether your marriage is in the doldrums, your relationship is on the skids, or you're single and looking for love, Ellen Kreidman shows you how to become a world-class lover, the kind that plays for keeps. Here is a seven-step guide to real and lasting happiness that truly works! Discover: What turns her on -- and turns her off. What a womanreallywants -- no matter what she says! How to celebrate your differences. Fifty -one ways to keep her fire on high. How to express your love -- and have a sexy, marvelous time doing it. True intimacy in a relationship where the needs of both partners are met. How to become the only man she'll over want -- or need. Complete with Action Assignments and Confidential Advice on creating exotic adventures and an evening you'll never forget!

Author Biography

Ellen Kreidman, PhD, is the author of five books: Light Her Fire, Light His Fire, Is There Sex After Kids?, The Ten Second Kiss, and No More: How and Where to Meet Your Perfect Mate. Dr. Kreidman has sold well over a million copies of her books.

Table of Contents

A Noter from the Author	xi
Consider It a Compliment	xi
Acknowledgments	xv
Introduction	xxi
What About Us?	xxi
No Sign of Life	xxiii
The Challenge	xxvi
A Toast to Your Differences	3	(22)
An Evening to Remember	3	(3)
A True Partnership	6	(1)
The Never-Ending Journey	7	(1)
Differences Cause Growth	8	(2)
Accentuate the Positive	10	(2)
Turn Your Differences into Compliments	12	(3)
Why a Woman Falls in Love	15	(2)
She's Worth Eight Cows	17	(1)
A Father's Approval	18	(7)
From Her Point of View	25	(32)
Who Can Understand a Woman?	25	(2)
What Do Women Want?	27	(3)
There's No Comparison	30	(2)
What a Difference a Friend Makes	32	(2)
Prove Your Love	34	(1)
Little Things Mean a Lot	35	(6)
Pick It Out Yourself	41	(2)
Say Something, Notice Everything	43	(2)
The Five-Second Compliment	45	(4)
One Week of Giving	49	(3)
Verbalize Your Love	52	(5)
Listen with all Your Heart	57	(34)
Someone Talks, Someone Listens	57	(2)
Courtship Conversation	59	(2)
Why Did It Stop?	61	(2)
Thirty Minutes a Day	63	(2)
A Woman Is Like a Garden	65	(3)
Your Shoulder, Not Your Mouth	68	(5)
The Art of Listening	73	(1)
The Past Is Over	73	(2)
Don't Should On Me	75	(3)
Nonverbal Clues	78	(3)
You Thought I Meant It?	81	(10)
Nothing more than Feelings	91	(36)
Feelings Are Not Good Business	91	(2)
Sticks and Stones	93	(2)
Overcoming What You've Become	95	(1)
Sharing Your Feelings	96	(2)
Your Health Depends on It!	98	(1)
What Else Is There?	99	(3)
Your Unit of Worth	102	(3)
Your Are Not What You Do	105	(3)
Don't Apologize for a Feeling	108	(2)
Don't Bring It Home	110	(2)
Attack the Problem, Not the Person	112	(5)
Conflict Is Necessary	117	(4)
Take Care, Not Advantage	121	(6)
Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs	127	(36)
A Good, Hard Look at Yourself	127	(1)
An Inward Journey	128	(1)
Turning a Woman Off	129	(1)
Indecisiveness	130	(1)
Control	131	(2)
Sabotage	133	(1)
Jealousy	134	(2)
Blaming and Complaining	136	(2)
Self-Importance	138	(2)
All Work and No Play	140	(1)
Needing to Love	141	(5)
Turning a Woman On	146	(1)
Radiating Confidence	146	(1)
A Sense of Humor	147	(3)
Lean On Me	150	(3)
Support	153	(2)
In Touch with the Child Inside	155	(1)
Childlike Behavior	156	(7)
Romance Me	163	(46)
It's Your Turn	163	(2)
So You're Not Perfect	165	(2)
Biology Versus Psychology	167	(1)
Men Are Biological, Women Are Psychological	168	(1)
Emotional Versus Physical	169	(1)
Sex Is Giving	170	(1)
Attention to Needs	171	(3)
He's Visual---She's Verbal	174	(1)
Love to Have Sex, Sex to Have Love	175	(1)
Looking Forward to Something	176	(3)
Reconnect and Be Free	179	(2)
Take Me Away from All This!	181	(2)
Grooming Habits	183	(2)
Romance Means Touching	185	(3)
An Intimate Way of Relating	188	(2)
Fifty-one Ways to Keep Her Fire Lit	190	(19)
The Imaginative Lover	209	(22)
Pretending Has Its Rewards	210	(4)
Confidential	214	(1)
Be Her Fantasy	214	(4)
Let Your Mind Escape Even When Your Body Can't	218	(1)
Star in Your Own Created Role	219	(4)
Moving into the Bedroom	223	(3)
Where It's At	226	(5)
Love Is	231	(7)
Conclusion	238