Living With Add When You're Not the One Who Has It

by Handlin, Mimi

• ISBN13: 9781933265773
• ISBN10: 1933265779
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2005-09-01
• Publisher: Lightning Source Inc

Table of Contents

Introduction	1	(2)
About This Book	3	(2)
My Story	5	(4)
Prelude: You Locked Yourself Out Again? A Medical Explanation	9	(4)
I Think He Has It (For Readers with Undiagnosed Partners)	13	(12)
Approaching the Subject	15	(1)
Online Checklists and Questionnaires	16	(1)
How to Get Help	17	(2)
What to Expect	19	(2)
Resources for Learning	21	(4)
Issues Around the Diagnosis and Expectations for Change	25	(6)
Why Can't They Just Admit It?	27	(2)
Once He's on Drugs, Will I Feel Better?	29	(2)
Add Symptoms and Your Marriage	31	(12)
A True Story	33	(3)
The Value of Identifying Your Partner's Traits	36	(2)
One Side of the Coin: My Partner's Difficult ADD Behaviors	38	(2)
The Other Side of the Coin: Why I Love	40	(3)
Understanding Ourselves in the Relationship	43	(18)
Recognizing Our Feelings	45	(2)
Worksheet 4A	47	(2)
Separating Thoughts from Feelings	49	(2)
Worksheet 4B	51	(1)
Will the Real You Please Stand Up?	52	(1)
Worksheet 4C	53	(1)
The Receiving End of Their Anger	54	(1)
Worksheet 4D	55	(1)
Our Personal Boundaries	56	(2)
Worksheet 4E	58	(1)
Are You Doing It All?	59	(2)
Working It Out	61	(22)
How to Talk with Your Partner	63	(4)
Ground Rules Contract	67	(1)
Making It Fair	68	(3)
Who Did What	71	(1)
Shared Chore List	72	(1)
Rewards for a Job Well Done	73	(1)
Consequences of a Job Undone	74	(1)
Feeding Your Heart	75	(1)
Tips to Help You Set Limits or Just Say No	76	(3)
How to Dodge the Darts	79	(2)
Rehearsing Emotional Self-Defense	81	(2)
Survival Skills	83	(18)
Forgiving on a Daily Basis	85	(2)
Loving Detachment	87	(7)
I Can't Stand It Anymore	94	(4)
Do Something Now!	98	(3)
Thriving	101	(2)
The Importance of Your Own Space	103	(1)
Warning: Do Not Enter!	104	(1)
Developing Stress Muscles	105	(2)
Our Bodies Tensed and Relaxed	107	(1)
A Personal Definition of Relaxation	108	(1)
Meditation and Guided Imagery	109	(2)
My Special Place	111	(2)
Affirmations for Non-ADD Spouses	113	(3)
A Date with Yourself	116	(1)
Brief Actions to Find Slivers of Peace	117