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Phil keeps sending Ruth confusing signals about his feelings for her. He's romantic and passionate one minute, distant and retreating the next....Jack denies resenting Nora's rapid rise in the company. But when they are assigned to work together on a project, he neglects to give her crucial phone messages and undermines her with the client behind her back....Bob keeps assuring his wife he'll finish the painting job he began two years ago. But he never seems to make good on his word....
The catch-me-if-you-can lover...the deviously manipulative co-worker or boss...the obstructionist, procrastinating husband...all are classic examples of the Passive-Aggressive Man. This personality syndrome - in which hidden hostility lurks treacherously behind a cooperative mask of passivity - is afflicting men in ever-increasing numbers today and creating havoc in its wake, complicating and destroying love and work relationships. Any woman who's involved with a Passive-Aggressive Man knows how maddening his behavior can be. He seduces you into intimacy but never seems to fully love you back. He makes promises and reneges on them. And, feeling misunderstood and self-righteous, he turns your grievances aside...and inside out, accusing you of having the problem!
In Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man, clinical psychologist Scott Wetzler, chief of the division of psychology at Albert Einstein College of Medicine, guides women through the labyrinth of passive-aggressive lopsided logic and convoluted power games. Drawing upon numerous case histories from his own practice, Dr. Wetzler explains how and why the Passive-Aggressive Man feels, thinks, and acts the way he does; reveals why certain women always seem to fall for this personality type; and offers practical suggestions for healing problem relationships. After drawing an in-depth profile of the "P-A" and his ten key traits, Dr. Wetzler tells women how to avoid playing Victim, Manager, or Rescuer to the Passive-Aggressive Man; how to get his anger and fear into the open; how to fight fairly (and get him to also); how to make up after things have cooled down; how to help the "P-A" become a better lover, husband, and father; how to survive passive-aggressive game-playing in the workplace.
Living with a man's passive aggression can be an emotional seesaw ride. But now, armed with the new understanding and strategies you'll gain from this book, you can avoid the bumpy landings and learn how to deal decisively with this mystifying form of psychological sabotage.
