Make Peace With Anyone Breakthrough Strategies to Quickly End Any Conflict, Feud, or Estrangement

by Lieberman, David J., Ph.D.

• ISBN13: 9780312310011
• ISBN10: 0312310013
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2003-01-02
• Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin

Summary

Make Peace With Anyone is the first book that shows readers how to quickly resolve anything from a simple disagreement to a decades-long estrangement. In this book readers will learn: - How to end any family feud - How to deal with office tiffs - What to do when someone stops talking to you - What to say when you don't know what to say - What to do when you're in the wrong - How to deal with the teenage/parent conflict - Simple ways to deal with passive aggressive behavior - How to get two estranged people to begin talking again - How to get anyone to forgive you for anything - And much more. Using simple techniques and clear psychology, David Lieberman shows readers the path to making permanent peace.

Author Biography

David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., whose books have been translated into fifteen languages, is an internationally renowned leader in the field of human behavior. He has appeared on more than two hundred programs and is a frequent guest expert on national television and radio shows such as The Today Show, National Public Radio, The View, PBS, The Montel Williams Show, and A&E. Dr. Lieberman holds a Ph.D, in psychology and is the creator of Neural-Dynamics Analysis, a revolutionary short-term therapy. He is a sought-after speaker, lecturer, and consultant across a spectrum of topics. Techniques based on his work have led to groundbreaking advancements in numerous fields and are used by governments, corporations, and professionals in more than twenty-five countries. He lives in South Florida.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix
Introduction	xi
What this Book can do for you	xiii
A Note to Readers	xi
PART ONE THE CAUSE OF ALL ARGUMENTS, CONFLICTS, FEUDS, AND ESTRANGEMENTS
How It All Begins	3	(8)
The Conflict Recipe	11	(3)
The Psychology at Play	14	(8)
PART TWO THE SOLUTION TO ALL ARGUMENTS, CONFLICTS, FEUDS, AND ESTRANGEMENTS ... WITH REAL-WORLD. REAL-LIFE EXAMPLES AND SCENARIOS
SECTION I: Keeping Sparks from Becoming Flames: Put out the Fire Before it Even Begins by Handling Difficult People, Conversations, and Situations the Best Way, Right Away
Resolve Any Personality Conflict in Minutes	22	(5)
How to Ignore Someone's Advice Without Causing Hurt Feelings	27	(4)
In Business, Turn Any Complaint into a Plus	31	(3)
When Asked for Your Opinion: What to Say When There's Nothing Nice to Say	34	(3)
Handle Annoying Nonsense Criticism Smoothly and Simply	37	(3)
The Psychological Secret to Critizing Anyone About Anything, Without Ever Offending	40	(4)
Passive Aggression: The Thirty-Second Technique to Deal with People Who Won't Deal	44	(3)
The Secret to Handling the Person Who Is (Amazingly) Never Wrong	47	(6)
Special Techniques for Special People: From Neurotic to Psychotic, Getting Along with People Who are Emotionally Unwell	53	(5)
SECTION II: Putting Out Small Fires: Resolve Simple Disagreements and Arguments in Your Favor When You Get Anyone to See the Situation from Your Point of View
Get Anyone to Do or Not Do Something, Happily and Without an Argument	58	(6)
When You Both Want What's Best but Disagree over How to Proceed, Get Your Way, Right Away	64	(5)
``Two for Me, and None for You'': The Best Method to Divide Anything Fairly and Equitably to Avoid a Conflict	69	(7)
SECTION III: When You Mess Up a Little: The Psychological Secrets to Quickly and Easily Gain Forgiveness
``You Called Me a What?'': When You Say the Wrong Thing, Make It Okay in Less Than One Minute	76	(3)
Gain Forgiveness: When You Do the Wrong Thing and It Can Be Corrected, and When You Do the Wrong Thing and It Cannot Be Corrected	79	(7)
SECTION IV: When You Mess Up a Lot: Learn the Complete Psychological Strategy to Get Anyone to Forgive You for Anything: Whether You Lied, Cheated, or Stole, You Can Make Things Right Again, Fast
Get Anyone to Forgive You for Anything: Reestablish Any Friendship or Relationship When You Are Clearly in the Wrong: There's Some Interaction, but No Real Communication	86	(11)
Be Forgiven When You Do Something Clearly and Objectively Wrong and This Person Wants Nothing to Do with You	97	(3)
SECTION V: ``There's No Reason We Shouldn't Be Talking'': The Situation Just Got Out of Hand and Now You Want to Make Things Good Again
``This Is Silly!'': When a Recent Conversation or Situation Gets Blown Out of Proportion, Smooth Things Over Fast and Easy	100	(3)
When Time Has Passed and Nobody's Talking, a Simple Yet Fast Technique to Bring Back the Good Old Days	103	(5)
SECTION VI: You Can Be the Great Peacemaker: End Any Estrangement, Conflict, or Feud: When Nobody's Talking-Wheather It's Been Twenty Minutes or Twenty Years-Put the Past in the Past and Bring People Together
In Any Situation, Personal or Professional, Bring People Closer Together Who Have Either Grown Apart or Who Just Don't Get Along Very Well	108	(5)
The Rift: ``Let's End the Nonsense'': When They Drifted Apart over Something Minor or Now Irrelevant	113	(10)
The Estranged Relationship: ``It's Nothing You Did. I Just Don't Like You and What You Stand For'': Resolving Conflicts over Beliefs, Values, and Lifestyle	123	(11)
Facts and Fairness: What Created the Rift Is Still Relevant: When It's Everybody for Himself, Learn the Keys to Settling Any Deadlock in a Mediation, Arbitration, or Negotiation	134	(7)
The Family Feud Over $$$: End It Now	141	(8)
Help Anyone Gain Forgiveness: The Psychological Strategy to Get One Person to Simply Listen to the Other	149	(8)
In Case of Emergency: Seven Advanced Psychological Tactics for the Most Stubborn, Difficult, and Trying People and Situations	157	(5)
Bonus! The Nine Rules to Drastically Improve Any Relationship of Any Kind	162	(3)
Frequently asked questions	165	(6)
Conclusion	171	(1)
The Power of Persistence	172	(1)
About the Author	173