Making Judgments Without Being Judgmental: Nurturing a Clear Mind and a Generous Heart

by Cooper, Terry D.

• ISBN13: 9780830833238
• ISBN10: 0830833234
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2006-10-30
• Publisher: Intervarsity Pr

Summary

We have all felt at times that someone was unfairly judging us. Occasionally, we wonder if we have unfairly judged others. Perhaps we've even been accused of doing just that. We know the Bible speaks about making judgments, but what does it mean and how does it apply? Counselor and teacher Terry Cooper helps us distinguish between a faithful discernment of right and wrong, truth and falsehood while avoiding being judgmental. He also helps us better deal with others who are judgmental toward us and with our own self-condemnation.A wise and practical guide for sorting through the issues and for dealing well with others in situations where conviction and compassion matter.

Author Biography

Terry D. Cooper (Ed.D., Vanderbilt University; Ph.D., St. Louis University) is professor of psychology at St. Louis Community College-Meramec and adjunct professor of religious studies at Webster University

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	9	(2)
1 I'M JUDGMENTAL, YOU'RE JUDGMENTAL	11	(14)
Just When We Think We're Not Judgmental	14	(5)
Dealing with Judgmentalism	19	(6)
2 MAKING JUDGMENTS WITHOUT BEING JUDGMENTAL	25	(18)
Healthy Judgment vs. Judgmentalism	27	(10)
Critical Thinking vs. Thinking Critically	37	(2)
Reflective and Open-Minded vs. Sound Bites and Clichés	39	(4)
3 INSECURE ARROGANCE VS. CONFIDENT HUMILITY	43	(24)
The Controversial Issue of Self-Esteem	45	(6)
Grandiosity, Shame and Narcissism	51	(4)
From Freud to Kohut	55	(7)
Humble Self-Confidence	62	(5)
4 RESPONDING WITH JUDGMENTS VS.REACTING WITH JUDGMENTALISM	67	(12)
The Roots of Reactivity	67	(4)
Response-able Assertiveness vs. Reactionary Aggression	71	(8)
5 GUILTY JUDGMENTS VS. SHAMEFUL JUDGMENTALISM	79	(26)
Distinguishing Between Guilt and Shame	81	(11)
Shame as Judgmentalism Turned Inward	92	(3)
Three Ways We Disguise Our Self-Judgmentalisms	95	(10)
6 AUTHORITATIVE JUDGMENTS VS. AUTHORITARIAN JUDGMENTALISM	105	(16)
Pluralism, Radical Relativism and Conviction	110	(5)
Nonauthoritarian Conversation: Some Suggestions	115	(6)
7 "GRACE-FULL" LIVING WITH A CLEAR MIND AND A GENEROUS HEART	121	(14)
A Community of Grace	121	(7)
Conviction, Care and Speaking Up	128	(5)
Conclusion	133	(2)
Notes	135	(4)
Name Index	139