Marriage Mentor Training Manual for Husbands : A Ten-Session Program for Equipping Marriage Mentors

by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, Authors of The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring

• ISBN13: 9780310271659
• ISBN10: 0310271657
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2006-05-01
• Publisher: Zondervan

Summary

Everything You Need to Launch a Marriage Mentoring Program A sleeping giant is waking up in the church today-YOU-and thousands of couples like you who are making a huge difference in countless marriages. You've spent years learning how to make your marriage work. Now, as marriage mentors, you're ready to help other couples grow stronger in their marriages while taking your own marriage to the next level Designed by two of today's foremost marriage experts, this groundbreaking resource will train and equip you to help others weather the storms and build successful marriages. You won't find a more thorough, reassuring, and carefully designed approach for marriage mentoring anywhere. This kit includes a ten-session Marriage Mentor Training and Recruiting DVD, Marriage Mentor Training Manual for Husbands, Marriage Mentor Training Manual for Wives, hardcover edition of The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring, and softcover edition of 51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors. All items except DVD-ROM also sold separately.

Table of Contents

Introduction: The Giant Awakens	9	(2)
SESSION ONE: THE PRELIMINARIES	11	(10)
Should We Do This Training in a Group or On Our Own?	11	(1)
How Marriage Mentors Learn Best	12	(2)
How to Get the Most from This Book and Accompanying DVD	14	(3)
Marriage Mentor Training in a Group Setting	17	(1)
Marriage Mentor Training as an Individual Couple	18	(3)
SESSION TWO: THE BIG PICTURE	21	(8)
Overview of the Marriage Mentor Triad	21	(5)
The Structure of a Typical Marriage Mentoring Ministry	26	(2)
An Optional Assignment: The Bible and Mentoring	28	(1)
SESSION THREE: MARRIAGE MENTORING AS A MAN	29	(6)
Man to Man: How Your Gender Impacts Your Mentoring	29	(2)
A Personal Message from Les	31	(1)
Speaking Her Sympathetic Language	31	(3)
When It's Time to Mentor Man to Man	34	(1)
SESSION FOUR: ESSENTIAL SKILL TRAINING	35	(12)
Skill #1: Building Rapport	36	(4)
Skill #2: Walking in Another Couple's Shoes	40	(5)
An Optional Assignment: The Bible and Empathy	45	(2)
SESSION FIVE: ESSENTIAL SKILL TRAINING	47	(12)
Skill #3: Working as a Team	48	(5)
Skill #4: Agreeing on Outcomes	53	(6)
SESSION SIX: ESSENTIAL SKILL TRAINING	59	(10)
Skill #5: Asking Meaningful Questions	60	(4)
Skill #6: Listening Aggressively	64	(5)
SESSION SEVEN: ESSENTIAL SKILL TRAINING	69	(10)
Skill #7: Fielding Questions	70	(4)
Skill #8: Telling Your Stories	74	(5)
SESSION EIGHT: ESSENTIAL SKILL TRAINING	79	(10)
Skill #9: Praying Together	80	(5)
Skill #10: Staying Sharp	85	(4)
SESSION NINE: ESSENTIAL SKILL TRAINING	89	(6)
Skill #11: Being Yourself and Going with the Flow	90	(3)
Bonus Skill: Spotting Red Flags	93	(2)
SESSION TEN: THE NEXT STEPS	95
Choosing Your Personal Marriage Mentor Track	95	(2)
Developing Your Own Marriage Mentoring Style	97	(2)
Leading a Small Group as a Marriage Mentor	99	(1)
Recruiting Other Marriage Mentors	99	(1)
What You Will Find for Marriage Mentors at www.RealRelationships.com	100

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Marriage Mentor Training and Recruiting Leader’s Guide
Copyright © 2006 by The Foundation for Healthy Relationships
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Session one
The Preliminaries
Before You Lead
For the greatest experience in leading your mentor couples,
be
sure to look over a copy of both the Marriage Mentor Training
Manual for Husbands and the Marriage Mentor Training Manual
for Wives so that you’re well acquainted with the format. Familiarize
yourself with the session outline and gather the necessary
materials. Note: There is no video component for this session.
Session Outline (50 minutes total)
I. Welcome and prayer (5 minutes)
II. Icebreaker questions (10 – 15 minutes)
III. Course overview and exercises (20 minutes)
Schedule, format, materials, etc. (10 minutes)
Training exercise: Exploring Potential Fears .
of Marriage Mentoring (5 minutes)
Training exercise: Exploring Personal Hurdles
and Motivation (5 minutes)
IV. Question time and wrap-up (10 minutes)
Welcome and Prayer (5 minutes)
Welcome couples
to the group and pray to open the session. Time permitting, and depending on who is doing the training,
you may want to ask the pastor or appropriate member of
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the pastoral staff to offer a brief personal welcome and word of
encouragement.
Icebreaker Questions (10 – 15 minutes)
Direct couples
to the three bulleted questions on page 11 of
the manual. Have each couple
introduce themselves and briefly
answer at least one question of their choosing. Depending on
the size of the group, you may need to monitor time per couple
or break into smaller groups to ensure that everyone has an
opportunity to share.
Course Overview and Exercises (20 minutes)
This initial session is intended to provide everyone a look at
what is ahead for them in the marriage mentor training program,
including the overall schedule, individual session format,
necessary materials, and so on. Present the information contained
on pages 12 – 18 of the manual however you feel most
comfortable, whether by summarizing, reading portions yourself,
or having a group member or two do the reading. Don’t
assume that couples
have already read it. During this portion of the session, there are two exercises
for everyone to explore, both individually and as
a couple
(the first is on page 13, the second on pages
16 – 17). Introduce them to each exercise, explaining
that these are typical of what they can expect
throughout the training. Give them about five minutes
for each one — a minute or two for the on-theirown
aspect and the rest of the time for discussing
answers with their spouse.
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Question Time and Wrap-up (10 minutes)
Especially if there are no opportunities for questions during the
session itself, be sure to save a few minutes for this at the end of
each session. If you don’t have an answer to a particular question,
make note of it and try to have an answer by the next
session.
Ask couples
to read, if possible, chapters 1 – 7 of The Complete
Guide to Marriage Mentoring before the next session. Then
close your time together in prayer.

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