The Mars Venus Affair

by Perry, Wendell; Perry, Linda

• ISBN13: 9781567185171
• ISBN10: 1567185177
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2000-02-01
• Publisher: Llewellyn Worldwide Ltd

Summary

See how the heavenly placement of Mars and Venus at the moment you are born influences your sexuality and love life. Are you a Playful Sensualist or the Ultimate Powerhouse of Passion? Consult the table that tells you your special combination, and then read about how you tend to act in sexual relationships and why. Plus, separate fact from gossip as you peek into the love lives of 144 different celebrities.

Author Biography

Wendell Perry is an astrologer and a member of the International Society for Astrological Research. Linda Perry is a member of the International Women's Writing Guild.

Table of Contents

Preface	p. xiii
Introduction	p. xvii
Mars	p. xviii
Venus	p. xviii
Mars and Venus	p. xix
How to Find Your Mars and Venus Signs	p. xix
Case Histories in This Book	p. xxi
How Close Is This to "Serious" Astrology?	p. xxii
Mars in Aries: The Sexual Extremist	p. 1
General Characteristics	p. 1
With Venus in Aries: The Untamed Extremist	p. 2
With Venus in Taurus: The Undercover Extremist	p. 5
With Venus in Gemini: The Resourceful Extremist	p. 8
With Venus in Cancer: The Emotional Extremist	p. 11
With Venus in Leo: The Gilded Extremist	p. 14
With Venus in Virgo: The Everyday Extremist	p. 17
With Venus in Libra: The Loving Extremist	p. 19
With Venus in Scorpio: The Cunning Extremist	p. 21
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Hopeful Extremist	p. 23
With Venus in Capricorn: The Earthy Extremist	p. 26
With Venus in Aquarius: The Experimental Extremist	p. 28
With Venus in Pisces: The Delicate Extremist	p. 31
Mars in Taurus: The Sensualist	p. 35
General Characteristics	p. 35
With Venus in Aries: The Restless Sensualist	p. 36
With Venus in Taurus: The Complete Sensualist	p. 39
With Venus in Gemini: The Playful Sensualist	p. 42
With Venus in Cancer: The Sentimental Sensualist	p. 45
With Venus in Leo: The Sensual Show-Off	p. 47
With Venus in Virgo: The Naked Sensualist	p. 50
With Venus in Libra: The Sensual Idealist	p. 53
With Venus in Scorpio: The Sensualist of the Soul	p. 56
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Reluctant Sensualist	p. 58
With Venus in Capricorn: The Disciplined Sensualist	p. 61
With Venus in Aquarius: The Sensualist Without Limits	p. 64
With Venus in Pisces: The Supreme Sensualist	p. 67
Mars in Gemini: The Sexual Technician	p. 71
General Characteristics	p. 71
With Venus in Aries: The Technician of Hot Love	p. 72
With Venus in Taurus: The Technician of Physical Love	p. 75
With Venus in Gemini: The Technician of Cool Love	p. 77
With Venus in Cancer: The Technician of Obsessive Love	p. 79
With Venus in Leo: The Technician of Dominance	p. 83
With Venus in Virgo: The Technician of Real Love	p. 85
With Venus in Libra: The Technician of True Love	p. 88
With Venus in Scorpio: The Technician of Serious Sex	p. 90
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Technician of Joyful Sex	p. 92
With Venus in Capricorn: The Technician of Tough Love	p. 94
With Venus in Aquarius: The Technician of Transcendent Love	p. 96
With Venus in Pisces: The Technician of Enchantment	p. 99
Mars in Cancer: The Sentimentalist	p. 101
General Characteristics	p. 101
With Venus in Aries: The Swaggering Sentimentalist	p. 103
With Venus in Taurus: The Lazy Sentimentalist	p. 105
With Venus in Gemini: The Smooth-Talking Sentimentalist	p. 108
With Venus in Cancer: The Super Sentimentalist	p. 110
With Venus in Leo: The Controlled Sentimentalist	p. 112
With Venus in Virgo: The Sensible Sentimentalist	p. 116
With Venus in Libra: The Sentimental Perfectionist	p. 118
With Venus in Scorpio: The Ruthless Sentimentalist	p. 121
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Impatient Sentimentalist	p. 123
With Venus in Capricorn: The Hard-Nosed Sentimentalist	p. 125
With Venus in Aquarius: The Intelligent Sentimentalist	p. 128
With Venus in Pisces: The Irresistible Sentimentalist	p. 130
Mars in Leo: The Maestro of Love	p. 133
General Characteristics	p. 133
With Venus in Aries: The Maestro of Extreme Love	p. 134
With Venus in Taurus: The Maestro of Pleasure	p. 136
With Venus in Gemini: The Maestro of Amusement	p. 139
With Venus in Cancer: The Maestro of Emotion	p. 141
With Venus in Leo: The Divine Maestro of Love	p. 144
With Venus in Virgo: The Mundane Maestro of Love	p. 147
With Venus in Libra: The Maestro of Higher Love	p. 149
With Venus in Scorpio: The Maestro of Mystery	p. 152
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Maestro of Excitement	p. 155
With Venus in Capricorn: The Maestro of Pain	p. 158
With Venus in Aquarius: The Maestro of Enlightenment	p. 161
With Venus in Pisces: The Maestro of Dreams	p. 163
Mars in Virgo: The Back-to-Basics Lover	p. 167
General Characteristics	p. 167
With Venus in Aries: The Basically Bold Lover	p. 168
With Venus in Taurus: The Basically Beautiful Lover	p. 171
With Venus in Gemini: The Basically Brilliant Lover	p. 174
With Venus in Cancer: The Basically Bewitching Lover	p. 177
With Venus in Leo: The Basically Exuberant Lover	p. 180
With Venus in Virgo: The Most Basic Lover	p. 183
With Venus in Libra: The Basically Sociable Lover	p. 186
With Venus in Scorpio: The Basically Scandalous Lover	p. 189
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Basically Bountiful Lover	p. 191
With Venus in Capricorn: The Basically Prudent Lover	p. 194
With Venus in Aquarius: The Basically Rebellious Lover	p. 197
With Venus in Pisces: The Basically Vulnerable Lover	p. 199
Mars in Libra: The Perfect Lover	p. 203
General Characteristics	p. 203
With Venus in Aries: The Perfect Lover in Pursuit	p. 205
With Venus in Taurus: The Perfect Lover in the Flesh	p. 207
With Venus in Gemini: The Perfect Lover at Play	p. 210
With Venus in Cancer: The Perfectly Contrary Lover	p. 212
With Venus in Leo: The Perfect Lover on Display	p. 215
With Venus in Virgo: The Perfectly Practical Lover	p. 217
With Venus in Libra: The More Than Perfect Lover	p. 220
With Venus in Scorpio: The Dangerously Perfect Lover	p. 223
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Perfectly Adorable Lover	p. 225
With Venus in Capricorn: The Damned-Well-Better-Be Perfect Lover	p. 228
With Venus in Aquarius: The Universally Perfect Lover	p. 231
With Venus in Pisces: The Deceptively Perfect Lover	p. 233
Mars in Scorpio: The Powerhouse of Passion	p. 237
General Characteristics	p. 237
With Venus in Aries: The Pushy Powerhouse of Passion	p. 238
With Venus in Taurus: The Voluptuous Powerhouse of Passion	p. 241
With Venus in Gemini: The Impish Powerhouse of Passion	p. 244
With Venus in Cancer: The Profound Powerhouse of Passion	p. 246
With Venus in Leo: The Royal Powerhouse of Passion	p. 249
With Venus in Virgo: The Picky Powerhouse of Passion	p. 252
With Venus in Libra: The Polite Powerhouse of Passion	p. 255
With Venus in Scorpio: The Ultimate Powerhouse of Passion	p. 258
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Curious Powerhouse of Passion	p. 261
With Venus in Capricorn: The Earnest Powerhouse of Passion	p. 264
With Venus in Aquarius: The Extraordinary Powerhouse of Passion	p. 267
With Venus in Pisces: The Pulsating Powerhouse of Passion	p. 271
Mars in Sagittarius: The Love Child	p. 275
General Characteristics	p. 275
With Venus in Aries: The Daring Love Child	p. 277
With Venus in Taurus: The Lusty Love Child	p. 280
With Venus in Gemini: The Lighthearted Love Child	p. 282
With Venus in Cancer: The Temperamental Love Child	p. 285
With Venus in Leo: The Proud Love Child	p. 288
With Venus in Virgo: The Uncertain Love Child	p. 290
With Venus in Libra: The Starry-Eyed Love Child	p. 293
With Venus in Scorpio: The Naughty Love Child	p. 296
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Natural Love Child	p. 299
With Venus in Capricorn: The Conscientious Love Child	p. 301
With Venus in Aquarius: The Wild Love Child	p. 304
With Venus in Pisces: The Luscious Love Child	p. 307
Mars in Capricorn: The Slave of Love	p. 311
General Characteristics	p. 311
With Venus in Aries: The Combative Slave of Love	p. 312
With Venus in Taurus: The Stubborn Slave of Love	p. 315
With Venus in Gemini: The Sly Slave of Love	p. 318
With Venus in Cancer: The Moody Slave of Love	p. 321
With Venus in Leo: The Noble Slave of Love	p. 324
With Venus in Virgo: The Analytic Slave of Love	p. 327
With Venus in Libra: The Idealistic Slave of Love	p. 330
With Venus in Scorpio: The Salacious Slave of Love	p. 334
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Saucy Slave of Love	p. 337
With Venus in Capricorn: The Secretive Slave of Love	p. 341
With Venus in Aquarius: The Visionary Slave of Love	p. 344
With Venus in Pisces: The Succulent Slave of Love	p. 347
Mars in Aquarius: The Sexual Liberator	p. 351
General Characteristics	p. 351
With Venus in Aries: The Zealous Liberator	p. 353
With Venus in Taurus: The Lascivious Liberator	p. 356
With Venus in Gemini: The Liberator of the Mind	p. 358
With Venus in Cancer: The Lunar Liberator	p. 361
With Venus in Leo: The Grand Liberator	p. 364
With Venus in Virgo: The Friendly Liberator	p. 366
With Venus in Libra: The Loving Liberator	p. 368
With Venus in Scorpio: The Sexy Liberator	p. 371
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Liberator on the Loose	p. 374
With Venus in Capricorn: The Down-to-Earth Liberator	p. 377
With Venus in Aquarius: The Unlimited Liberator	p. 380
With Venus in Pisces: The Lyrical Liberator	p. 383
Mars in Pisces: The Love Addict	p. 387
General Characteristics	p. 387
With Venus in Aries: The Emphatic Love Addict	p. 388
With Venus in Taurus: The Cautious Love Addict	p. 391
With Venus in Gemini: The Artful Love Addict	p. 395
With Venus in Cancer: The Erratic Love Addict	p. 397
With Venus in Leo: The Autocratic Love Addict	p. 400
With Venus in Virgo: The Pragmatic Love Addict	p. 402
With Venus in Libra: The Faithful Love Addict	p. 403
With Venus in Scorpio: The Awesome Love Addict	p. 406
With Venus in Sagittarius: The Adventurous Love Addict	p. 409
With Venus in Capricorn: The Organized Love Addict	p. 411
With Venus in Aquarius: The Radical Love Addict	p. 414
With Venus in Pisces: The Fantastic Love Addict	p. 416
Appendix	p. 421
Mars/Venus Ephemeris	p. 423
Bibliography	p. 439
Index	p. 451
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Chapter One

Mars in Aries

The Sexual Extremist

General Characteristics

Mars in Aries Lovers often appear to be a bit out of control--that's just the way they like it. They enjoy getting carried away by sex, being swept up in its energy and physical urgency. You can't rankle Mars in Aries Lovers by saying that they don't know what they're doing. "So much the better," they will answer, for nothing takes the thrill out of sex more quickly for these Lovers than knowing where it will end or having everything under control. By their standards, good sex means losing control by creating situations in which his or her partner--and anyone else unlucky enough to get too close to the action--is sent headlong into a maelstrom of trouble and ecstasy.

    Given their headlong approach to love, it is not surprising that this Mars type often ends up in troublesome relationships. Once again, the Mars in Aries Lover will answer, "So much the better." This is a Lover who cannot abide being too comfortable. A relationship which has no contention, pain, struggle, or sorrow hardly seems worth pursuing. Thus, these Lovers are frequently found in impossible romantic situations, making one bad choice after another, but loving it.

    Why do they love it so? Why is it that they insist on arguments, trouble, and even pain in their sexual relationships? For Mars in Aries Lovers, sex that just feels good is a waste of precious time. Sensation for its own sake means very little to them and the joys of the flesh have only the most minimal allure. Sex must be coupled with strong emotions and extraordinary situations to satisfy these radical Lovers. There has to be drama: a sense of dire need, unstoppable passion, and impending drastic measures in order to lift sex out of the sensual commonplace and transform it into an experience worth remembering.

    These are competitive, challenge-oriented Lovers. Typically, they are drawn to the partner who is hardest to get--the one who initially says no or who seems most unlikely to respond. In some cases this competitiveness becomes a major handicap. It compels these Lovers to regard the people they sleep with as trophies and to measure their own ability as lovers solely by the number and variety of their sexual contacts. Sometimes this tendency to see love as a challenge can have happy results. It allows the Mars in Aries Lover to approach relationships with an excitement that is endlessly renewed. As long as the relationship is moving, as long as it is a constantly unfolding process or even an ongoing battle, these Lovers never lose interest.

    Mars in Aries individuals can be very desirable and active Lovers due to their fiery passions and endless hunger for excitement. Because their enjoyment of sex is more dependent on psychological factors than physical pleasures, these Lovers are also capable of withdrawing from sex for extended periods of time. It's not that they lose their capacity for passion. It's just that they can't get excited about sex that isn't wrapped in a challenge. Sex without fire is worse than no sex at all for these Lovers. But when the right kind of relationship comes along, it is truly amazing how quickly the fire reignites.

If you have Mars in Aries with Venus in Aries you are ...

the Untamed Extremist

You have no capacity for soft words or gentle persuasion. You win hearts with the explosive force of your ego or not at all. The intensity of your lovemaking, along with your aggressive, sometimes even belligerent approach to relationships, will likely frighten away many prospective partners. But those brave enough to weather the storms will find you a passionate, caring, and fiercely loyal Lover.

    The real problem in your sex life is finding a stopping place. You develop intense bonds with your sexual partners but you rarely give yourself a chance to stop and enjoy the fruits of these relationships. You are always moving away from, or struggling against, comfort and complacency. You are a restless and destructively inconsistent Lover who often has difficulty holding on to love, even with all your passion and loyalty.

Case History

Charles Baudelaire (French poet, art critic, and translator noted for his violent and extravagant imagery. Author of Les Fleurs du Mal). Born April 9, 1821, at 3 P.M. in Paris, France (de Jonge 1976) .

Baudelaire's father was an ex-priest who married late and died when Baudelaire was six. Left to fend for themselves, Baudelaire and his mother developed an extremely strong and affectionate bond. Unfortunately for Baudelaire, his beloved mother remarried. Baudelaire got along poorly with his stepfather and, for the rest of his life, resented his mother's defection.

    When he was eighteen, Baudelaire was kicked out of school because of his rebellious attitude. His stepfather sent him away on a voyage to the Far East but this only increased the angry youngster's eccentricity. When he returned, he quickly established himself as a dandy and a libertine. Clothes became his passion and he spent indecent sums of money on fine furniture, art, and the various accouterments of his new lifestyle.

    Baudelaire had inherited a small fortune from his natural father but, by the time he was twenty-three, half of his capital was squandered and he was beset by huge debts. His mother and stepfather had the wayward young man declared incompetent and gave control of his fortune to a trustee. This arrangement allowed Baudelaire a small income but did not address his debts. Baudelaire's finances remained a shambles for the remainder of his life. He was constantly harried by creditors and often forced to create new debts in order to keep old creditors at bay.

    Early in his career as a dandy, Baudelaire acquired an African mistress named Jeanne Duval. Duval was an actress of sorts who was noted for her sensuous charm. At first Baudelaire was able to keep her in a luxurious apartment but, when he was stripped of his money, he and Duval began living together in much reduced circumstances. Oddly enough, this shocking reversal only strengthened the bond between Duval and Baudelaire. They remained a couple for ten years. Baudelaire continued to give her love and support for the rest of his life.

    Duval was not an easygoing woman. She had no appreciation of the writer's new commitment to poetry and literature and she continually badgered him to find a better way of making money. Often Baudelaire had to work while she slept, or he stayed with a friend in order to escape her nagging. Duval also stole from her lover, lied to him, and was constantly unfaithful. However, Baudelaire seemed undeterred by the difficulty of this relationship. He celebrated Duval in his poetry as much for her coldness and cruelty as for her extraordinary sexual charms.

    Both Duval and Baudelaire had syphilis. It appears that the poet contracted the disease before he met Duval and possibly infected her. The disease slowly destroyed the health of both lovers, though the toll it took on the once beautiful Duval was perhaps more dramatic. However, it was not the sudden decline in her physical charms that caused Baudelaire to separate from his "black Venus." Rather, at thirty-one, he finally decided that Duval would never give him the peace he needed to work.

    Many of his friends observed that although Baudelaire loved to flirt and make sexual challenges to women, he held the sex act itself in contempt. Even though his poetry is filled with images of passionate sexual intercourse, his approach to sex was largely cerebral. He liked to go to the streets where prostitutes met their clients and coolly observe their transactions. Some of his friends went so far as to call Baudelaire a "virgin" poet, but there is ample evidence that, on occasion, the writer did more than just observe prostitutes.

    After his break with Duval, Baudelaire began to send anonymous letters and poetry to Apollonie Sabatier, the voluptuous concubine of a man of wealth. His correspondence contained gentle literary declarations of spiritual love, accompanied by a brutal fantasy of sadistic lovemaking. Sabatier was intrigued and, once Baudelaire announced himself, she was anxious to meet him in the flesh. After they met and had sex, the poet suddenly withdrew from the relationship, declaring that he could not continue loving her spiritually as his "white Venus" now that he knew her as a real woman.

    Baudelaire had a brief affair with an actress (who became his "green-eyed Venus") and tried once more to set up house with Duval, to no avail. At thirty-six he published Les Fleurs du Mal , a book of poetry which he had carefully put together in the hopes of making a literary coupe. Baudelaire planned to shock his audience with his unusual, violently sexual imagery and modernistic themes. Instead, the shock he expected turned into public outrage and Baudelaire was prosecuted as a pornographer.

    After the disastrous publication of Les Fleurs du Mal , Baudelaire returned to Duval. Her condition was worsening. He saw to it she was admitted to a hospital where her syphilitic paralysis could be treated. He continued to find comfort and a sentimental release in her company even though he could not bear to stay with her very long. When he was forty-one, Baudelaire also became paralyzed by syphilis. He spent his remaining years as an invalid, cared for by his mother. He died at the age of forty-six.

Other Examples

Karen "Isak" Dinesen (Danish writer whose novelOut of Africa recounted her impetuous love affair with a "great white hunter"). Born April 17, 1885 (Encyclopedia Britannica 1997) .

Orson Welles (actor and maker of the movie Citizen Kane who survived a volatile marriage with film star Rita Hayworth). Born May 6, 1915 (Celebrity Birthday Guide, 4th edition, by Axiom Information Services, Ann Arbor, Michigan, 1997) .

If you have Mars in Aries with Venus in Taurus you are ...

the Undercover Extremist

Yours is a difficult combination. A sensualist at heart, you don't really approve of the headlong recklessness of your sexual nature. You would like to slow down and give your senses ample time to drink in each erotic experience. But you find that your Mars in Aries nature runs well only in high gear and the more you try to control it, the more ungainly and muddled you appear. You are among the most practical Mars in Aries Lover but, unfortunately, your actions often give little evidence of this wisdom.

    On the positive side, in the right situation and with the right partner, your unique combination of sensual patience and volcanic passion can make you a gifted Lover. And there is a sweetness and soft conventionality about your sexual nature that allows you to get away with sexual extremes that might land other Mars in Aries Lovers in jail. If you can learn from your frustrations and build on your strengths, your capacity for erotic expression is unlimited.

Case History

Edward, Duke of Windsor (King Edward VIII--British monarch who stunned the world when he gave up his throne to marry an American divorcée). Born June 23, 1894, at 9:55 P.M. in Richmond Park, England (Higham 1988; Zeigler 1991).

It's probably safe to say that no king in the making has a normal childhood, but Edward's may have been more difficult than necessary. Both of his parents believed that duty came before love and they raised their eldest son accordingly. His father was particularly distant and authoritative.

    When Edward was eight his female caretakers were replaced by men in the hope that the constant exposure to manly virtue might cure the boy of his girlish sensitivity and emotionalism. As a result of this ploy, the Prince had little contact with the opposite sex during his early adolescence and remained painfully shy in their presence. As he grew older and developed into a small but handsome young prince, Edward's closeness to his male mentors fueled rumors that he was a homosexual. Actually, Edward showed little interest in sex of any sort until he turned twenty-two.

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Excerpted from The Mars Venus Affair by Wendell Perry Linda Perry. Copyright © 2000 by Wendell Perry and Linda Perry. Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.