My Fathers' Houses: Memoir Of A Family

by ROBERTS STEVEN

• ISBN13: 9780060739935
• ISBN10: 0060739932
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2005-04-13
• Publisher: HarperCollins Publications

Summary

Bayonne prepared me well for a larger life and a larger world. I knew who I was and where I was from. I was connected by innumerable little cords to people and places that gave me strength and identity. On The Block I was safe, secure, loved. I even had a number, 174, the address of our house, but the number wasn't a badge of anonymity. To the contrary, it marked my place, where I belonged. As moving as Russell Baker's Growing Up and Calvin Trillin's Messages from My Father , My Fathers' Houses is the story of a town, a time, and a boy who would grow up to become a New York Times correspondent, television and radio personality, and bestselling author. In this remarkable memoir, Steven V. Roberts tells the story of his grandparents, his parents, and his own life, vividly bringing a period, a place, and a remarkable family into focus. The period was the forties and fifties, when the children of immigrants were striving to become American in a booming postwar world. The place was one block in Bayonne, New Jersey, and the house that Roberts's grandfather, Harry Schanbam, built with his own hands, a warm and reassuring home, just across the Hudson River from "the city," where Roberts grew up surrounded by family and tales of the Old Country. This personal journey starts in Russia, where the family business of writing and ideas began. A great-uncle became an editor of Pravda and two great-aunts were original members of the Bolshevik party. His other grandfather, Abraham Rogowsky, stole money to become a Zionist pioneer in Palestine and helped to build the second road in Tel Aviv before settling in America. Roberts returns his saga to Depression-era Bayonne, where his parents, living one block apart, penned love letters to each other before marrying in secret. His father, an author and publisher of children's books, and his uncle, a critic and short story writer, instilled in him a love for words and a determination to carry on the family legacy, a legacy he is now passing on to his own children and grandchildren. Roberts, too, would leave home, for Harvard, where he met Cokie Boggs, the Catholic girl he would marry, and later, for the New York Times , where he would start his career -- across the river and worlds away from where he began. An emotional, compelling story of fathers and sons, My Fathers' Houses encapsulates the American experience of change and continuity, of breaking new ground using the tools and traditions of the past.

Author Biography

Steven V. Roberts is a professor at George Washington University.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	xi
1. A BOTTLE IN A BUCKET	1	(20)
2. OLD WORLD ORIGINS	21	(21)
3. BECOMING AMERICANS	42	(18)
4. LOVE IN THE RUINS	60	(17)
5. OUT WEST, BACK EAST	77	(15)
6. THE "TWINNIES" ON THE BLOCK	92	(20)
7. WARS AND WORDS	112	(17)
8. THE STICKBALL CHRONICLES	129	(18)
9. TOUGH TIMES	147	(16)
10. ABE AND BUSSY	163	(18)
11. NEWSPAPER BOY	181	(16)
12. BEYOND BAYONNE	197	(14)
13. WHERE'S HARVARD?	211	(32)
14. THE PERFECT GIRL 226 EPILOGUE: CROSSING THE RIVER	243

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My Fathers' Houses
Memoir of a Family

Chapter One

A Bottle in A Bucket

I still dream about Bayonne. Usually I'm back livingthere, often in the house where I grew up, a two-familyframe structure on a crowded block that ends at a lowbluff overlooking Newark Bay. All the houses on The Blockwere the same, about twenty-five of them, separated by alleysso narrow that you always knew what your neighbors were arguingabout or having for dinner. The Block was the center ofmy world for thirteen years, from my birth in 1943 until wemoved all of five blocks away in 1956, and it could have beena European village, on the top of a mountain, surrounded bymedieval stone walls. All the families knew each other,strangers were sparse, and you could walk to the shops aroundthe corner for most of your daily needs.

That's no accident, I suppose, since most of the families,including mine, were only one generation removed from their Old World origins, and they re-created the patterns oflife they had known in Poland and Russia, Ireland and Italy.There were a handful of Catholics on The Block, but most ofthe families were like us, Jewish people with roots in EasternEurope -- Lipkin and Lauton, Moritz and Hoch, Reznick andLevy. Some were manual workers, like my grandfather HarrySchanbam, a carpenter who had built the house we lived inwith his own hands. Some in the next generation had gottenan education and become professionals. Yale Greenspoon'sfather taught at the high school, Artie Schackman's dad wasa photographer. Many owned small businesses. The Pennersran a clothing store on Broadway where we bought our CubScout uniforms. The parents and grandparents of the girl Itook to the junior prom ran a hardware store. New York wasonly a short bus ride away, but "the city," as we called it, seldomintruded into our lives. Broadway and Forty-secondStreet in Bayonne (there really is such an intersection) waslight years away from the more famous corner just across theHudson River. My father commuted daily to "the city," wherehe ran a small children's book publishing company, but few ifany of my friends had parents who did that. Most peoplelived and worked, met and married, grew old and died, allwithin the confines of this urban village. Bayonne was notexactly Anatevka, and we didn't have any fiddlers on ourroofs, although we did have Mr. Friedberg, who deliveredseltzer to the door in blue glass bottles with silver spritzers.But when I saw the movie Avalon, Barry Levinson's ode to theJewish community of Baltimore, I felt a pang of recognition. In that movie the immigrant generation clings to the oldneighborhood and the old ways, and when their kids move tothe suburbs, the old folks find the adjustment disorienting.Bayonne, like Baltimore, was actually closer to the OldCountry than the suburbs were to the inner city.

Bayonne is a peninsula, about five square miles, surroundedon three sides by water: Newark Bay to the west, theKill Van Kull on the south, and the Hudson River on theeast. In fact, after we left The Block, I could catch a glimpseof the Statue of Liberty from my new bedroom window. ButI've never been there and I'm not sure why. I guess you don'tplay tourist in your hometown. During my childhood, youcould enter and leave Bayonne in only two ways—by citystreet to Jersey City and by bridge to Staten Island—so theword "insular" really did apply. I flew over it recently, headingfor Manhattan, and I was struck again by how distinctiveBayonne is. You can pick it out immediately from the air.And since it was such a separate and self-contained place, ithad a strong sense of identity. One public high school, onedaily newspaper, one downtown shopping district. To this dayI meet people all over the country who want to tell me abouttheir connections to Bayonne. My friend Barney Frank, nowa congressman from Massachusetts, who grew up there, sayspeople always talk about being from Bayonne because theyare "so proud of rising above their humble beginnings." But Idon't think that's quite right. I think it's because Bayonne is areal place, with a long history, dating back to its discovery byDutch explorers in the seventeenth century. It's not a fake city, bordered by arbitrary lines on a suburban map and bearingsome insipid variation of the name Parkforestglenwood.

It's also true that Bayonne has become something of ajoke, like Secaucus, employed as a punch line by comediansand cartoonists. One of my favorite references is a New Yorkercartoon showing a man sitting at a bar and saying to no onein particular: "I'm a citizen of the world, but I make my basein Bayonne." Jackie Gleason once did stand-up comedy atthe Hi-Hat Club in Bayonne, and his TV show The Honeymoonerswas loaded with local references. If he frequentlythreatened to send his wife, Alice, "to the moon," he oftenvowed to dispatch his pal Norton to Bayonne. My brotherMarc remembers Gleason portraying a pitchman in a TVcomedy skit. If you call in right away, he promises, and orderthe food chopper or vacuum cleaner he's selling, he'll throwin a free pennant from Bayonne Technical High School.Who could refuse that offer? The New York Times obituary ofthe comic Rodney Dangerfield noted that he got his startplaying "dingy joints" in places like Bayonne. As Dangerfieldhimself might have said, my hometown "gets no respect." ANavy ship was once named for the city, the USS Bayonne, butin the middle of World War II it was actually given to theRussians, who then scrapped it ...

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