The Overweight Child: Promoting Fitness and Self Esteem

by Pitman, Teresa

• ISBN13: 9781552094747
• ISBN10: 155209474X
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2000-03-01
• Publisher: FIREFLY BOOKS

Summary

Children, like adults, come in all shapes and sizes. Some are short, some are tall, some are thin and some are not. Because of society's obsession with thinness, being larger-than-average is difficult for youth. Most children are teased about something, and probably nothing hurts more than being teased about weight. It's painful for parents to see their child's self-esteem suffer, while they worry about the result of extra weight on their child's health.Parents can help overweight children cope by increasing their child's overall fitness level through healthy eating and added activity. Dieting and strict fitness regimes, which can be extremely difficult to impose on a child, are not the answer. Bolstering the child's self-esteem and to develop a positive body image no matter what size is the most important task.In The Over weight Child, Teresa Pitman and Dr. Miriam Kaufman, provide practical advice for parents and caregivers of overweight children. The authors examine the link between television and weight gain, offer suggestions for coping with teasing and negative feelings, outline kid-tested ways to improve fitness for the entire family, and even include recipes that everyone in the family can enjoy.

Author Biography

Teresa Pitman, a mother of four, has been writing about children and parenting for more than 15 years. She contributes regularly to "Today's Parent" magazine. She has also written several parenting books and is a certified Childbirth Educator and a La Leche League leader.

Miriam Kaufman is a pediatrician at The Hospital for Sick Children. A graduate of Duke University and Queen's University, she specializes in the care of adolescents. She is an associate professor at the University of Toronto, and a past chair of the Canadian Pediatric Society's Adolescent Medicine Committee. Dr. Kaufman is the author of "Easy for You to Say: Q & A's for Teens Living with Chronic Illness or Disability;" and "Mothering Teens: Understanding the Adolescent Years." She is the mother of a teen and a preteen.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments

Introduction

The Truth about Being Overweight

Why is My Child Overweight?

Teasing and Self-Esteem

Increasing Activity

Healthy Eating

Television

Don't Sweat the Little Things

Ten Things You Should Never Say to an Overweight Child

Ten Easy Ways to Reduce Fat

Ten Tips for Eating Out

Holidays and Special Occasions

Some Recipes to Get You Started a Further Reading

Index

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Excerpts

Introduction Come and sit with us on a bench outside an elementary school and watch the kids arriving on this spring morning. It's warm enough today that some of them are wearing shorts instead of track pants; some are walking, some are riding bikes, some are dropped off by their parents. We have a mixture of ethnic backgrounds here, and you can hear parents saying good-bye in several different languages.I can guarantee you that you'll also notice, if you watch for a little while, that children come in different shapes and sizes. See that group of seventh and eighth grade kids hanging around the baseball diamond? Some of the girls have been through puberty and are almost at their adult height; a few of the boys are tall, too, but most of them haven't yet had that growth spurt and they look surprisingly short beside the girls in their class.And now watch this group of girls walking into the schoolyard. Three of them are wearing shorts and T-shirts; the fourth is dressed in sweatpants and a loose sweater. It's obvious why, too: she's fatter than her friends, and even though she probably feels the heat more than they do, her desire to cover her body is stronger than her need to feel comfortable.She isn't the only child her size at this school. If you keep watching, you'll see many more -- and you'll notice some larger-than-average parents, too. just as any group of ten-year-olds will include some short ones, some tall ones and many in between, so children will range from thin to fat.The difference is that because of societal prejudices, being a fat child is a much more negative and painful experience than being a tall or short one. And it can be almost as painful for the parent who watches his or her child struggle against teasing from others, with the resulting damage to self-esteem. Parents worry, too, that the child will suffer serious health problems as a result of his or her weight.If you are the parent of one of those children, we hope in this book to offer you reassurance, solid information and practical suggestions.One of the things that has made this book difficult to write is the lack of neutral terms to describe the larger-than-average child. A smaller-than-average child can be slim, slender, slight, petite -- even thin or waif-like has positive connotations in today's society. But how do you write about the heavier child when every word that might be used has such strong negative connotations? Just listen to them -- fat, overweight, obese, heavy, chubby, husky.... Would you like to be described with any of those words? We remember hearing one child say that she was "fat-and-ugly" as though it were all one word. In addition, character traits are often linked to weight -- lazy, lacking willpower, slovenly, stupid. The words that refer to overweight are all ugly words.So how can we discuss this problem without a more neutral word to use? We've chosen, for the most part, to use "overweight" even though we don't like the connotations behind it -- that there is some perfect, ideal weight that every person of a certain height should achieve. We have plenty of research to share with you to show how wrong that concept is. But "overweight" seems to us to carry less of the intense negative baggage than other words like "fat" and "heavy."Our society is obsessed with weight and body size. This preoccupation is a serious problem. In a Chatelaine article on women's obsessions with thinness, the author, Suanne Kelman, interviews Jackqueline Hope, who is 5'7" and weighs 190 pounds. Hope feels comfortable and healthy at that weight and says, "I knew I was overweight but I really liked my body, and I couldn't understand why other people didn't. It was a pretty, Rubenesque body and it was mine, and I couldn't understand the hatred I would feel for it once I started to diet."Then Kelman comments: "No matter how hard I try, I can't understand Hope