Pacifiers, Blankets, Bottles, and Thumbs : What Every Parent Should Know about Starting and Stopping

by Mark Brenner

• ISBN13: 9780743243346
• ISBN10: 074324334X
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2004-06-22
• Publisher: Touchstone

Summary

Young children seem to form unshakable attachments to various objects -- blankets, stuffed animals, toys, television, even computers -- leaving parents to wonder: are these habits healthy? Which should be broken and how?

Author Biography

Mark L. Brenner is a marriage and family therapist, play therapist, and behaviorist. He is also a leading lecturer and founder of Parent Fitness Training, a workshop that increases parent performance in building up the parent-child relationship. He appears frequently on television and radio programs nationwide.

Table of Contents

A Note About the Use of Pronouns	xiii
Acknowledgments	xv
ONE What Are Transitional Objects?	1	(13)
TWO The Secure Base	14	(22)
The Meaning Behind Play	23	(2)
Inviting the Parent to Play	25	(2)
Types of Play	27	(2)
A Wireless Base	29	(2)
From Crib to Toddler Bed	31	(5)
THREE Regressive Behavior	36	(29)
Three Steps Forward, One Step Back	37	(15)
Encouragement vs. Praise	52	(5)
Eight Ways to Help Your Toddler Feel Bigger!	57	(8)
FOUR How to Set Limits	65	(16)
Setting Limits 66 Consequences	69	(10)
Children Know When They Misbehave	79	(2)
FIVE Pacifiers	81	(27)
Choosing and Starting the Pacifier	82	(5)
Pacifier Safety	87	(1)
Physical Effects of Pacifier Use	88	(5)
How to Stop the Pacifier Habit	93	(15)
SIX Bottles	108	(22)
Choosing and Starting with the Right Bottle	109	(2)
Bottle Safety	111	(2)
Physical and Emotional Side Effects of Bottle Use	113	(1)
How to Stop the Bottle Habit	114	(16)
SEVEN Thumb-Sucking	130	(17)
Starting the Thumb-Sucking Habit	131	(2)
Physical and Emotional Side Effects of Thumb-Sucking	133	(3)
How to Stop the Thumb-Sucking Habit	136	(11)
EIGHT Bears, Blankets, and Everything Else!	147	(15)
Choosing a Bear or Blanket	148	(1)
Early Attachments	149	(3)
Stuffed Animal Safety	152	(1)
Emotional Overattachments	153	(7)
The History of the Teddy Bear	160	(2)
NINE Television and the Internet	162	(18)
The Ultimate Pacifier	163	(2)
Television Can Be Positive	165	(1)
Emotional and Developmental Effects	166	(6)
Developmental Effects	172	(3)
The Internet	175	(1)
How to Limit Television Watching and Internet Use	176	(4)
TEN Licensed Merchandise as Transitional Objects	180	(4)
Character Assault	181	(3)
ELEVEN Adult Attachments	184	(9)
What We Attach To	185	(3)
The $176,000 Teddy Bear	188	(1)
Unhealthy Attachments	189	(1)
Common Attachments	190	(3)
TWELVE Save Your Child's Transitional Objects and Keepsakes	193	(3)
THIRTEEN A Summary of Child-Guidance Principles	196	(3)
Eleven Reminders for Raising Children	197	(2)
Bibliography	199	(8)
Index	207