That Parental 411 : What Every Parent Should Know about Their Child in College

by Watkins, Boyce D.

• ISBN13: 9780974263236
• ISBN10: 0974263230
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2004-08-31
• Publisher: Blue Boy Pub Co

Table of Contents

Table of Contents	v
Why I Am Writing This Book	11	(6)
How Do Our Lives Become Such a Darn Mess?	17	(6)
My Parents Fully Undressed	23	(12)
Breaking Down the Academic Problems	35	(12)
Cramming	36	(1)
Lack of academic preparation	37	(1)
Inconsistent study habits	37	(3)
Overconfidence and complacency	40	(7)
The Social Problems	47	(16)
Problems handling all the newfound freedom	53	(1)
Not learning to manage their time	54	(1)
Drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex and other collegiate vices	55	(2)
Following the crowd	57	(3)
The emotional roller coasters	60	(3)
The Frustrated Parent	63	(8)
Student Loans and Expenses Can't the Child Do Anything?	71	(6)
What can happen when a student has no sense of purpose?	77	(4)
Ways the Parent can Combat the Cramming Problem	81	(10)
How to Make your Child Prepared for College	91	(8)
A College Preparatory Curriculum	93	(1)
Help your child get mentally prepared for college	94	(5)
Building a Child who Studies Consistently	99	(14)
Why it is tough to be consistent	101	(1)
Teach them to think of school like a job	102	(1)
The ``Eat your vegetables first'' approach	103	(1)
Explaining the value of study location to your child	104	(1)
Help your child to hold him/herself accountable for their actions	105	(4)
Teach them the art of daily renewal	109	(1)
Understanding where habits come from	110	(3)
Combating Complacency	113	(14)
Prototype of the complacent student	114	(1)
The freshman year is not the 13th grade	115	(1)
Teach your child the values of a warrior	116	(1)
Teach them the true meaning of greatness	116	(2)
Don't accept lower standards!	118	(2)
Keep the pressure down	120	(2)
Teach them principles	122	(5)
Getting Your Child Ready for the ``Great Freedom Ride''!	127	(18)
Let them make decisions for themselves	129	(1)
Your child is not your employee	130	(1)
Teach them the word ``Moderation''	131	(2)
An ounce of prevention	133	(2)
The slow, winding road of academic misery	135	(1)
What you should know about professors	136	(2)
Don't forget your rights	138	(1)
Why goal setting is important	138	(4)
The wisdom of life	142	(3)
Time is More Valuable Than Money, Teach This To Your Kids First!	145	(12)
The Free Cash Flow Theory	146	(3)
If the child keeps slipping, let them taste the real world	149	(2)
Whose Loan is it anyway?	151	(1)
Teach them to account for their time	152	(5)
Drinking, Drugs and All the Other Collegiate Vices	157	(10)
Prepare your kids for this stuff before they leave for campus	159	(2)
Do not accept ``tradition'' if it does not make sense	161	(1)
The growth of Gambling	162	(2)
Ways to monitor your child's behavior	164	(3)
Sex: The Greal Extracurricular	167	(8)
Teach them the value of moderation	169	(1)
Being a Virgin and Proud of It	170	(1)
Teaching them how the opposite sex operates (Sharing your wisdom)	170	(2)
Promoting Good Sexual Health	172	(3)
Supporting Your Child as They Go through Academic Hardship	175	(16)
Don't be so quick to blame yourself	176	(1)
Have the student think about what happened and why they struggled	177	(2)
Force them to come up with a plan	179	(1)
Demand a balanced performance	180	(1)
Being hard and soft at the same time	181	(1)
Does your child go see the professor?	182	(3)
Ways to get a tutor if you don't have a lot of money	185	(2)
Repeating classes	187	(2)
Academic Bankruptcy	189	(2)
Following the Crowd	191	(6)
Have your child read a book about college before they arrive	193	(1)
Teach them the power of independent thinking	194	(1)
Let them feel the burn from their mistakes	195	(1)
Be able to forgive, don't nag	196	(1)
Summers: What Should your Kids Be Doing With Them?	197	(6)
Things that your Daughters Need to Know	203	(8)
If she is out on a date with a guy that she hardly knows, get her to take a friend with her	204	(1)
If she chooses to drink, tell her that she should not drink anything that she did not make herself or watch someone else make in public	205	(1)
When she goes out at night, she should not walk across campus alone	205	(1)
College guys can be liars sometimes	206	(1)
Tell her where the rape counseling and Planned Parenthood Offices are	207	(1)
Keep your own condoms, never take it off	208	(3)
What You Should Tell Your Son	211	(8)
Promiscuity is a good way to end up in some bad situations	212	(2)
No means no!	214	(1)
Always carry condoms and never take them off	215	(1)
Avoid violence at all costs	216	(1)
Choose the right guys to run around with	217	(2)
What if Your Child Wants to Move Off Campus?	219	(6)
Con #1: Isolation	221	(1)
Con #2: No one is going to manage your bills for you anymore	221	(1)
Making sure that your child is prepared	222	(3)
That Good Ol Fashioned Collegiate Drama Dealing with Emotional Crises	225	(6)
Be there for them as much as you can	226	(1)
Don't panic and let it ride itself out	227	(1)
Remind them where their rocks are	228	(1)
If it's too serious, encourage counseling	228	(3)
Teach Your Child the Value of Their Opportunities	231	(6)
Show them the output	232	(1)
Let them meet a ``Halfling''	233	(2)
Teach them how to respond to failure and disappointment	235	(1)
Make them pay something toward their education	236	(1)
Is Your Child an Athlete?	237	(10)
The love that the university shows your child is probably fleeting	239	(2)
Academic scholarships are almost always better than athletic ones	241	(1)
Check the graduation rates of the schools you are considering	241	(1)
Make sure that your child chooses their own major	242	(2)
Get in touch with an ex-athlete or two	244	(1)
Prepare them for the real world	245	(2)
The 411	247	(27)
What professors want from students	248	(3)
What professors want from parents	251	(2)
Mistakes that parents make when dealing with their college-age children	253	(4)
The inside scoop on what goes on in college	257	(3)
What you might want to know about professors and the classroom	260	(6)
What parents of minority students need to know	266	(2)
My last few pieces of advice	268	(2)
Some Collegiate Vices	270	(2)
Eight things every parent should do before their child leaves for college	272	(2)
About The Author	274	(1)
Order Form	275