Parenting By Heart How To Be In Charge, Stay Connected, And Instill Your Values, When It Feels Like You've Only Got 15 Minutes A Day

by Taffel, Ron; Blau, Melinda

• ISBN13: 9780738205991
• ISBN10: 0738205990
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2002-01-04
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

Summary

How do you help your child open up to you? With so little time in a busy day, how can a parent find that elusive "quality" time? What discipline techniques work for young children, and why?An empowering book that emphasizes real-life parenting situations and practical, compassionate solutions, Parenting by Heart is filled with specific advice tried by thousands of families. Showing what actually works rather than what theoretically "should" work, here are hundreds of step-by-step, tested solutions that will help make parents feel more confident about how to instill values, be in charge, and stay connected with today's kids in these modern and often difficult times.

Author Biography

Ron Taffel, Ph.D., wrote the monthly column The Confident Parent for Rosie Magazine and is Director of Family Treatment at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in New York. He has been in family and child practice for over twenty years, has given hundreds of parenting workshops around the country, and has appeared as a parenting expert on national television and radio.

Table of Contents

Preface to the second edition	ix
Preface	xii
Acknowledgments	xiv
I Basic Myths and a New Framework
The Myth of the Overinvolved Mother and the Underinvolved Father	3	(15)
The Myth of the ``In-Charge'' Parent	18	(8)
Mutant Ninja Turtles and Other Uninvited Houseguests
The Myth of Parent-Child Harmony	26	(17)
Why Children Never Let Up on Us and Why They Need Us to Stay Connected
The Myth of Child Development	43	(30)
Why Parents and Children Need to Connect Differently at Different Ages
The Myth of ``Between You and Your Child''	73	(26)
How the Family Dance Comes Between You and Your Child
II Everyday Myths and Everyday Skills
The Myth of Sensitivity	99	(24)
How to Help Your Child Open Up Without Turning Yourself into a Therapist
The Myth of Quality Time	123	(22)
How to Use Everyday Drudgery to Promote Your Child's Growth
The Myth of the Angry Parent	145	(18)
What Your Anger Is Really About and How to Cut Down on ``Losing It''
The Myth of Consistency	163	(25)
Why No Discipline Technique Works for More than Three Days and What You Can Do About It
The Myth of the Fair Parent	188	(31)
How to Use Bribery, Threats, Guilt, and Other ``Dirty'' Tricks to Help Your Child Become a Better Person
The Myth of The Self-Sufficient Parent	219	(24)
How to Connect with Other Families Before There's a Crisis
The Myth of the Wise Parent	243	(27)
How to Deal with a Dozen Impossible Situations That You Can't Possibly Solve
The Myth of Parenting Without Faith	270	(16)
Why Old-Fashioned Values Will Always Have a Place in Modern Parenting
Conclusion	286	(5)
Index	291