Parenting Teens With Love & Logic

by Cline, Foster W.; Fay, Jim

• ISBN13: 9780891096955
• ISBN10: 0891096957
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 1993-07-01
• Publisher: Navpress Pub Group

Summary

A unique approach to dealing with the turmoil of adolescence that recognizes that teens learn best when they're allowed to make choices and learn from the consequences. The trick is in setting up choices so the consequences are constructive.

Author Biography

Foster Cline, M.D., is an internationally recognized physician and adult and child psychiatrist who has successfully parented his own four children through the adolescent years. He is a consultant to mental health organizations, school systems, and business and parent groups across North America. He specializes in working with difficult children and is the founder of Evergreen Consulants in Evergreen, Colorado. Jim Fay has 31 years of experience as an educator and school principal. He is recognized as one of America's top educational consultants and has won many awards in the educational field. He successfully guided his three children through their teen years using love and logic.

Table of Contents

Introduction	11	(19)
PART ONE: LOVE AND LOGIC PARENTS GROW UP
Teenagers 101: Welcome to Parenting Graduate School	19	(10)
Who's in Charge Here?	20	(1)
A Change of Tactics	21	(2)
The Times They Are a'Changing	23	(2)
Braving the Brave New World	25	(2)
A Reason for Hope	27	(2)
Love-and-Logic Parenting: Will It Work with Teenagers?	29	(12)
Helicopter Parents	30	(2)
Drill Sergeant Parents	32	(2)
The Consultant Parent	34	(4)
The Love-and-Logic Way	38	(3)
Back to the Basics, Part One: Training Teens to Act Responsibly	41	(14)
Basic Self-Concept-Who Am I?	41	(4)
Love-and-Logic Principle: Responsible Teens Feel Good About Themselves	45	(3)
Love-and-Logic Principle: Responsibility Is Caught, Not Taught	48	(3)
Love-and-Logic Principle: Let Teens Own Their Problems and Their Solutions	51	(4)
Back to the Basics, Part Two: Treating Teens as Responsible Adults	55	(22)
Love-and-Logic Principle: Gaining Control Through Choices	56	(10)
Love-and-Logic Principle: Sharing Control Through Thinking Words	66	(5)
Love-and-Logic Principle: Consequences and Sorrow	71	(2)
Love-and-Logic Principle: Building a Lifelong Relationship	73	(4)
PART TWO: LIVING ON THE EDGE: THE WILD AND WONDERFUL CHALLENGES OF PARENTING TEENAGERS
Fasten Your Seat Belt and Enjoy the Ride	77	(18)
Why Parents Should Relax	78	(4)
Some Things Parents Need to Understand	82	(1)
Three Types of Teens	83	(11)
Again, Relax	94	(1)
Understanding Teens from the Inside Out: Internal Changes in Adolescence	95	(20)
Changes in Thinking	97	(3)
Physical Changes	100	(3)
Teaching Youths About Sex	103	(4)
Psychological Changes (Changes in Values)	107	(3)
Dealing with Rebellion	110	(3)
Let Them Go and Let Them Grow	113	(2)
Understanding Teens from the Outside In: External Changes in Adolescence	115	(20)
The Pressure of Social Change	117	(2)
Different Circumstances, Same Needs	119	(2)
What's Different Today	121	(1)
Pressures from Outside the Home	122	(5)
Riding the Waves of Trends	127	(2)
Pressures from Inside the Home	129	(4)
Save Your Emotional Energy	133	(2)
Ready, Set-Off into the Real World	135	(124)
Welcome to the Real World	136	(1)
Techniques for World-Wise Teens	137	(6)
Parenting Perspectives on Real-World Readiness	143	(9)
Ready, Set, Go!	152	(5)
PART THREE: LOVE-AND-LOGIC PARENTING PEARLS
Acne	157	(2)
Aggressive Behavior	159	(2)
Appearance: Clothing, Hairstyle, and Other Surprises	161	(5)
Arguments	166	(3)
Back in the Nest: If an Older Child Needs to Move Home	169	(2)
Backtalk	171	(4)
Cars, Driving, and Catching Rides	175	(4)
College Expenses: Who Pays?	179	(2)
Crisis Situations	181	(3)
Curfews	184	(4)
Dating	188	(4)
Disrespect	192	(3)
Drug or Substance Abuse	195	(5)
Eating Disorders	200	(2)
Friends and Peer Pressure	202	(3)
Grades	205	(4)
Grounding	209	(2)
Jobs	211	(3)
Mood Swings	214	(2)
Music	216	(3)
Orders: To Give or Not to Give	219	(4)
Parties	223	(2)
Professional Help: When to Seek It	225	(2)
Runaways	227	(4)
Satanism and Religious Cults	231	(4)
Sex	235	(4)
The Silent Treatment	239	(2)
Social and Extracurricular Activities	241	(3)
Sports	244	(3)
Suicide Threats	247	(3)
The Telephone	250	(4)
Video Games	254	(2)
Violence: Bullies and Gangs	256	(3)
Index	259