Parents, Teens and Sex: The Big Talk Book : 10 Steps to Empower Your Teen to Choose the Best - Abstinence Until Marriage

by Cook, Bruce

• ISBN13: 9780972489065
• ISBN10: 0972489061
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2003-09-01
• Publisher: Independent Pub Group

Summary

"Providing a road map for parents to influence and empower teens to choose abstinence, this guide shows parents how to talk confidently about the benefits of abstaining from premarital sex. Tips are included on how parents, mentors, and educators can begin a continuing discussion on the reality of sex, from explaining the emotional and physical risks of sexual activity to ideas for helping teens to recognize the difference between infatuation and true love. Interactive discussion guides are included that facilitate open and honest communication about building self-esteem, establishing boundaries, and learning refusal skills. Interviews with teens who have chosen abstinence are included."

Table of Contents

Introduction: You Are More Important Than You Think!	vii
Be Informed
Things Really Have Changed!	1	(16)
The Really Bad News i Five Influences on Teen Sexual Activity
Explain the Risks
What They Don't Know Can Kill Them	17	(18)
The Emotional Risks
The Pregnancy Risk
The Risks of STDs and HIV/AIDS
Be Committed
Mixed Messages Don't Work	35	(16)
The ``Safe-Sex'' Message
``Safe Sex'' Oversells the Effectiveness of Condoms
What Does It Mean to Be Abstinent?
Stress the Rewards
Abstinence Allows for a Promising Future	51	(14)
The Reward of Achieving Goals
See It! State It! Start It!
The Reward of Attaining Personal Freedom
The Reward of a Happy Marriage
The Reward of a Commitment to Abstinence
Be There
Being Present in Mind and Body	65	(22)
Not Being There Physically
Home, but Not Present
Five Fatal Excuses Parents Give for Not Being Totally There
Five Tips for Being There for Your Teen
Build Self-Esteem
Communicating ``You Are Special and Significant''	87	(18)
How to Build Self-Esteem
The Affirmation Angle
The Affection Angle
The Achievement Angle
Talk About Relationships
``How Do I Know When I'm in Love?''	105	(16)
Does Sex Equal Love?
Four Differences in Relationships
The Cohabitation Scene
The Real Value of Sex
Establish Rules and Boundaries
Freedom within Boundaries	121	(20)
10 Rules That Bring Freedom
What Happens When Rules Are Broken?
Teach Refusal Skills
``Learning How to Say ``NO''	141	(14)
Peer Proofing Your Teen - Set It! Say It! Show It!
Practice Unconditional Love
What to Do When Nothing Else Works	155	(18)
What Doesn't Work
Consequences and Compassion
Four Principles for Putting Unconditional Love into Practice
Endnotes	173	(14)
Appendix A Choosing the Best Parent Training Program Presentation Outline	187	(24)
Appendix B Choosing the Best Teen Survey	211	(10)
Appendix C Choosing the Best School Curriculum for Grades 6-12	221	(6)
Appendix D Sexually Transmitted Diseases (photos)	227