The Pathways to Peace Anger Management Workbook

by Fleeman, William

• ISBN13: 9780897934176
• ISBN10: 0897934172
• Edition: Workbook
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2003-06-05
• Publisher: Hunter House

Summary

All over the world, thousands of people are verbally abused, physically assaulted, maimed or murdered every day because of anger and rage. Families are ruined, marriages ended, children traumatized, careers lost, opportunities missed and personal and public property destroyed. The habit of anger abuse is one that is reinforced socially. People learn to abuse anger from the examples set by parents, peers and the media. This workbook, the official text for the self-help anger management program of the same name, helps people to unlearn these destructive patterns. It shows chronically angry people how to replace their anger habit with peaceful alternatives and respond to their anger triggers in nonviolent ways. The program outlined in this workbook will help readers discover how they learned their anger pattern, focus on values and goals that support a rage-free lifestyle, and learn skills that will help them avoid relapsing into angry behavior. The workbook has eighteen sessions, each complete with personal stories and questions designed to help the reader understand their past experiences and how to move forward. The Pathways to Peace Anger Management Workbook provides real answers for men and women who know that they have an anger problem and are looking for positive change. Book jacket.

Author Biography

William Fleeman is a writer, trainer, teacher and the founder of the Pathways to Peace self-help program for anger management and violence prevention. Mr. Fleeman is also an expert in the field of chemical dependency. He lives in Western New York with his wife Janet and their cat, Shadow

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. 1
How Long Will It Take to Complete the Workbook?	p. 1
How Long Will It Take to Heal from Anger and Rage?	p. 2
The Problem	p. 2
Pathways to Peace: A Solution	p. 2
A Message to the Person Struggling to Change	p. 2
Understand the Problem	p. 5
The Self-Assessment Process	p. 6
Pathways to Peace Founder's Story	p. 6
The Importance of Self-Honesty	p. 18
Writing Your Story	p. 20
My Story	p. 21
Self-Test	p. 29
Anti-Violence Self-Agreement	p. 30
Understand the Nature of Anger, Rage, and Violence	p. 31
Normal Anger vs. Problem or Addictive Anger	p. 31
What Is Violence?	p. 34
How Anger Is Like a Drug	p. 36
Excessive Anger as Learned Behavior	p. 37
Styles of Anger	p. 39
The Masks Anger Wears	p. 40
Anger and Grief	p. 42
The Roots of Anger, Rage, and Violence	p. 45
Understand the Process of Recovery	p. 47
The Eight Parts of the Whole Self	p. 48
The Biological Part	p. 50
The Environmental Part	p. 51
The Behavior (Action) Part	p. 53
The Skill Part (Learning)	p. 54
The Values/Goals Part	p. 55
The Beliefs Part	p. 57
The Mission Part	p. 58
The Spiritual Part	p. 59
The Eight Steps of the Recovery Process	p. 61
The Admission Step	p. 62
	p. 62
Take Responsibility	p. 64
	p. 64
Realize That Violence Is Never Justified	p. 67
	p. 67
Learn New Ways to Feel Powerful	p. 69
	p. 69
Treat People and Property with Respect	p. 70
	p. 70
Change Negative Beliefs into Positive Beliefs	p. 71
	p. 71
Find Your Purpose	p. 72
	p. 72
Transformation	p. 73
	p. 73
Motivate Yourself to Change	p. 75
The Motivation Script	p. 76
Understand the Anger Process Using the Niagara Falls Metaphor	p. 82
A Little Bit About the Niagara Falls	p. 82
The Niagara Falls Metaphor	p. 85
The Five Stages of the Anger Process	p. 86
Interrupt the Process	p. 94
Will You Ever Forget Your Anger Habit?	p. 94
Three Steps to Interrupt the Anger Process	p. 96
Change Your Behavior	p. 103
Basic Considerations	p. 104
Nutrition	p. 104
Sleep and Rest	p. 105
Physical Exercise	p. 105
Relaxation	p. 106
Maintain a Schedule	p. 109
Skills	p. 111
Maintain a Positive Mental Focus	p. 111
The Skills	p. 113
What to Avoid	p. 123
Avoid Alcohol and Other Drugs	p. 123
Avoid Places Where Heavy Drinking or Drug Use Takes Place	p. 125
Avoid the Use of Anabolic Steroids (Growth Drugs)	p. 126
Avoid Other People Who Have Problems with Anger and Rage	p. 127
Avoid Watching Violence in the Media	p. 128
Avoid Venting	p. 129
Avoid Guns	p. 130
Special Methods and Skills for Managing Anger	p. 132
Anger Cues	p. 132
Deal with Stubborn Memory Cues	p. 133
Learn to Change Your Posture, Breathing, and Voice	p. 136
Recite a Brief Poem or Prayer	p. 138
Read a Joke Book or Scan a Book of Cartoons	p. 138
Aggression vs. Assertiveness	p. 140
Take a Respite	p. 143
Go to a Pathways to Peace Meeting	p. 145
Establish and Use an Empowerment Cue or an Aversion Cue	p. 145
Change Your Mind	p. 151
Values	p. 152
Introduction	p. 152
Values and Recovery from Your Anger Habit	p. 153
Beliefs	p. 158
Anger and Beliefs	p. 158
How to Change Beliefs About Anger That Keep You Stuck	p. 162
Acquire Positive Beliefs About Yourself, Others, and the World	p. 165
Life Mission and Spirituality	p. 170
What Is Your Life Mission?	p. 170
How to Discover Your Life Mission	p. 172
Mission Support	p. 174
Spirituality	p. 176
Goals	p. 180
What Is a Goal?	p. 180
Recovery Goals and the Eight Parts of the Whole Self	p. 184
Set a Goal to Stop the Use of Rage and Violence	p. 188
Forgiveness	p. 190
The Importance of Forgiveness	p. 190
Forgive Others	p. 192
Forgive Yourself	p. 194
Conclusion	p. 196
Self-Contract	p. 197
Conclusion	p. 198
The Pathways to Peace Self-Help Program	p. 199
Overview: What Is Pathways to Peace?	p. 199
The Purpose of Pathways to Peace	p. 199
What Types of People Join Pathways to Peace?	p. 199
The Pathways to Peace Principles	p. 200
The Pathways to Peace Rules	p. 203
The Pathways to Peace Mentor Program	p. 203
How You Can Start a Pathways to Peace Group in Your Area	p. 204
First Steps in Starting a Group	p. 204
Pathways to Peace Materials	p. 205
Pathways to Peace Group Structure Guidelines	p. 205
Pathways to Peace Meeting Facilitator's Guide	p. 207
The Pathways to Peace Principles	p. 210
The Pathways to Peace Rules	p. 211
The Pathways to Peace Definition of Violence	p. 212
Pathways to Peace Books, Videos, and Master Programs	p. 213
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