Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships Healing the Wound of the Heart

by WELWOOD, JOHN

• ISBN13: 9781590303863
• ISBN10: 1590303865
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2007-03-27
• Publisher: Trumpeter

Summary

While most of us have moments of loving freely and openly, it is often hard to sustain this where it matters mostin our intimate relationships. Why, if love is so great and powerful, are human relationships so challenging and difficult? If love is the source of happiness and joy, why is it so hard to open to it fully and let it govern our lives? In this book, John Welwood addresses these questions and shows us how to overcome the most fundamental obstacle that keeps us from experiencing love's full flowering in our lives. Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships begins by showing how all our relational problems arise out of a universal, core wounding around love that affects not only our personal relationships but the quality of life in our world as a whole. This wounding shows up as a pervasive mood of unlovea deep sense that we are not intrinsically lovable just as we are. And this shuts down our capacity to trust, so that even though we may hunger for love, we have difficulty opening to it and letting it circulate freely through us. This book takes the reader on a powerful journey of healing and transformation that involves learning to embrace our humanness and appreciate the imperfections of our relationships as trail-markers along the path to great love. It sets forth a process for releasing deep-seated grievances we hold against others for not loving us better and against ourselves for not being better loved. And it shows how our longing to be loved can magnetize the great love that will free us from looking to others to find ourselves. Written with penetrating realism and a fresh, lyrical style that honors the subtlety and richness of our relationship to love itself, this revolutionary book offers profound and practical guidance for healing our lives as well as our embattled world. A workshop based on this book is also available in audio. For more information, click here.

Author Biography

John Welwood, Ph.D., has published six books, including the best-selling Journey of the Heart (HarperCollins, 1990), as well as Challenge of the Heart (Shambhala, 1985), and Love and Awakening (HarperCollins, 1996). He is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist in San Francisco, and an associate editor of the Journal for Transpersonal Psychology.

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. 1
Prologue: To Feel Held in Love	p. 23
Pefect Love, Imperfect Relationship	p. 32
The Mood of Grievance	p. 57
Letting Grievance Go	p. 75
From Self-Hatred to Self-Love	p. 96
Holy Longing	p. 120
The Love That Sets You Free	p. 139
Epilogue: Who's Holding You?	p. 161
Exercises	p. 169
Acknowledgments	p. 189
Notes	p. 191
About the Author	p. 205
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