Positive Child Guidance

by Miller, D

• ISBN13: 9780766803602
• ISBN10: 0766803600
• Edition: 3rd
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 1999-09-22
• Publisher: CENGAGE Delmar Learning

Table of Contents

Preface	xii
Introduction	1	(24)
New Roles and Responsibilities in Child Rearing	2	(5)
Short-Term Objectives for Child Guidance	7	(5)
Long-Term Goals for Child Guidance	12	(5)
Practical Application/Discussion: The Spoiled Child--Myth or Reality	17	(1)
Questions for Discussion	17	(1)
Points to Remember	18	(1)
Related Readings	18	(7)
Planning the Prosocial Environment	25	(28)
Prosocial Behavior	26	(1)
Setting the Stage for Appropriate Behavior	26	(5)
The Nurturing Social Environment	31	(6)
The Nurturing Adult	37	(9)
Practical Application/Discussion: William and the Nature Walk	46	(1)
Question for Discussion	47	(1)
Points to Remember	48	(1)
Related Readings	49	(4)
Positive Communication	53	(36)
Building a Foundation for Positive Communication	54	(3)
Effective Listening	57	(12)
Addressing Underlying Feelings	69	(5)
Positive Instructions Versus Negative Commands	74	(1)
Characteristics of Assertive Communication	75	(4)
Characteristics of Nonproductive Communication	79	(2)
Managing the Positive Confrontation	81	(3)
Practical Application/Discussion: ``I'll Leave You Here Forever!''	84	(1)
Questions for Discussion	85	(1)
Points to Remember	85	(1)
Related Readings	86	(3)
Positive Action	89	(26)
Nonverbal Cues, Body Language	90	(2)
Helping Children Resolve Problems Independently	92	(4)
Logical and Natural Consequences	96	(8)
External Reinforcement	104	(3)
Practical Application/Discussion: The Big Boys and the Very Muddy Day	107	(3)
Questions for Discussion	110	(1)
Points to Remember	110	(2)
Related Readings	112	(3)
Guidelines for Effective Guidance	115	(24)
Ignore Mildly Annoying Behavior That Is Neither Harmful nor Unfair	116	(2)
Immediately Interrupt Behavior That Is Harmful or Unfair	118	(3)
Assertively Shape Positive Behavior	121	(13)
Be Willing to Start Over---To Forgive and Forget Practical Application/Discussion: Will and the Cream-Cheese Won Ton	134	(1)
Questions for Discussion	135	(1)
Points to Remember	135	(2)
Related Readings	137	(2)
Understanding Children's Behavior	139	(54)
Typical Ages and Stages	140	(2)
Infants (Birth---12 Months)	142	(14)
Toddlers (12 Months---3 Years)	156	(12)
Preschoolers (3--5 Years)	168	(8)
Early School-Agers (5--8 Years)	176	(5)
Older School-Agers (9-12 Years)	181	(4)
Practical Application/Discussion: ``I'm Never Gonna `Vite You to My Birth'ay!''	185	(1)
Questions for Discussion	186	(1)
Points to Remember	187	(1)
Related Readings	188	(5)
Understanding the Reasons for Problem Behavior	193	(28)
Defining Problem Behavior	194	(4)
Stages of Moral Development in Young Children	198	(2)
How Do Young Children Learn Right from Wrong?	200	(3)
Underlying Causes of Problem Behavior	203	(13)
Practical Application/Discussion: Is a ``Really good Spanking'' Really Good?	216	(1)
Questions for Discussion	216	(1)
Points to Remember	216	(1)
Related Readings	217	(4)
Managing Persistent Misbehavior	221	(30)
Reacting to Needs---Maslow's Hierarchy	222	(3)
The No-Lose Method of Conflict Resolution	225	(1)
Dreikurs's Mistaken Goals	226	(1)
Attention-Seeking Behavior	227	(3)
Controlling Behavior	230	(2)
Disruptive Behavior	232	(3)
Withdrawn, Passive Behavior	235	(1)
Screening for Developmental ``Red Flags''	236	(4)
Locating Community Resources	240	(1)
Meeting Adult Needs	241	(1)
Practical Application/Discussion: ``Thank Heavens for Sarah''	242	(2)
Questions for Discussion	244	(1)
Points to Remember	245	(1)
Related Readings	246	(5)
Taking a New Look at Children	251	(16)
Identifying Personal Biases	252	(2)
The Observation Sequence	254	(3)
Observation Strategies	257	(5)
Practical Application/Discussion: The Mysterious Case of the Spinning Peg	262	(1)
Questions for Discussion	263	(1)
Points to Remember	263	(1)
Related Readings	263	(4)
Culturally Sensitive Guidance	267	(74)
Historical Perspectives	268	(3)
The Child in Society	271	(2)
Preparation for Participation in a Democracy	273	(1)
The Strain of Changing Disciplinary Traditions	274	(1)
Cultural Influences on Child Rearing	275	(3)
Preparing Children for the Realities of an Adult World	278	(5)
Parent Expectations Related to Social and Economic-Settings	283	(2)
Understanding Cultural Differences	285	(2)
Philosophies of Guidance	287	(9)
Practical Application/Discussion: Bringing Home a Baby Bumblebee	296	(1)
Questions for Discussion	296	(1)
Points to Remember	297	(1)
Related Readings	297	(4)
Appendices
A Resources for Helping Contemporary Families Deal with Stress	301	(3)
B Resources for Creating a Prosocial Environment	304	(2)
C Resources for Keeping Toddlers Safe	306	(1)
D Resources for Responding to Special Needs and Interests	307	(6)
E Resources for Understanding and Dealing with Child Abuse	313	(11)
F Parent Training and Information Projects	324	(10)
G National Disability Organizations and Agencies	334	(3)
H Bilingual Children's Books Affirming Cultural Differences	337	(3)
I Internet Starting Points for Parents and Caregivers	340	(1)
Glossary	341	(4)
References	345	(12)
Index	357