Pride and Joy A Guide to Understanding Your Child's Emotions and Solving Family Problems

by Barish, Kenneth

• ISBN13: 9780199896240
• ISBN10: 0199896240
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2012-05-28
• Publisher: Oxford University Press

Summary

Pride and Joyis a different kind of parenting book. InPride and Joy, child psychologist Kenneth Barish brings together the best of recent advances in clinical and neuroscience research with the author's three decades of experience working with children and families. He shows how a deeper appreciation of our children's emotions offers parents a new understanding of their children's development and better solutions to the problems in their lives. Barish offers advice to parents on how we can restore more joyfulness and pride in our relationships with our children and how we can help children bounce back from disappointment and defeat. He shows how we can repair family relationships that have been damaged by frequent anger and resentment and how we can preserve our children's idealism and their concern for others--how we can raise children who feel good about themselves and also care about the needs and feelings of others. Barish also offers advice on how to solve problems of daily family life--establishing rules and limits, doing homework and going to sleep, winning and losing at games, our children's reluctance to talk to us, their tantrums and lack of motivation, and their addiction to television and video games. He presents down-to-earth recommendations for solving these common family problems--problems that too often erode the joyfulness of our children and our pleasure in being parents. Pride and Joyis both informative and highly practical, and a balanced answer to the extreme methods that too often dominate parenting debates. Few parenting books address the central issues of concern to today's parents while also offering parents as much day-to-day advice.

Author Biography

Kenneth Barish, PH.D., is Clinical Associate Professor of Psychology at Weill Medical College, Cornell University.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. xi
Introduction	p. xiii
Basic Principles: Nurturing Your Child's Emotional Health
The Emotions of Childhood	p. 3
What Matters Most: Understanding and Support	p. 23
Optimism and Resilience Versus Demoralization and Defiance	p. 33
Positiveness	p. 45
Repair	p. 57
The Character of Our Children	p. 73
Putting It All Together	p. 89
Solving Common Problems of Family Life
Getting Unstuck: Five Essential Steps for Solving Family Problems	p. 111
The Problem of Discipline: How to Set Limits and What Limits to Set	p. 119
Homework	p. 131
"Why Won't She Talk to Us?"	p. 139
"He's Not Motivated"	p. 147
Tantrums and Meltdowns	p. 159
Winning and Losing	p. 173
Sleep, Television, and Electronic Games	p. 183
Conclusion
A Philosophy of Childhood and Final Take-Aways	p. 193
Notes	p. 203
Further reading	p. 233
Index	p. 237
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