Reality Quest

by Wells, Donna Koren; Morris, Bruce C.

• ISBN13: 9781558749566
• ISBN10: 155874956X
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2002-11-01
• Publisher: Hci

Summary

Today's teens grapple daily with the increasing challenges of a very complex world. Technology liberates at the same time as it constrains. Peers and the media can function as lifelines, but also can contribute to confusion-even despair, and parents can spur a whole gamut of emotions. No wonder teens often don't know where to turn or what to do first. The rapid-fire messages that bombard them from minute to minute consistently contradict one another: Be yourself! Fit in! You have all the time in the world! Grow up! Reality Quest begins each chapter with actual e-mail exchanges between real teens-or in online jargon, an IM-that relates to the chapter's topic. Then, essential details and supporting data provide opportunities for teens to explore the information. "Tests" complement each chapter, helping teens discover how they fit in with what they've learned and giving them an avenue to express their thoughts and feelings. The authors also have a website that ties in with the book and invites teens to express their views. The combined use of factual data, teen-created IMs and other by-teens-for-teens contributions present a unique product-one that respects their intelligence and powers of reasoning, and at the same time empathizes at their level. Different from story collections because the contributions included are slice-of-life rather than literary, this book is sure to be a popular teen read. For every teen struggling with these issues and more, Reality Quest will help them find answers throughout their journey to adulthood.

Table of Contents

Contributors	xi
Acknowledgments	xiii
Introduction	xv
UR (You Are)	1	(30)
Self-Image and Self-Esteem
What a 'Tude!
The Whole and the Parts
I M OK (I'm OK)	31	(34)
Eat to Live, or...?
Overindulgence
In Your Dreams
Emotionally Speaking
POS (Parent Over Shoulder)	65	(30)
Community of Purpose
Defining Family
Origins
Failing to Communicate
BFF (Best Friends Forever)	95	(36)
Pure Peer Pressure
Leaders, Loners and Losers
Among Friends
Love and Romance
FYI (For Your Information)	131	(30)
Making the Grade
Honest or Not?
Getting In (to College)
Safe and Secure?
FWIW (For What It's Worth)	161	(30)
Mere Technicalities
Time to Travel
For Work and Money
BTW (By The Way)	191	(24)
Teen Power---Your Market Share
Habits, Hobbies and Hanging Out
OMG (Oh My Gawd)	215	(32)
Age Matters
Behind the Wheel
Lonely Together
Risky, but Not Risque?
G2G (Got To Go)	247	(14)
Fit for Life
The Future Is Yours
IM Glossary	261

Excerpts

CHAPTER ONE U R(You Are)My Part of Reality I've got an odd sense of reality. Sometimes the line between imagination and reality can become very fuzzy. Who's really to say? Shakespeare once wrote, 'All of life's a stage, and all of us merely players. We have our entrances and exits, and one man will play many parts.' Life and our reactions to it are entirely dependent upon the story we create. All people have their own image, their own character and their own role to play. What they do with it is up to their discretion. Some people decide to break the character of others in order to build their own; some work together to create something better than what they started with; and some find their own unique existence. No one can truly understand another person, and sometimes people cannot truly understand themselves. For me, I don't want to understand. The mystery makes life fun, and mystery creates the imaginary movie of my life. I see my life as a movie. Perhaps it is egotistical of me, but I find existence to be more interesting that way. I see interwoven plot lines, hear the inner monologues, see the different camera shots and hear the background theme music. Some people call me crazy. I call it . . . well . . . crazy, but in the most positive way possible.I think I am a very unique person. I suppose I should start by saying I'm an optimist, or at least try to be. I have my own character and own place, even if I don't quite comprehend what they are. My self-esteem isn't entirely up to par, but I choose to find the good within myself. I've created an entire viewpoint and system of living with this mind-set. I've saved myself from pain and frustration with this mind-set. I have also broken myself with this mind-set, my hopes getting too high only to be shot down too hard.I'm an intricate person. No one has seen every side of me, and some sides have only been seen by me and perhaps my cat. I hold a different persona for every place I go, sometimes on purpose and sometimes I subconsciously change to fit or contrast my surroundings. People have been both intrigued and scared by this. I can only express this through a series of stories.Over the years, I have experienced love, lust, possibilities and let-downs at the beach. It is where I let out all the emotions I've trapped from the previous year. This, obviously, changes who I am. The people I have met there have seen quite a few sides of me. The first time they met me they were introduced to the perky, curious and innocent side of me. I hadn't an ill word to say, and all I knew were beginnings. As time progressed, the world changed me, and they were subjected to cynicism and bitterness woven into the same optimism I hold onto. I've turned entirely mellow, or I've gone completely crazy, running about and just generally making a fool of myself. I've been witty, I've been flaky, but they've chosen to see only a few.In recent years, they've even gone so far as to tell me I can't be who I am.

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Excerpted from Reality Quest: Teens Making the Facts by Donna K. Wells, Bruce C. Morris, Donna Wells
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