Receiving Love Workbook A Unique Twelve-Week Course for Couples and Singles

by Hendrix, Harville; Hunt, Helen LaKelly

• ISBN13: 9780743483711
• ISBN10: 0743483715
• Edition: Workbook
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2006-05-09
• Publisher: Atria Books

Summary

A companion workbook to the critically acclaimed relationship bookReceiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be LovedIn 2004, Harville Hendrix and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy, authoredReceiving Love, a critically acclaimed guide to cultivating a loving, long-lasting relationship thatPublishers Weeklycalled "intelligent and insightful . . . wise and sophisticated." Now, in theReceiving Love Workbook, Hendrix and Hunt have constructed a companion to that groundbreaking book in which they outline a simple, practical plan that will help you to apply the advice and exercises inReceiving Loveto your own relationship.Receiving Loveshowed that while many men and women know how togivelove, many more undermine their relationships by never having learned how to accept it. TheReceiving Love Workbookwill help you and your partner to explore the effect that this type of self-rejection has had in your individual lives and in your relationship as a couple. It contains a unique twelve-week course designed to help you work through the exercises inReceiving Love. It provides the same step-by-step instructions and examples that couples who participate in a couples' workshop or work with an Imago Relationship Therapist would experience.For those who are ready to take specific steps to surmount the self-rejection and heal its causes, theReceiving Love Workbookwill help you to make the changes that will establish an easy, natural pattern of giving and receiving love and that will create the relationship of your dreams.

Author Biography

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., a clinical pastoral counselor and co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy, has more than thirty-five years' experience as an educator, public lecturer, and couples' therapist.

Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. used her education in psychology to help develop the Imago process as well as to support gender equity -- for which she was inducted into the National Women's Hall of Fame. She is in great demand as a public speaker.

Table of Contents

How to Use The Receiving Love Workbook	1	(15)
Session 1: The Gift Diary	16	(8)
Part I The Receiving Inventory	18	(2)
Exercise: Construct Your Receiving Inventory	18	(2)
Part II Daily Gift Record	20	(2)
Exercise: Keep a Daily Gift Record	20	(2)
Part III Dream Gift List	22	(2)
Exercise: Keep a Dream Gift List for Your Partner	22	(2)
Session 2: The Imago Dialogue	24	(11)
Part I Mirroring	26	(3)
Exercise: Learning to Mirror	26	(3)
Part II Validating	29	(2)
Exercise: Learning to Validate	29	(2)
Part III Empathizing	31	(2)
Exercise: Learning to Show Empathy	31	(2)
Part IV Taking Turns	33	(2)
Exercise: Trading Places	33	(2)
Session 3: Learning How You Know	35	(13)
Part I Are You a Separate or Connected Knower?	37	(4)
Exercise: Are You a Separate or Connected Knower?	37	(4)
Part II Growth Process for Separate Knowers	41	(3)
Exercise: Develop Your Connected Knowing Skills	41	(3)
Part III Growth Process for Connected Knowers	44	(4)
Exercise: Develop Your Separate Knowing Skills	44	(4)
Session 4: Practice Receiving and Giving	48	(10)
Part I Receiving Sensory Impressions	49	(3)
Exercise: Learning to Appreciate Your Senses	49	(3)
Part II Receiving Your Partner's Reality	52	(3)
Exercise: Learning to Appreciate Your Partner	52	(3)
Part III Receiving a Gift and Giving a Gift	55	(3)
Exercise: Practice Asking for and Receiving a Gift, and Giving a Gift	56	(2)
Session 5: Positive Flooding	58	(6)
Exercise: Learning Positive Flooding	59	(1)
Exercise: Expanding Positive Flooding	60	(4)
Session 6: Your ``Receiving Quotient'' Assessment	64	(6)
Exercise: Examining Your Receptivity	64	(6)
Session 7: Your ``Giving Love'' Assessment	70	(6)
Exercise: Examining How Giving You Are	70	(6)
Session 8: Your Imago	76	(23)
Part I Influences from Childhood	79	(12)
Exercise: What I Got from My Parents or Other Caretakers	79	(12)
Part II Current Influences	91	(5)
Exercise: The Beliefs My Partner Brought to Our Relationship	91	(5)
Part III Choosing the Messages of the Future	96	(3)
Exercise: Deciding How I Want to Give and Receive Now	96	(3)
Session 9: Barriers to Intimacy	99	(16)
Exercise: Identifying Your Childhood Wound	101	(2)
Exercise: Learning More About How Your Childhood Wound Affects Your Relationship	103	(8)
Exercise: What to Do with Information About Your Childhood Wound	111	(4)
Session 10: Identifying Your Defenses	115	(13)
Exercise: How Do You Try to Defend Yourself?	117	(11)
Session 11: Discovering Your Hidden Potential	128	(17)
Part I Recovering your Lost Self	132	(7)
Exercise: Identifying Your Lost Self	132	(7)
Part II Recovering your Lost Self in Relationship	139	(6)
Exercise: What Messages Do I Send to My Partner?	139	(6)
Session 12: Becoming Whole Again	145	(14)
Part I Discovering your Disowned and Denied Self	149	(5)
Exercise: What Is There About You That You're Not Seeing?	149	(5)
Part II Your Personal Growth Plan	154	(5)
Exercise: Integrating Your Disowned and Denied Self	154	(5)
Appendix	159	(34)
Acknowledgments	193	(1)
About Imago Relationship Theory	194	(1)
About the Authors	195