The Resilient Self

by WOLIN, STEVEN J. MDWOLIN, SYBIL PHD

• ISBN13: 9780812991765
• ISBN10: 0812991761
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Trade Paper
• Copyright: 1993-03-16
• Publisher: Villard

Summary

An informative and inspiring guide to rebounding from childhood hardships to find uncommon strength and courage
 
“The Resilient Self reminds us all of the importance of being aware of and building on the strengths of our young people, whatever their early life experiences. We must work to give them hope and to craft services and programs that are respectful of the resiliencies so thoughtfully characterized by the Wolins. This guide, although based on the experiences of adults, offers extremely useful insights too for those working on behalf of children and adolescents.”—Marian Wright Edelman, president, Children’s Defense Fund
 
“This book offers a strong sense of hope for everyone who has grown up in a troubled family. I salute the authors for their masterful synthesis of research, clinical experiences, and insights gleaned from the voices of poetry. The Wolins’ book cautions the reader that no one emerges from troubled childhood without some scars, but it challenges us to finds ways in which we can transforms pain into joy in our lives.”—Emmy E. Werner, Ph.D., author of Vulnerable But Invincible and Overcoming the Odds
 
“This marvelous book can turn the tide for people injured during their childhoods, not by ignoring the ashes of the past, but by winnowing out the precious elements from which the phoenix can triumphantly rise. It is a book that has been badly needed, and for which many will long be grateful.”—Timmen L. Cermak, M.D., former chairman, National Association for Children of Alcoholics
 
“At last, a compassionate and realistic challenge to abandon the idea that one is a passive object of an unhappy childhood. The Resilient Self encourages readers to recognize and appreciate their strong, insightful, and creative survival.”—Barbara Mathis, author of Between Sisters: Secret Rivals, Intimate Friends
 
“The Resilient Self shows adult children of dysfunctional families that they can escape a painful past and become resilient survivors. It describes the strategies which have been used successfully by those who grew up in troubled homes but who managed to work well, play well, and love well as adults. I recognized myself in this book with a survivor’s pride.”—Anonymous survivor

Author Biography

Steven J. Wolin, MD, is clinical professor of psychiatry at the George Washington University Medical School, a longtime researcher in the department’s Center for Family Research, and director of family therapy training. He also maintains a private practice in psychiatry and with his wife, Sybil Wolin, founded Project Resilience, a program of consultation, training, and treatment in the Challenge Model.

Sybil Wolin, PhD, holds a doctorate in child development. Since 1980, she has been in private practice specializing in children and families experiencing school failure. She has also been the educational consultant to the Parent Educational Advocacy Training Center in Alexandria, Virginia, and has taught English in high school, adult education, and in urban rehabilitation programs. Along with her husband, Steven J. Wolin, she founded Project Resilience, a program of consultation, training, and treatment in the Challenge Model.

Table of Contents

Preface	vii
Acknowledgments	ix
PART I PAIN AND OPPORTUNITY
The Challenge of the Troubled Family	3	(19)
To Name the Damage Is to Conquer It	22	(27)
Reframing: How to Resist the Victim's Trap	49	(18)
PART II SEVEN RESILIENCIES
Insight: Forewarned Is Forearmed	67	(21)
Independence: A Delicate Negotiation	88	(23)
Relationships: The Search for Love	111	(25)
Initiative: The Pleasure in Problems	136	(27)
Creativity: Nothing into Something Humor: Something into Nothing	163	(21)
Morality: Holiness in an Unholy World	184	(21)
Epilogue: The Internal Image of a Survivor: One Who Prevails	205	(4)
Appendix: The Damage Inventory	209	(8)
Notes and Comments	217	(12)
Index	229