Say More Consent Conversations for Teens

by Stryker, Kitty; Corinna, Heather; Stryker, Kitty

• ISBN13: 9781990869518
• ISBN10: 1990869513
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2024-04-26
• Publisher: Thornapple Press

Summary

Talking about consent can feel overwhelming, especially for young people who may be navigating their own boundaries for the first time. In Say More, consent culture activist Kitty Stryker guides teenagers in exploring what consent means to them. This timely and practical workbook allows the reader to work at their own pace and in their own way, with concrete examples from Kitty’s own youth, prompts inspired by questions teens have asked her and comprehensive resources to encourage further exploration and introspection.

Author Biography

Kitty Stryker has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over ten years through her writing, workshops, and website. She’ s the editor of Ask: Building Consent Culture and author of Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook, and is especially interested in bringing conversations about consent out of the bedroom and into everyday life. Heather Corinna is the founder, director, designer and editor of Scarleteen, the first truly comprehensive sex, sexuality and relationships education site and resource for young people of its kind. She is also the author of S.E.X: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties (DaCapo Press); with Isabella Rotman, Wait, What?: A Comic Book Guide to Relationships, Bodies, and Growing Up (Oni Press) and the menopause memoir-slash-survival guide What Fresh Hell Is This? Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities and You (Hachette Go!).

Table of Contents

Foreword
Note to Adults
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Why Does Consent Feel So Weird?
Why Is Consent So Complicated?
Why Is Consent So Often Treated as a Gendered Thing?
How Do We Normalize Consent in Our Culture?
Is Consent Sexy?
When and How Do I Need to Ask for Consent?
Is It Nonconsensual If the Other Person Says Yes But Doesn’t Mean It?
What’s the Best Way to Tell Someone You’ve Changed Your Mind?
What’s the Difference between Coercion and Consent?
What Should You Do If Someone Doesn’t Respect Your Boundaries?
What Should I Do When I've Crossed Someone's Boundaries?
When Is a Boundary Healthy?
Can Boundaries Be Detrimental?
Consent and Authority: How Do You Pick Your Battles?
What Does It Mean to “Navigate Your Own Consent”?
The Boundary Toolbox
How to Say “No” While Saving Face and Letting Others Save Face

I Consented to Something, But Now I Regret It. What Do I Do Now?

I Crossed Someone’s Boundary. How Do I Fix It?
A Checklist of Check-Ins
Physical and Emotional Signs
Current Capacity
Relationship Assessment
TL;DR: A Brief List of Consent Tips
Final Thoughts
Resources
Books and Essays
Websites
Crisis Resources
Glossary