Secret Lovers Affairs Happen . . . How to Cope

by Linquist, Luann

• ISBN13: 9780787946418
• ISBN10: 0787946419
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 1999-01-27
• Publisher: Jossey-Bass

Summary

A Myth Shattering Look At Long-Term Love Affairs "As one who has given professionals guidance in public affairs-and is well used to 'Inside the Beltway Political Scandal'-it's insightful to dip into Luann Linquist's fascinating work. Don't be misled by a provocative title. Her in-depth accounts should certainly be helpful to thousands. It's akin to overhearing restaurant conversations or, at times, being underneath the psychiatrist's couch. This is a serious work with important implications."--John Jay Daly, APR, Washington, D.C. Affairs, because of their secret nature, go unspoken. This silence has forced those involved to cope with incredibly complex problems with no support or advice. Until now. Secret Lovers is an indispensable and nonjudgmental resource that takes an unflinching look at the dynamics of long-term affairs. Linquist delves deep into our most intimate and risky of behaviors and shows us why people risk their family and status for secret lovers.

Author Biography

LUANN LINQUIST, MFCC specializes in the mind-changing, life-lifting techniques that help people get rid of unwanted thoughts, feelings, and beliefs . . . quickly. In addition to her private practice in San Diego, she is a sought after corporate consultant, speaker, and coach. Her research and articles on relationships and business have won her numerous honors and awards.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix	(2)
Introduction	xi
1. Why Affairs?--And Why the Disapproval?	1	(20)
2. Common Patterns and Common Dreams	21	(16)
3. In the Beginning	37	(14)
4. The First Six Months: The Honeymoon Phase	51	(18)
5. Working on Issues: The Transitional Phase	69	(30)
6. The Long-Term Affair: The Maintenance Phase	99	(40)
7. The End of the Affair	139	(16)
8. After It's Over--And Looking Back	155	(12)
9. How to Have a Successful Affair	167	(22)
10. Healing	189	(22)
Bibliography	211	(4)
Index	215	(5)
Index of Characters in the Book	220	(2)
About the Author	222
Index	215
About the Author	219