Seeing Through Tears: Crying and Attachment

by Nelson; Judith Kay

• ISBN13: 9780415949675
• ISBN10: 041594967X
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2005-03-07
• Publisher: Routledge

Summary

It would be the rare human being who has not, at many times, both cried and acted as a shoulder for someone else's sorrows. However, few people encounter tears in a professional setting as often as psychotherapists, counselors, and others in the field of mental health.Crying, Caregiving and Connectionpresents a comprehensive treatment of crying forms and situations, from children to adults, client to therapist, in-session and out-of-session, while developing an attachment-based theory of crying as not driven simply by emotional needs, but by a fundamental desire for connection. Though written primarily for the mental health practitioner, the book would also be appropriate for many other health care professionals, educators, students, parents, and anyone interested in the topic of crying.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	vii
Introduction	ix
Part I A Theory of Crying
There Is More to Crying Than Meets the Eye	3	(12)
The Circle of Tears	15	(14)
Attachment, Loss, Crying, Caregiving, and Reattachment
Protest, Despair, and Detachment	29	(14)
A Classification of Crying
Crying at the Source	43	(18)
The First 12 Months
Crying Is for Broken Legs and Lost Friends	61	(20)
Crying in Childhood
Crying Lessons and Caregiving Responses	81	(20)
The Social View
Part II The Clinical Assessment of Crying and Caregiving
Healthy Adult Crying or Inhibited Crying, and Healthy Adult Caregiving	101	(16)
Symptomatic Adult Crying and Inhibited Crying	117	(16)
Tears as Body Language	133	(18)
Part III Crying and Inhibited Crying in the Therapeutic Relationship
Crying in the Clinical Hour	151	(22)
How Therapists Deal With Crying and Caregiving, Including Their Own	173	(22)
Part IV Attachment and Caregiving: Beyond the Personal
Transcendent Tears	195	(24)
Notes	219	(2)
References	221	(8)
Permissions	229	(2)
Index	231