Shrinking the Integrity Gap Between What Leaders Preach and Live

by Mattson, Jeff; Mattson, Terra A.

• ISBN13: 9781434712615
• ISBN10: 1434712613
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2020-10-01
• Publisher: David C Cook

Summary

Every leader values integrity, but far too few live it out. The founders of Living Wholehearted, Jeff and Terra Mattson, find that most high-capacity leaders have experienced childhood trauma and use leadership as a way to cope.
 
In Shrinking the Integrity Gap, the Mattsons remind readers that integrity is a way of being and not a one-time event. Providing long-term solutions rooted in grace, they explore the following:

• The symptoms and systemic impact of the integrity gap
• How a leader’s unresolved story impacts their influence
• Ways to overcome the loneliness and effects of leadership
• Healthy leadership habits for wholehearted leadership

Integrating biblical truth, clinical research, relational wisdom, and real stories, Shrinking the Integrity Gap equips readers to become the kind of leader anyone would want to follow.
 

Author Biography

Jeff and Terra Mattson advocate for healthy leadership everywhere as the founders of Living Wholehearted, the hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast, and the inspiration behind the national movement Courageous Girls. As a licensed counselor, Terra is the author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace. They are raising two daughters in the countryside outside Portland, Oregon.
 

Table of Contents

Foreword 15
Preface: A Note about the Core Values Index 17
Introduction 19

Part I: Understanding Leadership and Integrity Gaps
Chapter 1: Foundations of Leading 31
Chapter 2: Stories of Leading 43

Part II: Symptoms of Integrity Gaps
Chapter 3: Trauma and Triggers 67
The Past Is Not in the Past
Chapter 4: Guilt and Toxic Shame 83
If They Only Knew
Chapter 5: Escapism and Compartmentalization 97
Everybody Loves Me … Outside My House
Chapter 6: Narcissism 115
I Think I’m Pretty Amazing
Chapter 7: Arrogance 139
I’m Better Than Everyone Else
Chapter 8: Blind Spots 157
Too Little Time to Listen
Chapter 9: Burnout 175
It’s Easier for Me to Just Do It
Chapter 10: Isolation 193
No One Really Knows Me
Chapter 11: Survival 213
Needs Are a Sign of Weakness
Chapter 12: Hiding 233
Confession Costs Too Much

Conclusion: Hope for Wholehearted Leadership 261

Acknowledgments 271

Appendix A: Family Genogram sample 273
Appendix B: Concentric Circles Exercise 275
Notes 277