Sids & Infant Death Survival Guide

by Horchler, Joani Nelson; Rice, Robin; Morris, Robin Rice

• ISBN13: 9780964121829
• ISBN10: 0964121824
• Edition: 3rd
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2003-01-01
• Publisher: S I D S Educational Services

Table of Contents

Foreword	xv
Lloyd Bridges
Preface	xvii
Joani Nelson Horchler
Acknowledgments	xxiii
Introduction	xxxi
Thomas G. Keens
What Everyone Should Know About SIDS and Infant Death	1	(20)
In Memory of Samuel Yves Lyman Laigle
Sheri Laigle
Defining SIDS
What SIDS Is and What SIDS Is Not by the National SIDS Resource Center
An Expert's Perspective On SIDS And Other Infant Deaths
Rachel Y. Moon
Consider the Numbers
Robin Rice
SIDS Then and Now: A Personal and Political History
Carrie Griffin Sheehan
The Nightmare Begins	21	(24)
A Mental Replay of Thursday, March 21, 1991
Michelle Morgan Spady
The Day Begins
Janice John Roper
On That Dreadful Day...
Candace N. Herkins-Jones
Baby Ben
Lynne S. H. Javier
Jean K. Hulse-Hayman
Empty Arms
Stacy Parks
Untitled
Abraham Lincoln
The Sitting Time
Joe Digman
``Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda'': Dealing with Guilt and Anger	45	(23)
Grief's Healing Rage
Nancy Purcell
Sharing of Tragedy Lessens the Pain
Kelley Trost
To the Man Upstairs
Joani Nelson Horchler
How Can Therapy Help with Guilt?
Patricia W. Dietz
The Women in My Family
Margaret Polizos
Grasping at Straws To Blame Ourselves
Joani Nelson Horchler
All That Is Left
Janice John Roper
``Why My Baby? Why Me?''	68	(21)
Footprints Anonymous
One Point of View
Jay Lamb
``Why? Why Me?''
Richard A. Watson
A Jewish Perspective on ``Why?''
Marjorie Romanoff
A Grandmother Asks, ``Why?''
Millie Lutz
When You Don't Believe in a God
Ned Balzer
How Faith Helps Us
Jeannie Nelson
For Anyone Who Has Lost a Child
Margaret Lee Dove-Hedges
SIDS
Desiree Spencer Stamps
Fathers: The ``Second-Class'' Grievers	89	(19)
The Unique Burden of Fathers
Bob Shaw
The Missing Person An Interview with Pete Petit of Healthdyne
89 Days of Sunshine
Jonathon L. Andell
An Awesome Dream
Chuck Dohrman
My Would-Be Perfect Family
Robert Lopez
Surviving a Bereaved Wife
Gabriel F. Horchler
Always in My Heart
Marta Brown
Children Grieving Children	108	(21)
Amy, Amy
Michael Purcell
Missing Someone I Never Knew
Lindsey Hosford
A Spring Death
Ilona Horchler
Sister
Jon Mihalko
He Should Have Been My Best Man An Interview with Curtis Schweitzer
Helping Siblings Cope with Death
Kee Schuth Marshall
Bless His Soul
Jennifer Wingfield
Sadness in May
Gabrielle Christine Horchler
How We Helped Our Children...and How They Helped Us
Joani Nelson Horchler
What Mister Rogers Has To Say An Interview with Hedda Sharapan
For My Baby Sister Stephanie
Tony Paik
Grandparents: A Grief Doubled	129	(9)
Oh, for the Purely Material Losses
Dora Nagy Horchler
AGAST: An Alliance for Grandparents
Sandra R. Graben
The Double Hurt of Grandparents
Beverly Powell
A Letter from Grandma Nelson
Doris Guhin Nelson
Sweet Memories of Jacob Barlowe Kruse
Christine Fackler Salemi
Forgive Me, My Daughter
Jean Andre
When a Baby Dies at the Child-Care Provider's	138	(13)
SIDS in Child Care
Rachel Y. Moon
As Child-Care Providers, It's Our Baby, Too
Donna Shelton
A Parent's Perspective
Jennifer McBride
Only the Sitter?
Donna Allen
How To Be a Friend to a SIDS or Infant Death Survivor	151	(11)
The Dos and Don'ts of Helping a Survivor
Joani Nelson Horchler
A Friend's Memory of William Kendal Herrera
Renee Scolaro
Letter from a Friend
Cheryl Lambson
Unititled
Oscar Wilde
A Comforting Note from Friends in England
Philip
Diana
Patrick Beddows
Befriending the Grieving
Robin Rice
Just Say, ``I'm Sorry''
Gail Fasolo
Planning a Funeral and the Role of the Clergy	162	(16)
A Christian Celebration of Christian
Father John J. Hurley, Jr.
William David Waugh
Fern Stanley
A Funeral Director's Personal Experience with SIDS
Sondra L. Held
Planning a Special Funeral
Joani Nelson Horchler
Eulogy for Margaret Hood Schuth: A Gift from Her Mother
Kee Schuth Marshall
Obituary of Christian Horchler
Josette Shiner
Selecting the Right Funeral Home
Ray Visotski
Learning To Live Again	178	(17)
``How Many Children Do You Have?''
Joani Nelson Horchler
The Glass Half Full
William C. Ermatinger
Going Out into the World Again
Carla Hosford, LCSW-C
How I Survived My Baby's Death
Joani Nelson Horchler
A Letter to Michael
Liz Waller
A Prayer for Spring
janis Heil
Moving Beyond the Sudden Death of a Child
Regina A. Rochford
Happy Birthday? Merry Christmas?	195	(9)
Missing Danny at the Beach
Janice John Roper
Surviving Anniversaries and Holidays
Shelley A. LeDroux
Kathy's Day
William C. Ermatinger
Marking the Milestones When You Have Lost Your Only Child
Michelle Morgan Spady
Portraits for Easter
Cherly Radich
Peer Contact and Professional Help	204	(16)
A Peer Contact Answers the Question: ``Are You Still Doing That?''
Debbie Gemmill
Untitled
H. Thurman
A SIDS Parent Counseling SIDS Survivors
Carla Hosford
Finding Friends Among Other SIDS Families
Nancy Maruyama
Home Visits by Public Health Nurses
Linda Esoposito
Hitting It Off with a Counselor An Interview with Mike Hitch
My Lifeline An Interview with Gwen Robinson
Emergency Medical Responders and the Authorities	220	(20)
Dos and Don'ts for Emergency Responders
Kerry Day
When Emergency Responders Lose Their Own Baby
Michelle Grogan
SIDS and the Homicide Detective An Interview with J. Richard Salen and Steve Kerpelman
How NOT To Treat a SIDS Survivor
Darlene Buth
The ``Suspicious'' Loss of Twins
Joani Nelson Horchler
The Role of the Medical Examiner
John E. Smialek
A Subsequen Baby and the Question of Home Monitoring	240	(25)
Thoughts on a Subsequent Baby
Sheri Laigle
Another Baby with Dark Brown Eyes
Kandace DeCaro
Celine
Marie-Pascale Hill
Room for More Angels
Deneena Herrera
The Haunting Memory of SIDS
Jennifer Wilkinson
Forever in Our Hearts
Nick Missos
A Clinical View of Monitoring
Robert Meny
Tips for Home Monitoring An Interview with Barb Follett of Kirson Medical Equipment Company
When You've Lost Your Only Boy or Girl
Joani Nelson Horchler
Guilt and Risk Reduction	265	(11)
Against All Odds
Chris Brink
For a Subsequent Child: Reducing the Risks as Much as Possible
John L. Carroll
Ellen S. Siska
Dreams and Premonitions	276	(10)
The Effect of Premonitions of SIDS on Grieving and Healing
Patricia Christenson
Richard Hardoin
Judith Henslee
Frederick Mandell
Melvin Morse
Carrie Griffin Sheehan
Moving Forward	286	(22)
Life After SIDS: What is Possible?
M. John O'Brien
Twenty-Four Years Later: The Arlette Schweitzer Story
Joani Nelson Horchler
How Therapy Can Help Us Move Forward
Patricia W. Dietz
Letter to Justin
Norine Blanton
Letter to Michelle Elizabeth Dickerson
Denise Michelle Dickerson
Letter from My Child
Dolly Guess-Colvin
Thirty Years Later, a Look at Peter's Gifts An Interview with George Keeler, M.D., and Kay Keeler
Moving Forward by Raising Money To Fight SIDS An Interview with Susan Hollander of the CJ Foundation for SIDS
Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep Author unknown
The Sailing Ship Author unknown
Rise Up Slowly, Angel
Diane Robertson
From Juliet's Speech
William Shakespeare
More Stories and Poems	308	(5)
Eleven Days
Peggy Biebel
Trevor's Secret
Lori R. Dickey
Thank You To Our Son
Gerardo Orozco
A Face in the Clouds
Leyna Rose Figliozzi
A Note From Colby
Cathey King
Appendix National and International Organizations That Provide Information, Counseling, Research Data, and Grants on SIDS and Related Topics	313	(1)
Bibliography	314	(3)
Suggested Reading	317	(2)
About Joani Nelson Horchler	319	(1)
About Robin Rice	320