Stalking the Soul

by Hirigoyen, Marie-France; Marx, Helen; Moore, Thomas (AFT)

• ISBN13: 9781885586995
• ISBN10: 188558699X
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2004-09-15
• Publisher: Helen Marx Books

Summary

Emotional abuse exists all around us-in families and work. Stalking the Soul is a call to recognize and understand emotional abuse and, most importantly, overcome it. Sophisticated and accessible, it is vital reading for victims and health professionals.

Author Biography

Marie-France Hirigoyen is a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, and family therapist based in Paris. Her studies on victimology in both France and the U.S. led her to further research in the area of stalking and emotional abuse.

Table of Contents

Translator's Note	xi
Introduction	3	(10)
PART I EMOTIONAL ABUSE
ONE Emotional Abuse in Private Life	13	(38)
Emotional Abuse in Couples	14	(23)
Emotional Abuse in Families	37	(14)
TWO Emotional Abuse in the Workplace	51	(38)
What Is Abuse?	52	(2)
Who Is Targeted?	54	(2)
Who Attacks Whom?	56	(5)
How the Victim Becomes Disarmed	61	(6)
How Abuse Begins	67	(10)
The Organization That Permits Abuse	77	(5)
The Organization That Encourages Abusive Methods	82	(7)
PART II THE ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
THREE Emotionally Abusive Seduction	89	(6)
FOUR Communication in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship	95	(20)
Refusal of Direct Communication	95	(2)
Distortion of Language	97	(3)
Lies	100	(2)
The Use of Sarcasm, Ridicule, Contempt	102	(3)
The Use of Paradox	105	(4)
Invalidation	109	(1)
Divide and Conquer	110	(1)
The Imposition of Power	111	(4)
FIVE The Stages of Emotional Abuse	115	(8)
Hatred Becomes Overt	115	(2)
Abuse Comes into Play	117	(3)
The Victim Is Cornered	120	(3)
SIX The Abuser	123	(13)
Abusive Narcissism	124	(1)
Narcissism	125	(1)
The Transition to Abusiveness	126	(1)
Megalomania	127	(2)
Vampirism	129	(3)
Denial of Responsibility	132	(1)
Paranoia	133	(3)
SEVEN The Victim	136	(15)
The Victim as Object	136	(2)
The Victim as Masochist?	138	(3)
The Victim's Scruples	141	(3)
The Victim's Strength	144	(1)
The Victim's Naiveté	145	(6)
PART III CONSEQUENCES OF ABUSE
EIGHT Consequences of the "Seizure of Power" Phase	151	(7)
Withdrawal	151	(1)
Confusion	152	(1)
Doubt	153	(2)
Stress	155	(2)
Isolation	157	(1)
NINE Long-Term Consequences	158	(9)
Shock	158	(1)
Decompensation	159	(3)
Separation	162	(1)
Evolution	163	(4)
TEN Practical Advice for the Couple and the Family	167	(5)
Reorientation	167	(2)
Action	169	(1)
Psychological Resistance	169	(1)
Legal Intervention	170	(2)
ELEVEN Practical Advice for the Workplace	172	(11)
Reorientation	172	(1)
Finding Help Within the Organization	173	(1)
Psychological Resistance	174	(2)
Action	176	(2)
Legal Intervention	178	(3)
Organizing Prevention	181	(2)
TWELVE Taking Charge Psychologically	183	(15)
The Healing Process	183	(8)
Psychotherapeutic Options	191	(7)
Conclusion	198	(3)
Afterword by Thomas Moore	201	(4)
Notes	205	(4)
Bibliography	209