Stoic Empathy The Road Map to a Life of Influence, Self-Leadership, and Integrity

by Kruse, Shermin

• ISBN13: 9781401979942
• ISBN10: 1401979947
• eBook ISBN(s): 9781401979959
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2025-04-08
• Publisher: Hay House Business
• More Book Details

Summary

Correct the power imbalances in your work and life with a science-backed practice that combines the rigor of Stoic philosophy with the relational impact of empathy.

Stoicism combined with empathy may sound like a contradiction in terms. But when these seemingly opposing forces are harnessed together, they have the power to change your life.

From surviving missile attacks and political oppression in Iran to leading high-stakes legal teams and negotiations in corporate America, Shermin Kruse's journey fuels her mission to merge empathy and stoicism as tools for navigating power, justice, and human connection in every facet of life. In this eye-opening book, she offers you this radical perspective shift—anchored in up-to-the-minute research—to help you navigate life's challenges with power and principles.

We often think of empathy as an emotional stance: we feel what someone else is feeling. But Kruse outlines a form of empathy that’s based in cognition, not emotion—a way for us to understand what the other person is thinking and feeling while keeping a distance from their feeling state—and shows us how we can strategically maneuver our level of engagement from “emotional empathy” to “cognitive empathy” in different circumstances. Then she utilizes Stoic philosophy and modern science to outline the how of emotional regulation and control. The bridge she builds between Stoicism and empathy gives us the knowledge and discipline we need to:

• Calmly assess the power dynamics of any situation
• Understand and manage our own emotions as well as the emotions of others
• Defuse danger and turn conflict into connection
• Skillfully steer a challenging conversation toward the result we want

Whether you're a leader striving to succeed in your role with integrity, an educator seeking to guide curious minds with compassion, a parent nurturing resilience in your children, or simply facing a personal or professional crossroads, Stoic Empathy is an essential toolkit for negotiating success in every area of your life.

Author Biography

Shermin Kruse is an award winning idea curator, global change-maker, complex-system negotiator, lawyer, speaker, and storyteller. Shermin has nearly two decades of experience working in competitive strategy and game theory applications, corporate and community advocacy, brand protection and augmentation, as well as dispute resolution for individuals, public-company boards of directors, international corporations and Fortune 500 Companies. Shermin also has a decade of parallel experience producing thought-leadership events, including TEDx conferences and a network of salon series. She teaches Negotiating with Tactical Empathy, Global Transactions, Cross-Border Deals, and Leadership at Northwestern Pritzker School of Law.

In addition to her professional accomplishments, Shermin is a mother of four, living in the heart of Chicago. Her personal journey from the war-torn streets of her native Tehran to the elite corporate boardrooms of the world informs her deep commitment to fostering empathy, control, justice, and global understanding.

www.sherminkruse.com

Table of Contents

Stoic Empathy: The Road Map to a Life of Influence, Self-Leadership, and Integrity

Contents

Chapter One: What is Stoic Empathy
Chapter Two: Cognitive v. Emotional Empathy
Chapter Three: 3 Concrete Tools of Strategic Empathy
Chapter Four: The Advanced Tools of ‘Mirroring/Repeating’ and ‘Probing Questions’
Chapter Five: Stoicism Before It Went to Hollywood, Buddhist Control Over Suffering, and the Inner Citadel
Chapter Six: Aspects of Emotions and Your Power Over You
Chapter Seven: 3 Concrete Tools of Stoicism
Chapter Eight: 2 Advanced Stoicism Tools, Memento mori and moral courage
Chapter Nine: Stoicism and Empathy, Expert Level
Chapter Ten: Ethics, Lies, and the Big Why