Stop Spoiling That Man

by Arden Boghosian, John

• ISBN13: 9781598693287
• ISBN10: 159869328X
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2007-12-01
• Publisher: Adams Media Corp

Summary

How do you love a man without spoiling him? In the past, you've complained that your husband or boyfriend demands too much and gives back too little. He's evasive. He's a hypochondriac. He can't pick up after himself. But have you ever thought that perhaps it's you who's to blame for the spoiling? Or, at the very least, that you're unconsciously rewarding the very behavior you've been complaining about all along? In Stop Spoiling That Man, psychologist John B. Arden reveals how you can develop the skills to unspoil the man in your life and encourage him to be a more equal giver. With the help of his wife, Victoria Arden, Dr. Arden explains how you can: Distinguish between a truly spoiled man and one who really isn't, Dissect the various ways that a spoiled man can control you, Deal with such a man using a wide range of methods from Dr. Arden's counseling practice. With practical suggestions, quizzes, and real-life vignettes, you can focus on enhancing your relationship and protect yourself from your man's whiny ways. With this book in hand, you can cut those apron strings once and for all. Book jacket.

Author Biography

John B. Arden, Ph.D., is the director of training for mental health for the Kaiser Permanente Medical Centers in Northern California

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. xii
Breaking down the characteristics of spoiled men	p. 1
Identifying Spoiled Men	p. 3
Unspoiling with the CODE	p. 22
Seeing Red Flags	p. 43
Roles men take to get you to spoil them	p. 57
Challenging the Victim	p. 59
Sheltering from the Emotional Storm	p. 75
Remaining Optimistic with a Pessimist	p. 90
Walking above Eggshells	p. 108
Detaching Sympathy from the Hypochondriac	p. 126
Avoiding Destructive Arguments	p. 140
Taking a stand against spoiling	p. 157
Asking More from Passive Pete	p. 159
Holding Slippery Sam Accountable	p. 175
Humbling Magnificent Mike	p. 192
Transforming Traditional Tom	p. 209
Conclusion	p. 229
Answer Key for Checkup Questions	p. 231
Index	p. 235
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