Stories Mediators Tell

by Love, Lela P.; Parker, Glenn

• ISBN13: 9781634256742
• ISBN10: 1634256743
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2018-03-07
• Publisher: American Bar Association

Author Biography

Lela Porter Love is a professor of law at Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law (NYC), where she leads the Kukin Program for Conflict Resolution. She founded (in 1985) and directs Cardozo’s Mediation Clinic, one of the first in the United States to train law students as mediators. Lela serves as a mediator for a variety of case types, including community, employment, family, probate, human rights, and commercial cases, and trains mediators around the world. As Past Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution, she initiated the first International Mediation Leadership Summit at the Peace Palace in The Hague. She has written widely on the topic of dispute resolution, including three law school textbooks and two books about mediation. Her book The Middle Voice, co-authored with Joseph Stulberg, has been translated into two languages.

Glen Parker is a Principal Court Analyst at the Office of Alternative Dispute Resolution Programs in the New York State Unified Court System, where he serves on the team that supports and oversees the numerous mediation centers throughout the state. As his first career path after law school, Glen has served in the field of alternative dispute resolution (ADR) in a number of capacities, most recently as the Restorative Justice Manager of the New York Peace Institute (NYPI), and many years ago as a member of the Mediation Working Group for Occupy Wall Street. He is currently on the board of directors for the Association for Conflict Resolution of Greater New York, and a circle keeper for Hidden Water, a nonprofit group that supports healing through restorative practices in family systems affected by child sexual abuse. Glen teaches and trains in restorative justice and conflict resolution and is an adjunct professor at Cardozo School of Law, where he served as a Fellow of the Kukin Program for Conflict Resolution. Glen received his B.A. in philosophy at SUNY Purchase and his J.D. and LL.M. (Dispute Resolution and Advocacy) at Cardozo School of Law.

Table of Contents

Part 1	Finding the Hidden Vein of Gold	1
Chapter 1	Tower of Babel, Jeremy Lack (Switzerland)	3
Chapter 2	The Matryoshka Case, Tsisana
	Shamlikashvili (Russia)	21
Chapter 3	Let Your Soul Be Your Pilot: A Labor Mediation,
	Mohamed Alli Chicktay (South Africa)	37
Part 2	Don’t Stay Where You’re to, Come
	Where We’re at	51
Chapter 4	Opening the Gate, Joanna Kalowski (Australia)	53
Chapter 5	Clash on the Construction Site: A Real
	Estate Dispute, Andrew Wei-Min Lee (China)	57
Chapter 6	Dumbbells, Defibrillators, and
	Different Legal Cultures, Colin Wall (Hong Kong)	67
Part 3	With Process Expertise Only	77
Chapter 7	Do You Hear Me?, Thierry Garby (France)	79
Chapter 8	The Dentist’s Chair and the Rolling Stones,
	Srdan Šimac (Croatia)	87
Part 4	It’s about the Encounter, Not the agreement	103
Chapter 9	Variations on a Theme, Thierry Garby (France)	105
Chapter 10	Healing an Unnecessarily Deep Rift,Tony Allen (UK) 115

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Chapter 11	Mediating a Medical Matter, Tat Lim (Singapore)	125
Part 5	Bringing Family Back	141
Chapter 12	Family Reunited, Laila Ollapally (India)	143
Chapter 13	A Scottish Castle and Family Ties,
	Ewan A. Malcolm (Scotland)	153
Part 6	agreement Without accord	161
Chapter 14	Agreement Without Accord, Karl Mackie (UK)	163
Chapter 15	Home: Sanctuary or Salvation?,
	Ashok Panikkar (India)	177
Chapter 16	Can’t Get No Satisfaction, Sherif Elnegahy
	(Eygpt/Scotland)	189
Part 7	Stepping into the Middle	201
Chapter 17	Whose Children?, Greg Bond (Germany)	203
Chapter 18	An Improv Mediation, Prathamesh D. Popat
	(India)	219
Chapter 19	Building Circles of Trust, Sukhsimranjit Singh
	(India/US)	229
Part 8	the Power of New Parties	243
Chapter 20	Grandma Mare, Mushegh Manukyan (Armenia)	245
Chapter 21	It Really Happened in Frankfurt, Jawad Sarwana
	(Pakistan)	261
Part 9	New tools, Outside Influences,
	and Unforeseen Events	277
Chapter 22	Training Day and A Bag Of Balls, Brad Heckman
	(US/Slovakia)	279
Chapter 23	Have a Conflict? Turn on Your TV!, María Cristina
	Camelino (Argentina)	287

Chapter 24	An Inspired Change of Mind, Eileen Carroll (UK)	299
Chapter 25	A Fatal Eight Final, Ursula Caser and Lia
	Vasconcelos (Portugal)	311
Part 10	Mediation Can Be Magical	327
Chapter 26	A Christmastime Mediation, Srdan Šimac
	(Croatia)	329

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