Stronger Day by Day : Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding after Divorce

by Pease Gadoua, Susan

• ISBN13: 9781572248090
• ISBN10: 1572248092
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2010-08-01
• Publisher: New Harbinger Pubns Inc

Summary

Written by a professional divorce mediator and coach, Stronger Day by Day offers daily reflections and insights readers can turn to as they navigate through this emotionally turbulent time. Chapters focus on common stages and feelings that people undergoing divorce experience, including grief, resistance to change, and confusion. Within each chapter, Susan Pease Gadoua offers five-minute meditation exercises that encourage the reader to reflect and heal from the pain and confusion of divorce. Each of these meditations includes a question for readers to ponder throughout the day to gain new insight into their divorce and plans for the future. While most of the meditations deal with the emotional issues surrounding divorce, several exercises offer practical guidance for dealing with the legal system and seeking support from family, friends, and organizations.

Author Biography

Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW, is founder and executive director of the Transition Institute of Marin in the greater San Francisco Bay Area, an agency that provides coaching, therapy, and workshops to people who are at some stage of marital dissolution.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Introduction	p. 1
Into the Unknown	p. 4
Divorce isn't Easy, But it's Doable	p. 7
Physical Well-Being	p. 10
Reaching for the Sun	p. 12
Restraint of Tongue and Pen	p. 15
Sharing Your Pain	p. 18
Stages of Grief	p. 21
Denial	p. 24
Anger	p. 26
Bargaining	p. 29
Depression	p. 32
Acceptance	p. 35
Roller-Coaster Ride	p. 38
Embracing Pain	p. 40
Courage	p. 43
Character	p. 46
A Better Divorce	p. 49
Your Own Pace	p. 52
Don't Believe Everything You Think	p. 55
Challenges and Gifts	p. 58
Showing Up	p. 61
Making Promises	p. 64
Nothing Extra	p. 67
If Only	p. 70
What Will People Think?	p. 73
Deep Pain	p. 75
Tears	p. 78
Expectations	p. 81
Patience	p. 84
Disposition	p. 87
Limited Visibility	p. 90
The Enemy Inside	p. 93
Divorce Through Different Lenses	p. 96
The Vulnerability of Intimacy	p. 101
Fear and Ambivalence	p. 104
The Art of Being Assertive	p. 107
Priorities	p. 110
Getting Quiet	p. 113
Perception	p. 116
Resistance to Change	p. 118
True Friends	p. 121
Being Stretched	p. 124
Dark Days	p. 127
Security	p. 130
Planting Seeds	p. 133
An Unresolved Heart	p. 136
Building Community	p. 138
Feeling Hatred	p. 141
Perspective	p. 144
You are Loved	p. 147
The New Normal	p. 150
Solutions and Problems	p. 153
Letting Go of Your Story in Order to Heal	p. 156
Try Something New	p. 159
Your Life After Divorce	p. 162
Faith	p. 165
Becoming More Conscious	p. 168
Moving Through Your Anger	p. 171
Setting Goals	p. 175
Life as it is, Not as you Would Have it be	p. 179
Blessing Your Spouse	p. 183
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