Sync Your Relationship, Save Your Marriage Four Steps to Getting Back on Track

by Fraenkel, Peter, Ph.D.

• ISBN13: 9780230618145
• ISBN10: 0230618146
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2011-03-15
• Publisher: St. Martin's Press

Summary

In this harried and time-pressed world, couples fall out of synch, and, eventually, out of love. Couple relationships are tested by time pressures from all sides: mobile phones and laptops provide a constant flood of urgent emails and phone calls, making work require our utmost attention. Whatever time's left is often consumed attending to daily chores, your children's busy lives, caring for aging parents, and squeezing in some exercise and sleep. Finding time to make your couple relationship great may seem like an impossible hurdle. If you don't know how to harness the powerful resource of time and rhythm, time can become a destructive force that alienates you from your partner. Internationally-acclaimed couples therapist and CUNY professor of psychology Peter Fraenkel argues that relationship time problems are completely soluble when you achieve a clearer understanding of each partner's inner and outer rhythms. He offers an entirely fresh perspective on the dynamic of intimacy, and presents effective techniques to take charge of your "couple clock" and make your relationship truly satisfying. With the help of quizzes and examples of real-life couples he's helped, you'll learn how to:+ Identify the differences in your daily rhythms, life pace, punctuality, and time perspective that cause problems in communication, sex, and life planning+ Discover how your time differences attracted you in the first place and how make them work for rather than against your relationship+ Create mutually satisfying "rhythms of relationship" that balance time for work, love, friends, chores, children, and self

Author Biography

Peter Fraenkel Ph.D. is an internationally-known couple therapist with over 20 years of experience in private practice. A professor of clinical psychology at the City University of New York, where he teaches couple and family therapy, he is the founder and director of the Ackerman Institute for the Family's Center for Work and Family, former Vice President of the American Family Therapy Academy, and past director of the Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP©) at NYU’s Child Study Center.  Dr. Fraenkel has appeared frequently as a relationship expert on national and international television and radio, and in newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, New York Post, New York Observer, O Magazine, Redbook, SELF, Parent Guide, and Men's Health.  He serves as a board member of the Take Back Your Time initiative.  Married and the father of two children, in his spare time, he is a professional jazz drummer and draws upon his knowledge of music to provide a unique perspective on the rhythms of romantic relationships.

Table of Contents

Time and Rhythm: The Hidden Dimension of Intimacy	p. 1
Time in Mind: Revealing and Balancing Your Basic Time Types	p. 27
The Tortoise and the Hare: Making Peace with Pace Differences	p. 55
Syncing Your Relationship Rhythms	p. 87
Time Perspective: Prioritizing the Past, Present, and Future	p. 109
Resolving Struggles about Punctuality	p. 131
The Great Juggling Act, Part I: Balancing Work Time and Relationship Time	p. 151
The Great Juggling Act, Part II: Couple Strategies for Balancing Work Time and Relationship Time	p. 177
Syncing and Flowing as a Couple	p. 205
Acknowledgments	p. 239
Notes	p. 243
Index	p. 261
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