Torn Asunder Recovering From an Extramarital Affair

by Carder, Dave; Jaenicke, Duncan; Townsend, Dr. John

• ISBN13: 9780802471352
• ISBN10: 0802471358
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2008-10-01
• Publisher: Moody Publishers

Summary

Written by respected pastor and marriage counselor Dave Carder, this revised and expanded version of Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners. With compassion and wisdom rooted in the Bible, Carder offers insight for the victims of adultery, the perpetrators, and those who seek to help hurting couples.

Author Biography

Dave Carder currently serves as pastor responsible for counseling ministries at the First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, California

Table of Contents

Foreword	p. 9
Acknowledgments	p. 11
Prologue: A Letter from "The Other Woman"	p. 13
Understanding Extramarital Affairs
"What God Hath Joined Together": In Pursuit of Healing for Shattered Marriages	p. 23
Sorting Out the Chaos: The One-Night Stand and Sexual Addiction	p. 47
Sorting Out the Chaos: The Entangled Affair and the Add-on Affair	p. 63
Causes: Environments that Allow Affairs to Flourish	p. 79
Other Factors Contributing to Infidelity	p. 97
Healing from Affairs
Understanding the Recovery: The Infidel's Process	p. 117
Understanding the Recovery: The Spouse's Process	p. 131
Why? Deciphering the Message of the Affair	p. 145
Anger in Affairs: Getting Good Out of Getting Mad	p. 169
Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding Trust	p. 193
"And They Shall Be as One": Restructuring Intimacy	p. 217
Special Circumstances
To Tell or Not to Tell? The Secret Affair	p. 237
Emotional Affairs: Hooked, Played-Out, and Desperate for Release	p. 249
When Your Spouse Doesn't Want You Back: The 90-Day Experiment	p. 261
What to Tell the Kids	p. 293
Materials for Use with a Couples' Support Group	p. 297
Marital Satisfaction Time Line	p. 307
Selected Marriage and Recovery Resources	p. 311
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