Touchpoints-Three to Six

by Brazelton, T. Berry; Sparrow, Joshua

• ISBN13: 9780738206783
• ISBN10: 0738206784
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2002-10-18
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

Summary

For decades, new parents have relied on Dr. Brazelton's wisdom. But all "Brazelton babies" grow up. Now at last, the internationally famous pediatrician, in collaboration with an eminent child psychiatrist, has brought his unique insights to the "magic" preschool and first-grade years.Through delightful profiles of four very different children, the authors apply the touchpoints theory (following the pattern of growth-new challenge-reegression-recharging-and renewed growth) to each of the great cognitive, behavioral, and emotional leaps that occur from age three to six. In the second, alphabetical, half of the book they offer precious guidance to parents facing contemporary pressures and stresses, such as how to keep a child safe without instilling fear, countering the electronic barrage of violent games and marketing aimed at children, coping successfully with varied family configurations, over-scheduling, competition, and many other vital issues today. A Merloyd Lawrence Book

Author Biography

T. Berry Brazelton, M.D., founder of the Child Development Unit at Children's Hospital Boston, is Clinical Professor of Pediatrics Emeritus at Harvard Medical School and Professor of Pediatrics and Human Development at Brown University. He is a famed advocate for children, and his many other internationally acclaimed books for parents include To Listen to a Child, Infants and Mothers, and, with Stanley I. Greenspan, M.D., The Irreducible Needs of Children. Joshua D. Sparrow, M.D child psychiatrist and supervisor of inpatient psychiatry at Children's Hospital Boston, is Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, and Associate Director of Training at the Brazelton Touchpoints Center. He is co-author with Dr. Brazelton of Touchpoints Three to Six and several titles in the Brazelton Way series.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	vii
Introduction	xv
One THE YEARS FROM THREE TO SIX
Three Years Old: What I Do Matters	3	(88)
On the Playground	3	(8)
Temperament	11	(8)
A ``Difficult Child''	15	(4)
Learning	19	(17)
Curiosity	19	(4)
Gender Differences	23	(4)
Language and Speech	27	(6)
Time and Space	33	(3)
Moral Development	36	(13)
Empathy	36	(2)
Aggression: Figthting, and Biting	38	(3)
Discipline	41	(4)
Temper Tantrums	45	(3)
Discipline Guidelines	48	(1)
Relationships: Building a Family	49	(17)
The New Baby: Parents' Issues	49	(3)
A Potty-Training Problem	52	(5)
The New Baby: A Sibling Adjusts	57	(7)
Turning from One Parent to the Other	64	(2)
Independence and Separation	66	(22)
Childcare	66	(10)
Preparing for Separations	76	(1)
Blankets, Loveys, and Thumbs	77	(3)
Reunions and Rituals	80	(4)
Mealtimes	84	(2)
Sleep Problems	86	(2)
Three, and Beyond	88	(3)
Four Years Old: New Power, New Fears	91	(82)
Halloween Party	91	(4)
Temperament	95	(20)
Individual Differences	95	(9)
Learning Self-control	104	(7)
A Setback Becomes an Opportunity	111	(4)
Learning	115	(24)
Magical Thinking: Making Room for the Real	115	(4)
Cops and Robbers, Witches and Queens	119	(1)
Imaginary Friends	120	(3)
Make-believe	123	(3)
Curiosity About Differences	126	(3)
Gender Differences	129	(3)
Sexuality	132	(7)
Moral Development	139	(17)
Lies and Fantasy	139	(3)
Stealing	142	(1)
Aggression, Anger, Fears	142	(4)
Learning Limits	146	(5)
Discipline Guidelines Revisited	151	(1)
The Beginnings of Conscience	152	(2)
The Rewards of Manners	154	(2)
Relationships: Building a Family	156	(8)
Helping	156	(2)
Making and Giving	158	(1)
Grandparents	159	(3)
Sibling Rivalry	162	(2)
Independence and Separation	164	(9)
Turning from One Parent to the Other	164	(4)
The Need for Both Parents	168	(5)
Five Years Old: Who I Am Matters	173	(66)
Birthday Party	173	(6)
Temperament	179	(10)
A Vulnerable Child	179	(4)
A Confident Child	183	(3)
An Active Child	186	(3)
Learning	189	(22)
Nightmares and New Fears	189	(5)
Farewell to a Fantasy	194	(4)
Make-believe	198	(2)
Games	200	(2)
Play and Healing	202	(1)
Imaginary Friends	203	(4)
Sexuality	207	(4)
Moral Development	211	(10)
Living with Angry Feelings	211	(3)
From Self-awareness to Empathy	214	(2)
Discipline	216	(2)
Stealing, Lying	218	(3)
Relationships: Building a Family	221	(8)
Helping	221	(1)
Self-esteem and Praise	222	(3)
Turning from One Parent to the Other	225	(3)
Parents and Gender Roles	228	(1)
Separation and Independence	229	(10)
Standing Up to Teasing	229	(3)
Belonging to Kindergarten	232	(7)
Six Years Old: Entering the Real World	239	(232)
The First Day of First Grade	239	(7)
Temperament	246	(14)
An Active Child	246	(3)
Identifying Hyperactivity	249	(2)
Calming an Active Child	251	(3)
A Vulnerable Child	254	(2)
A Child Who Copes	256	(2)
An Outgoing Child	258	(2)
Learning	260	(20)
Gender Differences	260	(4)
Reading and Writing	264	(2)
From Support to Self-Motivation	266	(1)
A Learning Disability	267	(6)
Challenge and Opportunity	273	(2)
The Costs of Learning	275	(3)
Birds and Bees Again	278	(2)
Moral Development	280	(8)
Aggression and Self-esteem	280	(1)
Cheating	281	(2)
Why Is It Tattling If I Was Supposed to Tell You?	283	(1)
Stealing	284	(1)
Learning About Right and Wrong from Siblings	285	(1)
A Child Who Copes	286	(2)
Building Relationships: Making Friends	288	(5)
First-Grade Friendships	288	(2)
A Parent's Role in Children's Friendships	290	(3)
Independence and Separation	293	(18)
``Just a Few Days''	293	(2)
Do Guinea Pigs Go to Heaven?	295	(1)
A Grandparent's Death	296	(3)
Self-esteem in First Grade	299	(6)
Steps into a Larger World	305	(6)
Two FACING CHALLENGES AS A FAMILY
Adoption	311	(11)
Asthma	322	(4)
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)	326	(4)
Birth Order	330	(3)
Childcare	333	(6)
Chores and Allowances	339	(2)
Computers	341	(5)
Differences	346	(5)
Disabilities: Children's Questions and Reactions	351	(4)
Divorce	355	(4)
Families of All Kinds	359	(11)
Food and Food Problems	370	(4)
Grandparents	374	(5)
Habits	379	(3)
Home Schooling	382	(3)
Honesty	385	(4)
Humor	389	(4)
Illness and Hospitalization	393	(4)
Loss and Grief	397	(4)
Manners	401	(4)
Moving	405	(4)
Sadness and Depression	409	(4)
Safety	413	(9)
Sensory Integration Dysfunction	422	(3)
Sexuality	425	(7)
Sleep	432	(8)
Special Needs	440	(6)
Speech Delays	446	(3)
Swearing and Dirty Words	449	(2)
Television	451	(4)
Toilet Learning Problems Revisited	455	(5)
Toys	460	(3)
Working and Caring	463	(8)
Resources	471	(4)
Bibliography	475	(8)
Index	483	(16)
Photo Credits	499	(2)
About the Authors	501