Triangle of Truth : The Surprisingly Simple Secret to Resolving Conflicts Large and Small

by McLeod, Lisa Earle (Author)

• ISBN13: 9780399535673
• ISBN10: 0399535675
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2010-01-05
• Publisher: Perigee Trade

Summary

"Will make you laugh today and provide insights you can use on Monday morning." -Tom Rath, author of How Full is Your Bucket? Buddha called it the Middle Path, Albert Einstein used it to reconcile competing beliefs about science and religion, and Barack Obama applied it to politics and skyrocketed into the Oval Office. It's the Triangle of Truth-a concept that is both old and new, and it's the secret to solving problems everywhere from the bedroom to the boardroom and beyond. Drawing on wisdom from some of the world's greatest thinkers, McLeod delivers a problem-solving model that goes beyond either/or thinking, recasting the debate on everything from sex and politics to business and religion. A blend of personal insight, business wisdom, everyday spirituality and humor, The Triangle of Truthis a just-in-time read for anyone who is tired of arguments, angst, and stalemates and is ready for real solutions to every problem, large or small.

Author Biography

Lisa Earle McLeod is a nationally syndicated newspaper columnist, business consultant, and inspirational thought-leader whose work has been seen in the New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Beliefnet.com, The Huffington Post, and The Wall Street Journal. A repeat guest on Good Morning America, Lisa lectures internationally and lives in Atlanta.

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. xi
What Do Mary Kay Buddha, and Elvis Know That You Don't?
Embrace And	p. 1
Why Either/Or Thinking Ruins Everything
Why Other People Drive us Nuts	p. 3
The Flawed And Fabulous Dichotomy of Human Nature	p. 4
Either/Or: The Bane of Human Existence	p. 6
Harnessing the Power of And	p. 8
Intellectually Understandable, Emotionally Challenging	p. 12
Why a Single Triangle Solves Millions of Problems	p. 15
Filed Under Flawed	p. 18
The Truth About Other People	p. 20
Make Peace with Ambiguity	p. 25
How Fear and Uncertainty Flatline Our Thinking
This is Your Brain on Fear	p. 26
The "I Can't Hear You" Brain-Lock	p. 29
Fear ignites Either/Or, Love Inspires And	p. 31
Love Lessons from the Hanoi Hilton	p. 35
Pessimism Versus Optimism: A False Choice	p. 40
What POWs Teach Us About Choosing Our Thoughts	p. 44
Why Faith is Different from Optimism	p. 46
A Very Expensive Lesson	p. 49
Two Game-Changing Dualities	p. 56
The Secret to Mastering the Triangle	p. 58
Hold Space for Other Perspectives	p. 61
Solving the Your Agenda Versus My Agenda Quagmire
The Sales Rep Who Loved	p. 64
Why Your Body is Smarter than Your Brain	p. 68
What the World of Sales Teaches Us about Assimilating Truths	p. 70
What Differentiates the Superstars	p. 73
Same Message, Different Results	p. 75
A Subtle Shift of Focus	p. 78
How You Organize Your Mind	p. 80
It's Not You, it's Me (So Please Stick to the Subject)	p. 84
Once More with Feeling	p. 87
A Question of Timing	p. 88
Interesting Versus Interested	p. 90
Who's Afraid to Let the Other Guy Talk?	p. 91
Why Love Means Never Having to Say, "Yes, But"	p. 93
Act as If	p. 99
Can I Get a Witness?	p. 101
Seek Higher Ground	p. 105
How to Rise Above the Comfort and Convenience of False Choices
We Hold these Truths to Be Complementary	p. 112
The Myth of the Middle Ground	p. 114
The Bumpy Path to Greatness	p. 117
The "Therefore" Trap	p. 120
Crossovers: Problematic and Successful (Sometimes)	p. 123
Why John Adams Sold the Declaration, but Garth Brooks Couldn't Sell Chris Gaines	p. 125
Are You My Thomas Jefferson?	p. 130
Male Versus Female: A Dichotomy Worth Mastering	p. 133
False Choices of Substance and Style	p. 134
The Third Path: A Call to Intellectual Maturity	p. 137
Discern Intent	p. 143
Discovering the Real Truth Behind Imperfect Solutions
Judgment Versus Discernment	p. 147
Survival Techniques of the Lizard	p. 151
Discerning Their Truth, Even When You're Annoyed	p. 153
First Truth Versus Second Truth Battles	p. 156
Imperfect Solutions: Turf Wars	p. 159
Discerning Intent in Emotionally Charged Debates	p. 161
The Either/Or Debate That Tops Them All	p. 164
Be the Hero (Somebody Has To)	p. 168
Elevate Others	p. 171
How to Change the Way Other People Think and Why You Should Even Bother to Try
Elevating the Conversation	p. 173
Big Questions, Little Stories	p. 175
The Doorbell Dynamic	p. 175
Ask And Tell	p. 178
Criticizing Versus Inviting	p. 181
Locked and Loaded Questions	p. 182
Once Upon a Triangle	p. 183
Why Some Stories Work Better than Others	p. 186
How Sharing Perspectives Unlocks Creativity	p. 189
Beyond Balance	p. 190
A Special Note for Leaders	p. 193
Why We're All Called to Lead	p. 196
Be The Peace	p. 199
How to solve the Conflict in Our Head by Changing the Spirit in Our Heart
The Triangle of Truth	p. 205
Seven Principles
Triangle of Truth Tools	p. 207
Acknowledgments	p. 209
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