The Truth about Cheating Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It

by Neuman, M. Gary

• ISBN13: 9780470502136
• ISBN10: 0470502134
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2009-10-12
• Publisher: Wiley

Summary

The New York Times bestselling look at the real reasons for male marital infidelity, and what might prevent itFew events cause as much turmoil in a marriage as infidelity. It can shatter trust and breed insecurity and resentment from which some relationships never recover. People who think it won't happen to them are hit that much harder when it does. Why are men unfaithful? Can infidelity be prevented? What do men say they're getting from their mistresses that they're missing at home? Do a man's friends have anything to do with his willingness to cheat?In this New York Times bestselling book, experienced family counselor Gary Neuman shares the revealing and surprising findings of a cutting-edge research study in which he interviewed men across the country who have physically cheated on their wives. Neuman shares many shocking discoveries, including the prominent role of emotional dissatisfaction in motivating husbands who stray and how small a role sexual dissatisfaction plays. Based on original research on 100 men from 48 states who have been unfaithful to their wives and 100 others who have remained faithful Reveals surprising findings on the contribution of sexual and emotional dissatisfaction to male infidelity Written by experienced family counselor M. Gary Neuman, author of What Women Want and Emotional Infidelity Neuman and The Truth about Cheating were featured twice on The Oprah Winfrey ShowDrawing on dramatic case stories of the author's own work with clients, The Truth about Cheating includes proactive strategies and action steps for married women to help them prevent infidelity, and create a faithful and rewarding marriage.

Author Biography

M. Gary Neuman is a licensed family counselor and rabbi, the coauthor of In Good Times and Bad, and the author of Emotional infidelity and Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way. A frequent guest on Oprah, he has also appeared multiple times on Today, Good Morning America, The View, and National Public Radio. He and his work have been featured in People, Time, Parents, and other major publications Neuman is the creator of Marriage Turnaround Intensive, an innovative all-day approach to couples therapy. He maintains a private practice in Miami Beach, where he lives with his wife and five children. Visit his Web site at www.mgaryneuman.com.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Why and How Men Cheat
This Book Will Change Your Marriage	p. 3
The Real Reasons Men Cheat	p. 15
Quick Action Program: Step One; Keep Tabs on His Friends and Family	p. 34
Warning Bells, Cheating Signals, and Lying Signs	p. 43
Quick Action Program: Step Two: Change the Cheating Signals	p. 48
Quick Action Program: Step Three: Get Involved in His Work and Play Lives	p. 59
Understanding the Male Mind: Connecting Emotionally	p. 63
Quick Action Program: Step Four: Practice Emotional Giving	p. 87
The Power of Sex	p. 91
How to Improve Your Marriage
Insightful Change: The Inner Voice Recognition Formula	p. 115
Quick Action Program: Step Five: Emotional Giving	p. 134
Quick Action Program: Step Six: Sex	p. 148
Lessons from Successful Marriages	p. 151
Caring for Yourself	p. 161
Responding to Your Husband's Love	p. 171
Quick Action Program: Step Seven: Finding the Time to Love	p. 179
Epilogue: What We've Learned about What You Can Do	p. 181
Will Therapy Help?	p. 185
Healing after an Affair	p. 193
Recommended Reading	p. 209
Index	p. 211
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