Understanding the Borderline Mother Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship

by Lawson, Christine Ann

• ISBN13: 9780765703316
• ISBN10: 0765703319
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2002-07-01
• Publisher: Jason Aronson, Inc.

Summary

Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix
Preface	xi
Introduction	xv
Make-Believe Mothers	1	(30)
The Darkness Within	31	(22)
The Waif Mother	53	(24)
The Hermit Mother	77	(22)
The Queen Mother	99	(20)
The Witch Mother	119	(32)
Make-Believe Children	151	(24)
Fairy-Tale Fathers	175	(24)
Loving the Waif Without Rescuing Her	199	(26)
Loving the Hermit Without Feeding Her Fear	225	(22)
Loving the Queen Without Becoming Her Subject	247	(22)
Living with the Witch Without Becoming Her Victim	269	(22)
Living Backwards	291	(18)
References	309	(8)
Index	317