UpDating! : How to Capture the Man or Woman You Once Thought Out of Your League

by Lowndes, Leil

• ISBN13: 9780071403092
• ISBN10: 0071403094
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2003-12-15
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill

Summary

You know you're too good for the pool of potential partners you've been swimming in.

Author Biography

Leil Lowndes (New York, NY) is one of today's most sought-after communication consultants. She is the author of the international bestsellers How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You and How to Be a People Magnet

Table of Contents

Introduction	ix
What's Keeping Me Back? So Why Do I Keep Dating Frogs?	1	(24)
Bugs and Beasts Are Smarter When Choosing a Mate	2	(1)
Hang-Up #1: Fear of Failure	3	(1)
Hang-Up #2: Staying with the Familiar	4	(1)
Hang-Up #3: Being Emotionally Needy	5	(1)
Hang-Up #4: Feeling Life and Love Are Predestined	5	(2)
What If Some Frogs Still Turn Me On?	7	(2)
Time to Play for Keeps	9	(2)
All Proven Fact, No Pulp Fiction	11	(1)
Researchers Write in a Code Called Impossible to Read	12	(2)
So What's the Secret?	14	(1)
The Horse-Trading Principle of Love	15	(4)
You Gotta Be One to Get One	19	(1)
Birds of a Royal Feather	20	(1)
Similarity Runs Even Deeper	21	(2)
The Big Bonus	23	(2)
You Won't Find Your Prince or Princess Until You Go Cold Turkey on Frogs: Paving the Path for a Better Mate	25	(36)
How Do I Start?	26	(2)
Doing the Dirty Deed	28	(3)
The Ditching Dilemma	31	(1)
Women, You Must Ditch or Drown	32	(4)
Men, Get in Touch with Your Inner Coward	36	(3)
Good-Bye, Old Frog---Hello, New Prince(ess)	39	(2)
Ya Gotta Know da Habits of da Critter	41	(1)
Inspect Your Own Feathers	42	(1)
You Gotta Be a Human Chameleon	43	(2)
Fake It til You Make It	45	(1)
The ``Location, Location, Location'' Law of Love	46	(1)
Crossing Paths	47	(3)
Familiarity Breeds Contempt---but Not in Courting!	50	(1)
The ``Mere Exposure'' Rule of Love	51	(5)
How Gillian Got Her Prince	56	(2)
Digging Deeper	58	(3)
How to Find a Drop-Dead Gorgeous Mate: The Challenge of Capturing a Beautiful Princes or Handsome Prince	61	(24)
What If I'm Not a ``Looker''?	62	(2)
Whose Looks Are More Vital: A Woman's or a Man's?	64	(2)
Here's the Skinny on Getting a Gorgeous Partner	66	(1)
Why He or She Digs That Turkey (and Not Me, f'Instance)	66	(7)
Flattery Won't Get You Anywhere with a Looker	73	(8)
I Love You for the Reasons You Love Yourself	81	(4)
How to Capture a Rich or ``High-Class'' Mate: Class Is Not a Dirty Word	85	(46)
So What's ``Classy''?	87	(7)
Decorating Your Pad to Impress a Royal	94	(8)
How Classy Is Your Home?	102	(4)
The Classy Car---It's Not What You'd Think!	106	(6)
Classy and Classless Fun and Games	112	(2)
I Haven't Got a Thing to Wear!	114	(9)
The Most Accurate Class Indicator	123	(3)
How Important Are Looks to Classy People?	126	(3)
Now Are You Sure You Want It?	129	(2)
How to Find an Honorable Mate: Where Have All the Good Men and Women Gone?	131	(34)
No Slipups in Your Scruples Diet	136	(1)
Coming Clean Counts	137	(2)
Why Does This Need for Similarity Run So Deep?	139	(1)
Character Count	140	(2)
The Prince Who Turned Out to Be a Frog	142	(3)
Come Across as a ``Really Good Person'' from the Get-Go	145	(1)
Integrity as Bait	146	(3)
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun---Not!	149	(2)
Your Home Is Not Your Castle---It's a Peek into Your Soul	151	(2)
The Minute She Enters Your Office, She's Sherlock Holmes	153	(2)
A Word to Wise Women	155	(1)
Different Kinds of Similarities	155	(1)
Fake It and You'll Break It	156	(4)
What About ``Opposites Attract''?	160	(1)
Sometimes the Need for Similarity Is Crazy	161	(4)
How to Capture a Magical One-of-a-kind Mate: Taming the X-Royal	165	(14)
Tracking Down X-Royals in Their Natural Habitat	167	(1)
Xs Use Brains, Not Brawn, to Get What They Want	168	(2)
Make Sure You Really Want an X-Royal	170	(1)
A Triple X-Rated Royal	171	(4)
Be Yourself, Your Most Interesting Self	175	(4)
The Crucial Confidence Factor: Self-Concept Is Everything	179	(26)
Self-Confidence Reigns in the Royal's Kingdom	182	(1)
You Don't Make the First Move	183	(2)
You Blow the Relationship	185	(3)
You Won't Be Able to Love Your Royal Successfully	188	(1)
We Know the Sickness---What's the Cure?	189	(2)
It Works the Other Way, Too	191	(2)
Be Careful What You Wish For (You Just Might Get It!)	193	(7)
The Last Word	200	(5)
Notes	205	(4)
Index	209