What Brothers Think, What Sistahs Know

by Millner, Denene

• ISBN13: 9780688164980
• ISBN10: 0688164986
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 1999-01-01
• Publisher: HarperCollins Publications

Summary

From the author of The Sistahs' Rules and her husband comes a Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus for African Americans.Denene Millner's sassy, shrewd reaction to The Rules became a bestseller. The Sistahs' Rules spent six months on the BlackBoard list. Then, proving the value of her own advice about dating and mating, Denene married Brother Mr. Right, Nick Chiles. Once she'd laid claim to his heart, she took a really long look at his head to find out what his words and actions really meant. Together they decided to go boldly where few couples dare: inside the minds of a sistah and a brotha to reveal the real deal on what Black men think of commitment, monogamy, and other mysteries--and what sistahs know about staying true to themselves.What Brothers Think, What Sistahs Know is the first book for African Americans that decodes the inscrutable ways of the opposite sex. In this funny, honest, provocative book, Millner and Chiles step across the great divide to create--once and for all--real understanding between sistahs and brothers. They give the real deal on:* The perfect date * Why brothers think all sistahs are angry * Why so many men could run down Michael Johnson in an effort to escape commitment * Whether it's fair for sistahs to scream when brothers chase white girls * Why good sex mattersWhat Brothers Think, What Sistahs Know covers everything from first dates to lasting commitments, from myths and misunderstandings between brothas and sistahs to the kind of communication that fosters love and respect. It reveals, for the very first time, the motivations and fears coursing through that warm-blooded animal on the other side of the bed.

Author Biography

Denene Millner and Nick Chiles live in South Orange, New Jersey. She is a reporter for the New York Daily News; he is a reporter for the Star-Ledger of New Jersey.

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. xi
Prologue	p. 1
The Meeting Stage	p. 5
Yoo-hoo! Over Here: How Do We Get Your Attention?	p. 7
The Huff and Puff Syndrome: Why Do Brothers Think All Sistahs Are Mad?	p. 17
How Much Does Appearance Really Count?	p. 26
Impressions: What Makes You Want My Digits?	p. 34
Playas	p. 48
The Digits: What Makes You Call Again?	p. 58
Work It: What Should We Do to Achieve the Perfect Date?	p. 66
Baggage	p. 74
White Girls	p. 82
Gimme the Loot: Am I a Gold Digger Because I Want My Man to Be Paid?	p. 92
Getting the Love You Need	p. 103
Stop! In the Name of Love: What's Wrong with Taking It Slow?	p. 105
You're My Guy, She's My Girl: Can't We All Just Get Along?	p. 114
Intimidation: Why Does He Keep Running Away?	p. 122
Finding Time for Each Other	p. 130
Skeletons	p. 140
Cohabitation: How Do You Feel About Shacking Up?	p. 150
Refined or Freaky?	p. 158
Couples and Conflict: How Do We Deal?	p. 168
Getting Serious About Getting Serious	p. 176
The Big "C": The Ring, the Ceremony, Forever	p. 187
Keeping It Alive	p. 197
Appearance After the Hookup: What's Wrong with Comfortable?	p. 199
Who's Responsible for My Happiness?	p. 210
Sex: Hell Yeah It Still Matters	p. 221
Family Affairs: Mama, Daddy and Us	p. 232
Work: Are We in Competition?	p. 242
Emotions: Can We Get Some?	p. 252
Romance: How Can We Get Some?	p. 264
Division of Labor: Can Ya Help Me?	p. 273
Hit the Road, Jack: Knowing When to Say "Enough"	p. 284
Keeping It New: How Concerned Are We with Keeping It Hot, Hot, Hot?	p. 291
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