What Could He Be Thinking? How a Man's Mind Really Works

by Gurian, Michael

• ISBN13: 9780312311490
• ISBN10: 0312311494
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2004-09-26
• Publisher: Griffin

Summary

Having studied how boys and girls develop differently, Michael Gurian turns his attention to adult men in this entertaining, informative, and groundbreaking book on the male brain. Following two decades of neurobiological research, What Could He Be Thinking? answers the questions women and the world are asking about husbands, fathers, boyfriends, and coworkers. Mixing neurobiology with Gurian's very readable style, anecdotes from everyday life, and a new vision of the male psyche, the book will satisfy the tremendous curiosity women and our culture have about the roots of male behavior. Women know intuitively that men are different from them. What women are now just coming to realize is that the men they are married to, having sex with, working with, parenting with, and trying to fathom, act and think in very male ways, not only because they are socialized to do so, but because they are built to--neurobiologically. The new field of brain science has revealed wonderful secrets about a man's mind. In this book, women who are eager to understand the men in their lives can discover the new brain science in an entertaining way, as they get answers to the prime question every woman asks at some time in her life: What could he be thinking? The book provides fascinating information about the male brain, male habits, male tendencies, and the nuances of men's actions and thoughts. It is a provacative, exciting vision into the minds of men.

Author Biography

Michael Gurian has published eighteen books in seven disciplines. A pioneering social philosopher, he has authored four national bestsellers, translated into fourteen languages, including the groundbreaking The Wonder of Boys, A Fine Young Man, and The Wonder of Girls. He is cofounder of the Gurian Institute, which conducts research and trains internationally in male/female brain difference. He is also a novelist. He lives in Spokane, Washington, with his wife Gail, and their two daughters.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. xi
Introduction: What Could He Be Thinking?	p. xiii
The Science of Manhood	p. xvii
The Nature of a Man	p. xx
A Note of Gratitude	p. xxiii
The Male Brain
What's in His Head: A Friendly Look at the Male Brain	p. 3
Can We Really Know What He's Thinking?	p. 5
A Friendly Look at the Male Brain	p. 6
Avoiding Stereotypes	p. 9
How Do We Recognize a Male Brain?	p. 9
The Male-Brain Questionnaire	p. 21
Bridge Brains	p. 25
The Theory of Intimate Separateness	p. 28
The Power of Natural Identity in Our Relationships	p. 31
How Nature Answers the Question, What Is a Man?	p. 33
The Despair of Men and the Core of Manhood	p. 35
The Biology of Male Identity	p. 37
Men Seek a Calling	p. 45
The Making of a Man, from the Inside Out	p. 53
Male Identity and Character Development	p. 55
Bringing It All Together: Men Are on a Quest	p. 61
The Future of the Male Quest: The Future of Testosterone	p. 65
Bridge Brains: Exceptions to the Rule	p. 67
Practicing Intimate Separateness	p. 69
What Could he Really be Thinking?
What Could He Really Be Thinking ... About Feelings and Emotions	p. 75
The Biology of Male Emotion	p. 80
The Male Mode of Feeling	p. 85
A Bottom Line: Women Trust Feelings More Than Men	p. 94
Bridge Brains: Exceptions to the Rule	p. 99
Practicing Intimate Separateness: Finding Power in the Nature of Emotional Life	p. 100
What Could He Really Be Thinking ... About Sex and Romance?	p. 105
The Biology of Sex and Romance	p. 107
How Romantic Idealization Can Make or Break Lovers' Hearts	p. 119
What Are Reasonable Romantic Expectations of One Another?	p. 123
Bridge Brains	p. 129
Practicing Intimate Separateness	p. 130
Turning Romance into Commitment and Marriage	p. 136
What Could He Really Be Thinking ... About Marriage and Commitment?
I Think I Love You: Men and the Biology of Commitment	p. 141
The Biology of Commitment	p. 147
How a Man's Relationship with His Mother Can Affect Him	p. 151
Are Men the Only Ones Who Fear Commitment?	p. 161
Bridge Brains	p. 163
Practicing Intimate Separateness	p. 164
I Know I Love You: Men and the Biology of Marriage	p. 173
The Human Divorce	p. 176
The Biology of Marriage	p. 179
A Map for Marriage	p. 189
She Says: "I Feel Fat." What Should He Do?	p. 190
We Are Too Close. Can We Come to Terms with It?	p. 196
Bridge Brains	p. 198
Practicing Intimate Separateness: Turning Marriages Around	p. 199
A Natural Optimism	p. 214
What Could He Really Be Thinking ... About Home and Children?
The Male Brain at Home: Men and Women Living Together	p. 217
The Biology of the Home	p. 219
Why Can't He See That the House Is a Mess?	p. 219
Why Can't He Load the Dishwasher the Right Way?	p. 221
Would It Kill Him to Put His Laundry Away?	p. 223
What Is It with Men and Their Cars?	p. 225
What About That Remote Control?	p. 228
Why Do Men Love to Tinker Around with Gadgets and Electronics?	p. 230
Doesn't He Realize That God Is in the Details?	p. 233
Bridge-Brain Men at Home	p. 235
Practicing Intimate Separateness in Home Life	p. 238
What a Father Knows: The Nature of Being a Dad	p. 243
The Biology of Fathering	p. 245
Don't Worry, Honey, the Kids'll Be Fine	p. 246
Don't You Even Care How the Kids Feel?	p. 251
Divorced from the Mother, but Still a Father	p. 254
The Biological Role of the Father	p. 256
Bridge-Brain Fathers	p. 260
The Practice of Intimate Separateness	p. 263
The Best Father	p. 266
Epilogue	p. 267
Notes	p. 269
About the Author	p. 277
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