What's Stopping You? Being More Confident Why Smart People Can Lack Confidence and What You Can Do About It

by Kelsey, Robert

• ISBN13: 9780857083098
• ISBN10: 0857083090
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2013-01-29
• Publisher: Capstone

Summary

A prescriptive, commonsense approach to self-confidence and success In his bestselling book, What's Stopping You, Robert Kelsey helped thousands conquer their fear of failure and unlock their full potential in life. In this follow-up to that bestseller, Kelsey again draws on extensive research and personal experience to explain the key reasons many people lack confidence in the first place. He then shows readers how to solve their confidence problems with proven tactics for building and maintaining self-assurance. Using real-life, practical situations, Kelsey explains that confidence is about knowing both what you're good at and what you're not good at. Once we understand and accept our limitations as well as our talents, truth personal growth and sustained confidence becomes possible. Follow-up to the bestseller, What's Stopping You? Written by Robert Kelsey, a journalist, banker, and entrepreneur who successfully solved his own self-confidence problem Features commonsense advice backed by research and personal experiences that anyone can relate to Self-confidence doesn't come naturally for everyone. With this new book, Robert Kelsey offers real-world solutions that really work.

Author Biography

Robert Kelsey is author of Capstone's bestselling What's Stopping You? exploring why smart people failed to reach their potential. He has gone on to sell over 64,000 copies across three What's Stopping You? titles.
Robert Kelsey is CEO of Moorgate Communications, a financial PR agency, and was previously CEO of Metrocube, a start-up incubator located in London's fashionable "City-fringes". He trained as a financial journalist before becoming an investment banker and a now an entrepreneur, running his successful PR agency.
Yet Kelsey remains and perennial outsider. From a rebellious childhood to an adulthood of pursuing a series of unsuitable careers, he has had a lifetime of failing to settle into any group activities, yet lacking the confidence, guile or know-how to profitably "rebel". Kelsey has developed an enormous insight into both the root causes of alienation and the all-encompassing negative consequences.

Table of Contents

Foreword ix

Introduction 1

Part One: Explaining poor confidence 7

1 Scripts 9

2 Mindset 22

3 Reactions 34

4 The journey 45

Part Two: The alchemy of confidence 57

5 Optimism and resilience 59

6 Self-efficacy and talent 69

7 Courage and extraversion 78

8 Trust and judgement 87

Part Three: Achievement 97

9 Identity 99

10 Goals 110

11 The plan 120

Part Four: Situations 133

12 Shyness 135

13 Developing confidence at work 147

14 Working with others 157

15 Dating 170

Part Five: Barriers 179

16 Prejudice 181

17 Procrastination 188

18 Depression 194

19 Stress and anxiety 202

20 Hubris 210

The route to confidence – in seven steps 221

What the psychologists say 224

Bibliography 233

About Robert Kelsey 237

Index 239