When Life Changes or You Wish It Would

by Adrienne, Carol

• ISBN13: 9780060188962
• ISBN10: 0060188960
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2002-05-30
• Publisher: HarperCollins Publications

Summary

The renowned counselor and workshop leader offers this guide to help readers navigate the turbulence of change. She clarifies the metamorphosis process, providing skills for handling setbacks and dead ends, and inspires readers to have faith in their abilities and vision.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	xi
Preface	xiii
Introduction	1	(8)
Embrace the Cycles of Change: How, What, When and Where are you Changing?
Where Are You in the Cycle of Change?	9	(2)
Locate Yourself on the Map of Change	11	(5)
Misperceptions That Tend to paralyze Us	16	(3)
Trust That Change is Purposeful
Imagine Yourself as a Circle of Energy	19	(1)
Your Unfolding Life Purpose Brings Meaningful Change	20	(2)
Change Comes Gradually or Abruptly but It Is Always Purposeful	22	(1)
Gateways to Something New	23	(6)
The Pace of Change Seems to Be Increasing	29	(2)
The Ego Resists Change	31	(2)
Change asks Us to Release Something	33	(1)
Change Brings a New Playing Field	34	(1)
Living with Uncertainty Helps Us Stay Flexible	35	(2)
Find the Spirit of Adventure
Leaping	37	(1)
It Was a Very Hot Summer Day	38	(3)
Jumping Off	41	(6)
There Are No Accidents	47	(2)
Ten Basic Principles for Moving Forward	49	(2)
Follow Positive Energy
A Page from Personal Experience	51	(3)
Own What Has Happened	54	(1)
Some Values Never Change---We Have an Essential Core	55	(2)
Change Requires a Leap of Faith	57	(1)
Go with the Flow---and Keep the Vision	58	(2)
Following Positive Energy Deepens Trust	60	(1)
Handling Confusion	61	(4)
Handling Endings	65	(1)
Handling Beginnings	66	(3)
Hold the Vision
Hold the Vision of What You Want	69	(1)
Desire Brings New Life and Change	70	(1)
You Create with Every Thought	71	(1)
Imagination Creates the Form	72	(2)
Be Present---It's Your Life	74	(4)
Notice How You Tell Your Story	78	(6)
Write It Down	84	(3)
Make a Vision Board	87	(2)
Pray	89	(6)
Stir the Pot	95	(1)
Cherish the Gift of Life	96	(3)
Watch For Answers
Align with Guidance	99	(1)
Answers Are Everywhere	100	(1)
Put More Heart into Where You Are	101	(2)
Do Something Different	103	(4)
Be Impeccable	107	(5)
Trust the Process
Learn to Live with Uncertainty	112	(1)
Slow Down and Wake Up	113	(2)
Hope Connects, Expectation Separates	115	(1)
It's a Dance	116	(1)
Receptivity Is the Sister of Intention	117	(1)
Synchronicity Answers Clear Questions	118	(1)
Deadlines Intensify the Process of Attraction	119	(1)
Gratitude and Appreciation Raise Your Attracting Frequency	120	(1)
The Ten Principles of Flow	121	(2)
You Always Have a Choice	123	(2)
Pop Quiz on Mastering Flow	125	(6)
Let Yourself Evolve
The Driving Force of Change---Personal Growth	131	(1)
Calling	132	(4)
Where Are You in the Process of Individuation?	136	(1)
Stop Struggling	137	(3)
Meditation for Dissolving the Struggle	140	(1)
Accept Who You Are	140	(3)
Accept Your Strengths as Purposeful	143	(1)
Be Open-minded and Prepared to Act	144	(3)
Limitations May Be Strengths	147	(1)
Follow Your Passion(s)	147	(2)
Your Evolving Self	149	(1)
Early Mixed Messages May Remain as Contradictory Inner Goals	149	(3)
Build on Your Strengths	152	(3)
Develop Mastery
Develop Your Edge, Expand, and Integrate	155	(1)
Continue to Go for the Vision	156	(1)
Commit to Life Not Just Security	157	(3)
Rediscover Your Center When Things Go Wrong	160	(4)
Freeing the Self	164	(1)
Keep Getting Better: Your Best Decade Might Be the Ninth	165	(2)
Align with Your Values	167	(1)
Alignment Continuum	167	(2)
Be Open and Present
Life Is Both a Seesaw and a Spiral: The Eight Worldly Dharmas	169	(2)
Stay Attuned	171	(1)
Be Open to Unexpected Help: Anything Is Possible	172	(1)
Practice Peaceful Waiting	173	(1)
We Shape and Color Events	174	(3)
The Nine-Year Spiral	177	(3)
Dismembered	180	(1)
We Have Guardian Angels	181	(2)
Our Paths Are Lighted When We Ask for Help	183	(1)
Who Knows If It's Good or If It's Bad?	184	(2)
Body, Mind, and Spirit Always Communicate	186	(5)
Give and Receive Support
Reach Out to Others in Places Where You Need Help	191	(2)
Actively Support Yourself	193	(2)
Neither Fight nor Force	195	(1)
The Current Situation Has a Perfection	196	(2)
Sometimes We Have to Turn Our Lives Around Three or Four Times Before Things Click	198	(1)
Good Work Is Permanent	199	(2)
Handle Fear
What Do You Fear?	201	(1)
We All Share Fears of Inadequacy and Unexpected Events	202	(4)
The Ultimate Fear---Not Being Able to Handle the Unknown	206	(1)
The Key to Handling Fear	207	(1)
Find the Limiting Belief	208	(2)
The Good News	210	(1)
Use Your Time Wisely	210	(2)
When You Make a Decision	212	(2)
Move Forward
Take Care of Business, Let the Universe Handle the Details	214	(3)
Return to the Vision	217	(2)
When You Feel Anxious Reset Your Thinking	219	(2)
Be Willing to Get Smart	221	(2)
Be Willing to Experience the Discomfort of Change	223	(1)
Go Where You Fear	224	(1)
Work Through Personal Issues	225	(2)
Take Responsibility	227	(2)
Start Somewhere	229	(1)
Avoid Either/Or Thinking	230	(4)
Lean into Resistance	234	(4)
Become Prosperous
Take Charge of Your Money	238	(3)
Review Old Messages	241	(1)
Replace Fear with Clarity	241	(1)
Develop the Four Capacities	242	(1)
Be Willing to Make Changes	242	(1)
Get Clear About Income, Expenses, and True Needs	243	(2)
Develop Positive Beliefs About Real Security	245	(1)
Take Consistent, Sustainable Action	245	(2)
Select a Benchmark So You'll Know When You've Arrived	247	(1)
Recognize Invisibility and Denial	248	(1)
Reframe Your Problem	249	(2)
Switch Roles to Create New Patterns	251	(2)
Become a Millionaire	253	(2)
Find Role Models and Mentors	255	(1)
Take Action	256	(4)
Keys to Abundant Living and Financial Harmony	260	(3)
Embrace the Transitions of Mystery: Love, Loss, and Death
Changes Occur and Love is an Eternal Connection	263	(1)
Life is a Mystery School	264	(3)
Love and Ladybugs	267	(1)
Healing from the Suicide of a Loved One	268	(2)
Intervention and the Power of Grace	270	(3)
Loss as an Open Door	273	(3)
The Teachings of Grief	276	(1)
Emotional Dramas Disappear	277	(1)
Give Yourself Time to Grieve	277	(1)
Nothing Happens Without God's Knowledge	278	(5)
Spiritual Contact Expands Our Reality	283	(2)
We Keep Evolving and Changing in the Spiritual Plane	285	(2)
Epilogue	287	(2)
Notes	289	(8)
Index	297