When Your Father Dies : How a Man Deals with the Loss of His Father

by BARTON, B. & D. VEERMAN

• ISBN13: 9780785263661
• ISBN10: 0785263667
• Format: Nonspecific Binding
• Copyright: 2003-09-18
• Publisher: Harpercollins Christian Pub

Summary

Experiencing the death of a parent is a traumatic experience for anyone. For men, though, the death of a father is uniquely and deeply traumatic. Whether or not a father and son are close in life, they are undeniably connected-and this is acutely evident to a man when his father dies. At that moment, a man realizes how much of his identity has been defined by his father. The powerful emotions and life adjustments that follow Dad's passing catch most men completely off guard.Authors Dave Veerman and Bruce Barton both experienced the life-altering deaths of their own fathers, and in When Your Father Dies they share not only their experiences but also the experience of more than sixty men, including Max Lucado, Chuck Colson, Hank Hannegraaff, and Bill Hybels. They also include insight and practical advice from professional counselors to prepare readers for the emotional struggles that accompany the death of a father.Veerman and Barton's biblical perspective on grief and long-term life adjustments, along with important sidebars and probing discussion questions, will help men understand their emotions, heal other damaged relationships, and even change the way they parent their own children. Many women will want to read the book so that they can understand the complex emotions and changes the men they care about are going through.

Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION	xi
CHAPTER 1 Reality Check: Acknowledging the Truth	1	(14)
CHAPTER 2 The Shock: Sensing the Surprisingly Wide Range and Power of Emotions	15	(16)
CHAPTER 3 Aftershocks: Experiencing Emotional Waves	31	(18)
CHAPTER 4 The Tallest Tree: Feeling Alone and Vulnerable	49	(14)
CHAPTER 5 Mortality Exposed: Realizing That Life Is Short	63	(14)
CHAPTER 6 Loss of Audience : Missing the One Who Cheered Us On	77	(22)
CHAPTER 7 Powershift: Receiving the Mantle	99	(18)
CHAPTER 8 Over the Shoulder: Charting Our Own Course	117	(22)
CHAPTER 9 Sensing the Legacy: Knowing What We Have Received and What We Can Pass On	139	(20)
CHAPTER 10 Facing the Future: Preparing the Next Generation	159	(14)
CONCLUSION Final Words from the Men We Interviewed	173	(6)
APPENDIX A Biblical References to Fathers and Sons	179	(10)
APPENDIX B Father Films	189	(10)
NOTES	199	(2)
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS	201	(2)
ABOUT THE AUTHORS	203