When Your Kids Push Your Buttons And What You Can Do About It

by Harris, Bonnie

• ISBN13: 9780446692854
• ISBN10: 0446692859
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2004-07-01
• Publisher: Grand Central Publishing

Summary

In the bestselling tradition of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, here is the first book that answers the questions 'Why do my kids push my buttons?' and 'How can I stop it from happening?' It's a given-kids push their parents buttons like nobody else can. Too many parents can be provoked to react with harmful anger, and children learn to manipulate their parents' emotions repeatedly, resulting in unhealthy life-long patterns. WHEN YOUR KIDS PUSH YOUR BUTTONS shows parents that it is their ideas and perceptions that push their own buttons and provoke the 'road rage of parenting.' When parents take responsibility for their reactions and listen to what their child's behavior is telling them, the child becomes the teacher to the parent. Filled with anecdotes from real families, this book is quickly joining the list of parenting classics.

Author Biography

Bonnie Harris, M.S.Ed., is a parent educator, speaker, counselor, and coach who received her master's degree from Bank Street College in New York City. The mother of two grown children, she lives with her husband in New Hampshire

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. xix
Something Old
The Road Rage of Parenting	p. 3
What's Your Agenda?	p. 12
Why Kids Are Parent-Deaf	p. 22
Why Do I Keep Doing That?	p. 37
High Hopes: The Standards We Live By	p. 55
Hidden Triggers	p. 70
Don't Take It Personally--They're Not Out to Get You!	p. 85
What Keeps You Stuck in Old Ruts?	p. 98
The Buttons
The Button Stories	p. 113
The Approval Button	p. 117
The Control Button	p. 129
The Appreciation Button	p. 141
The Fix-It Button	p. 152
The Responsibility Button	p. 164
The Incompetence Button	p. 176
The Guilt Button	p. 188
The Resentment Button	p. 202
Something New
Defusing Your Buttons	p. 217
Just When It Feels So Hopeless...	p. 233
Taking Responsibility for Your Anger	p. 246
Your Child Is Your Teacher	p. 258
The Light at the End of the Tunnel	p. 274
Appendix	p. 277
Suggested Reading	p. 283
Index	p. 285
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