Why Am I Like This? The Reason You Keep Getting Stuck in the Same Relationship Patterns--and How to Break Free

by Zohar, Sabrina; Durvasula, Ramani

• ISBN13: 9780593994849
• ISBN10: 0593994841
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2026-10-13
• Publisher: Penguin Life
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Summary

From the popular dating and relationship coach and host of The Sabrina Zohar Show comes a no-BS roadmap to rewriting the patterns that are hijacking your love life—so you can finally create the love you deserve.

Why do I keep dating the same type of person? Why do I spiral when someone doesn’t text me back? Why can’t I stop accepting crumbs from the relationships in my life?

Why am I like this?

If this sounds like you, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. These frustrating patterns of people-pleasing, questioning your worth, avoidance, or reactivity—what Sabrina Zohar calls your Bullshit Blueprint—are actually survival strategies your body learned to keep you safe. But as she reveals, they're also keeping you from the things you truly want.

With her signature unfiltered advice rooted in psychology, neuroscience, and nervous system work, Why Am I Like This? shows you how to create a new, BS-free blueprint for love and life, one based on self-trust and conscious choice instead of outdated patterns of behavior.

But you can’t dismantle what you don’t understand. Sharing stories from her coaching work and own, raw journey of unraveling and rebuilding, Sabrina walks you step-by-step through the process of rewiring the unconscious programming that’s keeping you stuck, including:

• How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs form your unique Bullshit Blueprint
• The four survival responses and how they secretly drive your dating behavior
• How to break the toxic cycles of feeling “too much,” “not enough,” or impossible to love
• Why the dating myths we’ve been taught are actually making us reject people who could be good for us
• Practical tools to regulate your emotions, set boundaries, and finally choose yourself

Sabrina doesn’t just give you tools, she gives it to you straight: You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself. You can stop repeating the past and start showing up more authentically and consciously in your relationships. Watch how that changes everything.

Author Biography

Sabrina Zohar is a dating and relationship coach, an entrepreneur, and the unapologetic voice behind The Sabrina Zohar Show podcast. She has been featured in Vogue, the Los Angeles times, Marie Claire, Vice, People, and Huff Post, as well as appeared on shows such as ABC News, The Drew Barrymore Show, Tamron Hall, and Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani.