Why Boys Don't Talk and Why We Care : A Mother's Guide to Connection

by Shaffer, Susan Morris; Gordon, Linda Perlman

• ISBN13: 9780967961101
• ISBN10: 0967961106
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2000-07-01
• Publisher: Mid Atlantic Equity Consortium Inc

Summary

Explains why boys tend to supress their emotions and helps mothers and other individuals who work with young males to understand their lack of communication and range of emotions.

Table of Contents

Introduction	1	(2)
Chapter 1:	3	(10)
Why Boys Don't Talk and Why We Care
Chapter 2:	13	(10)
A New Vision: Individuation and Connection
Do We Push Our Sons Away?
Chapter 3:	23	(8)
New Challenges for Building Connections
What Can We Do to Foster Closeness?
Chapter 4:	31	(12)
The Veil of Masculinity
What Is the Impact of ``Boys Will Be Boys''?
Chapter 5:	43	(16)
What Statistics Tell Us
What Is It Really Like to Be a Boy Today?
Chapter 6:	59	(20)
Focus on Adolescent Males of Color
What Cultural Factors Affect the Development of African American, Asian, and Latino Teenage Boys to Form and Sustain Connections with Parents, Schools, and Friends? (with the assistance of Lynson Moore Beaulieu)
Chapter 7:	79	(6)
A Work in Progress
How Do We Create More Than Just a ``Few Good Men''?
Chapter 8:	85	(8)
Somewhere between Superhero and Geek
How Do We Make It Okay for Boys to Break Out of the Box?
Chapter 9:	93	(8)
The Debate about Nature Versus Nurture
How Powerful Is Biology and Its Impact on Behavior and Learning?
Chapter 10:	101	(10)
Historical Perspective: The Myth of the ``Good Old Days''
Do We Want Things the Way They Were?
Chapter 11:	111	(12)
Strategies for Parents: A Baker's Dozen
Where Do We Go From Here?
Chapter 12:	123	(4)
The Power of Connection
How Can We Redefine Masculinity?
Appendix A:	127	(1)
Positive Parenting---The Law of Return
Appendix B:	128	(3)
Overview of Focus Groups
Appendix C:	131	(1)
Focus Group Interview Guide---Adolescents
Appendix D:	132	(1)
Focus Group Interview Guide---Parents
Appendix E:	133	(3)
Stages of Normal Adolescent Development
Appendix F:	136	(2)
Listening to Boys' Voices---Results of 1998 McLean Hospital
Study of Boys' Self-Esteem and Definitions of Masculinity
Appendix G:	138	(2)
How Vulnerable Is My Teen to Depression?
Appendix H:	140	(1)
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 1999
Violence Fact Sheet
Appendix I:	141	(1)
Guns, Gangs, Harmful Threats, and Injury Are Part of Teen Lives---The 1997-98 National Parents' Resource Institute for Drug Education (PRIDE) Survey of Grades 6-12
Appendix J:	142	(1)
What Can You Do if You Suspect Your Child Is Involved in a Gang?
References	143	(11)
Bibliography	154