Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship

by Bernstein, Jeffrey; Magee, Susan

• ISBN13: 9781569244753
• ISBN10: 1569244758
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2003-11-03
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

Summary

Most people think that poor communication is the reason why so many relationships end, but it's actually the way we learn to think about our partners and our problems that kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication. In Why Can't You Read My Mind?, psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein reveals-for the first time-the nine toxic thought patterns at work in virtually every relationship, and shows couples how these distorted, negative, exaggerated thoughts can poison their love and end their union. With warmth and wisdom, Bernstein offers a simple yet powerful approach for breaking the toxic thinking cycle and helps readers establish new and more positive thinking habits for solving their problems and dealing with the stresses of everyday life. Packed with practical advice and valuable insights, Why Can't You Read My Mind? makes it possible for couples to remain in or return to loving relationships permanently, and points the way toward finding a truer kind of love with one another for the first time. Perfect for couples wanting to maintain their loving relationship as well as for those working to restore their love, this book provides the missing link, enabling couples to beat the relationship odds and sustain a long-term relationship.

Author Biography

Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist specializing in couples and family therapy Susan Magee is an award-winning writer of fiction and nonfiction and coauthor of several books

Table of Contents

Introduction: Whatever Happened to Happily Ever After?	1	(8)
A Happier Relationship Is All in Your Head	9	(16)
Toxic Thoughts: The Silent Relationship Killer	25	(11)
The Nine Toxic Thought Patterns That Ruin Relationshps	36	(17)
Your MAP Back of Love	53	(16)
The Better Alternative to Toxic Thinking	69	(24)
Practice Makes Not Perfect, but Much Better	93	(18)
Purging Emotional Ghosts: An Advanced Lesson in Beating Toxic Thoughts	111	(16)
The Nontoxic Glue That Holds Your Relationship Togther	127	(21)
The Eight Rules for Fighting Fairly	148	(23)
Eleven Ways to Stay Back in Love	171	(14)
At Last, Real Romance!	185	(18)
Conclusion	203	(2)
Acknowledgments	205	(2)
Index	207