Working with You Is Killing Me : Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work

by Crowley, Katherine; Elster, Kathi

• ISBN13: 9780446576741
• ISBN10: 0446576743
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2006-03-07
• Publisher: Grand Central Pub

Summary

If you find yourself getting fed up and frustrated with a colleague whose incompetence is driving you crazy, a boss who gets angry when you're not a mind reader, or an employee who habitually challenges your authority, chances are you're caught in an emotional trap in the workplace. Quit complaining and do something! Freeing yourself is easier than you think-and you don't have to quit or fire anyone to do it. The solution is simple: Take control of your own response. In this pragmatic and insightful guide, psychotherapist Katherine Crowley and nationally recognized business consultant Kathi Elster combine their expertise and twenty years of research to teach you how to unhook from upsetting situations and eliminate your workplace woes step by illuminating step.Through eye-opening quizzes, real-life case examples, and field-tested strategies, you'll quickly learn how to identify and handle any relationship that holds you back on the job. With your newfound emotional skills, you'll be able to:* Manage an ill-tempered boss before he or she explodes* Detach from annoying coworkers whose irritating habits ruin the day* Defend yourself from idea-pilfering rivals* Get out of the grip of toxic relationships* Protect your personal and professional territory from "boundary busters"* Break out of the limiting roles that box you in* Parent your difficult employees to get the results you want...and much more.The toughest part of any job is dealing with the people around you. Thanks to WORKING WITH YOU IS KILLING ME, that just got a whole lot easier.EMPOWER YOURSELF AT THE OFFICE WITH THIS ESSENTIAL HANDBOOK FOR MANAGING YOUR WORK LIFE

Table of Contents

Introduction	xi
1 Change Your Reaction, Change Your Life	1	(22)
2 The Business of Boundaries—Protecting Yourself at Work	23	(24)
3 If the Role Fits, You Don't Have to Wear It	47	(26)
4 Haven't We Met Before? Fatal Attractions at Work	73	(30)
5 Managing Up—Taking Control	103	(24)
6 Difficult and Extreme Bosses—How to Keep Your Sanity	127	(29)
7 Managing Down—Business Parenting	156	(38)
8 Corporate Culture—Is This the Right Place for You?	194	(29)
Index	223	(10)
About the Authors	233