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Loyola Univ., New Orleans, LA. Practical, programmed workbook designed for counselors to help abusers recognize and deal with the issues underlying their behavior. Topics include: defining abuse, creating trusting relationships, giving and receiving respect, taking responsibil- ity for actions, and creating effective communica- tion. Softcover.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

vii

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PREFACE

ix

Introduction for Group Leaders

ix

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Introduction for Group Members

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1 DEFINING ABUSE AND BATTERING

1

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Exercise 1.1. Bobby's Story

1

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Four Forms of Abuse

4

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2 ACHIEVING NONVIOLENCE

7

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Exercise 2.1. Continuum of Controlling Behaviors

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Exercise 2.2. Personal Continuum of Controlling Behaviors

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Exercise 2.3. Common Bonds of the Experience of Violence

16

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Exercise 2.4. Article Homework Assignment

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3 EXPLORING AND DEFEATING INTIMIDATION

23

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Exercise 3.1. Adam's Story

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Exercise 3.2. Supper Time!

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Exercise 3.3. Roger's Story

29

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Exercise 3.4. Time-Out vs. Walking Away

32

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4 CREATING A TRUSTING RELATIONSHIP

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Exercise 4.1. Sam's Story

40

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Exercise 4.2. Wall of Obstacles to Trust

42

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Exercise 4.3. Trust Tube

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Exercise 4.4. Exploring Group Trust

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5 GIVING AND RECEIVING RESPECT

51

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Exercise 5.1. Emotional Bank Account

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Exercise 5.2. Fear and Respect

55

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Exercise 5.3. Respect Letter

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Exercise 5.4. Group Respect

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Exercise 5.5. Guillermo's Story

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6 ACCOUNTABILITY: TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELF

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Exercise 6.1. Defining Accountability

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Exercise 6.2. Your Excuses/Your Behavior

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Exercise 6.3. Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Accountability

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Exercise 6.4. Defenses Against Accountability

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Exercise 6.5. Accountability Editor

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Exercise 6.6. Jim's Story

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7 MAINTAINING POSITIVE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS

89

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Exercise 7.1. Sexual Respect Behavior Checklists

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Exercise 7.2. Sexual Mythology

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Exercise 7.3. Rape and Male Activism

98

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Exercise 7.4. Exploring Intimacy

105

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Exercise 7.5. Lonnie's Position on Pornography

108

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8 NEGOTIATING A PARTNERSHIP

111

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Exercise 8.1. Partnership Issues

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Exercise 8.2. What Makes a Good Partnership?

116

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Exercise 8.3. Money, Money, Money

118

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Exercise 8.4. How I Feel About Money

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Exercise 8.5. Negotiating Time

123

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Exercise 8.6. Working on a Budget

126

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Exercise 8.7. Frankie's Story

130

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9 COOPERATING THROUGH GOOD COMMUNICATION

133

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Exercise 9.1.. Rules of Communication

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Exercise 9.2. Reflective Listening

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Exercise 9.3. Assertiveness

143

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Exercise 9.4. Editing Rick's Dialogue

150

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Exercise 9.5. Bill's Story

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10 PARENTING: HOW TO RELATE TO YOUR CHILDREN

155

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Exercise 10.1. The Impact of Domestic Violence on Children

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Exercise 10.2. Exploring Your Parenting Style

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Exercise 10.3. Encouragement vs. Discouragement

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Exercise 10.4. Punishment vs. Discipline

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Exercise 10.5. Zack's Story

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CONCLUSION

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Write Your Own Story

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Poem of Hope for Change

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REFERENCES

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INDEX

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ABOUT THE AUTHORS

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